Text/Liuli Subi
Recent reports of various school bullying and juvenile delinquency are alarming. These constantly emerging events have aroused people's attention to family education.
The well-throwing incident drew strong condemnation online. Some netizens believe that seven-year-old children should know right and wrong, while psychologists point out that the moral development of seven-year-old children is not yet mature. Although we can understand this view, seven years old is already a primary school student, and if they cannot yet distinguish between good and evil, it is the responsibility of parents.
If seven years old is too early, then a group of teenagers bullying thirteen-year-old girls resulting in irreversible injuries to the body, such a view of right and wrong, whose responsibility? It can't help but make people reflect: do modern parents neglect to educate their children about right and wrong and the concepts of good and evil?
Letting children have the right values is an important part of family education.
It is an indisputable fact that modern people's lives are stressful, but in addition to being busy with livelihood, work and career, should parents also think about their children's character education? Especially so that children understand what is good and what is evil? What is achievable and what is not?
Learning knowledge can be sent to school, cultivating hobbies can be sent to off-campus institutions, but what children need to grow up is the concept of good and evil, basic morality and character of being a person, and correct three views, which are the responsibilities and obligations of parents. Because if there is a problem with the child's moral character, it will not only affect his future life, but also have serious consequences for society.
Therefore, it is crucial to teach children the correct "view of right and wrong and the view of good and evil". Violence, bullying and other undesirable behaviors are increasingly common in modern society, and these behaviors often stem from an imbalance in children's perceptions of good and evil.
First, the current situation of imbalance in the concept of good and evil
According to the survey data of six provinces across the country, the incidence of school bullying is 32.4%. And related search big data shows that "school violence" is the most concerned issue.
And the causes of school violence? It may be hard to imagine that it is all caused by very small contradictions. It may also be due to deficiencies in students' values and behavioral norms, which lead to deviations in their perceptions and attitudes towards violence.
It is also related to the social environment, different family education methods, values, and children's early exposure to online culture.
For example, in the way of education, some families have always punched and kicked their children if they are disobedient. And some children, who are too well protected by their parents, are unbearable to speak heavily to them. There are differences in behavioral cognition, and contradictions are inevitable. The way to solve the contradiction is also different, those with emotional intelligence and a mind will resolve the contradiction, and those with a narrow mind will escalate the contradiction.
However, the impact of school bullying is great, which will hinder students' physical health, mental health, and personal integrity, and may also bring permanent damage to children's spiritual growth.
Second, the reasons for neglecting to teach the "view of right and wrong" and the "view of good and evil"
The current lack of education on moral values such as right and wrong, good and evil concepts is caused by many factors.
1. Family environment reasons: The unstable family environment caused by conflict, divorce, single-parent families and left-behind children will eventually lead to minors' moral lack and even criminal behavior.
2. Parents attach importance to grades and neglect character education: Modern parents' fast-paced lifestyle and emphasis on academic performance exceed character education, often leading to neglect of moral education for children.
3. Lack of supervision of minors' use of mobile phones: Minors are increasingly using mobile phones, Internet celebrities are flooded, low-quality short videos are flooded, bad information is widely disseminated, and there is a lack of correct moral value guidance. Moreover, children lack self-discipline and unclear moral concepts, and are extremely vulnerable to bad guidance and illegal and immoral behavior.
According to data released by the Internet Information Research Center for Minors, the number of minor Internet users in China has exceeded 170 million, and the Internet penetration rate of urban children is as high as 93.9%, and that of rural children has reached 90.3%.
4. School education and supervision are insufficient: Schools have moral rule of law classes, but they do not attend many and do not pay enough attention. According to the child's reaction, they are occupied by other main subjects.
5. The confusion of social moral norms, the lack of network supervision and guidance, and the negative impact of entertainment culture, including violent games, will lead to minors' lack of self-discipline, unclear moral values, and engage in illegal and immoral behavior.
The upward trend of juvenile delinquency in recent years further demonstrates the need for appropriate education and guidance to help children develop a sense of right and wrong and stay away from violence and crime.
According to data released by the public security department, the number of juvenile crimes in China has accounted for more than 12% of the total number of crimes in the country, and juvenile crimes are showing a trend of younger age.
These cases have sounded the alarm for us, and correct education and guidance can help children establish a correct view of good and evil, and stay away from violence and crime.
Third, the importance of the concepts of right and wrong and the concepts of good and evil
It is important to educate children about right and wrong and good and evil, because it can help children establish correct values and morals, improve self-control, responsibility and empathy, and cultivate a healthy psychological state and positive personality qualities.
At the same time, studies have shown that children with a correct view of right and wrong and good and evil are more likely to have good relationships with others, have higher emotional intelligence, and are more likely to succeed.
The correct view of right and wrong and the view of good and evil can help children distinguish between good behavior and bad behavior, which can help children learn to distinguish between good behavior and bad behavior, understand what is good and what is evil, make correct decisions, and avoid making mistakes and regret.
At the same time, teaching children a correct view of right and wrong and good and evil can help them develop self-control, and children will learn to discipline themselves, remain calm and rational in the face of challenges and temptations, and follow correct moral standards and norms. Do not act impulsively.
In addition, educating children a correct view of right and wrong and good and evil can also help them strengthen their sense of responsibility and empathy, and children will learn to recognize the impact of their actions on others and take responsibility for their own actions. At the same time, they will learn how to understand and care about the feelings of others, and experience the joy and joy of doing good.
Fourth, the correct specific plan: how to teach children the correct view of right and wrong and the concept of good and evil?
To educate children about the correct view of right and wrong and the concept of good and evil, the following measures need to be taken:
1. By educating children through reading, storytelling, and examples, parents can use interesting stories and real-life examples to teach children the correct view of right and wrong and the concept of good and evil.
Many parents take their children to read, just to read for the sake of reading, not to guide. As everyone knows, behind those excellent children's literature, there is an extremely correct world view, values and outlook on life. All are suitable for children to learn.
Guide children to be a good child who is kind and honest, knows respect, has a sense of responsibility, has courage and perseverance.
2. Timely correction of daily words and deeds: cultivate children's moral character and educate children to correct the concept of good and evil. Parents should pay more attention to their children's daily behavior and speech, and detect their children's bad behaviors in time and correct them.
When the child first appears to hit others, swear, do not know how to respect others, and bully the weak, it should be stopped in time and told the child that such behavior is not advisable. Eliminate bad behavior from the beginning and start small.
Do not do evil for the small, do not do the good small.
3. Establish a positive family atmosphere: Family atmosphere and close relationships have a great impact on children's character education. Parents should make their children feel respected and cared for by family members. This helps children develop positive personality qualities and good behavior habits. Educate children about correct values and codes of conduct, and provide a harmonious family environment for children.
How the family atmosphere of a family is: filial to parents, brothers and friends are respectful, such a family education of children, outside, will also be people who understand good and evil, know right from wrong, and have pure character.
5. Develop your child's social skills. Parents should also help their children build good social skills, which includes teaching children honesty, how to respect others, care for others, share and cooperate, and how to deal with conflicts and problems. We should let children know the meaning and value of these values and actively practice them in life.
Do unto others as you would have them do to you.
6. Home-school jointly restrain children's bad behavior, communicate with teachers at school in time, and when children make mistakes or make bad behaviors, parents need to correct and restrain in time, or let teachers educate. So that the child can recognize the consequences of the wrong behavior. At the same time, parents should also give their children advice and guidance on what the right behavior should look like.
7. Establish clear rules and reward and punishment systems: rewards and punishments should be measured, and children should be encouraged to do good. When children make the right decisions and behaviors, they should be given affirmation and rewards. If you do something wrong, you must be punished, otherwise the child thinks that it is not a big deal and will make it next time.
8. Inspire empathy: Children should be taught how to care and empathize with the feelings of others. We can allow them to experience this feeling in their daily lives, for example, to help others or express concern for others. When the child shows the behavior of caring for others, be sure to affirm him in time: you are really a caring child, you really know how to care about people! You are so caring!
9. Supervise the use of the Internet, popularize legal knowledge for students, and the Internet and social media have a great influence on children. Parents should supervise their children's online use and teach them proper usage behavior.
FOR EXAMPLE, IF YOU SET UP A HEALTHY USE OF MOBILE PHONE IPAD, YOU CAN ONLY PLAY FOR ONE OR TWO HOURS TO AUTOMATICALLY SHUT DOWN. As well as check if the platform they use is normal, the games they play, the videos they brush, whether there is a violent negative energy, etc.
10. Strengthen supervision: Government departments should strengthen supervision of minors, establish and complete mechanisms for preventing juvenile delinquency and social security mechanisms, and increase the intensity of cracking down on and punishing juvenile criminal acts. All sectors of society should increase their care and assistance for vulnerable groups, and reduce the possibility that minors will turn to the road of crime due to living difficulties and family problems.
11. Strengthen their own safety awareness: Parents should strengthen their children's safety awareness education, so that children know how to avoid danger, and prevent children from becoming victims or perpetrators of crime. Teach children to protect themselves.
12. Guide children to participate in public welfare activities: Children should be encouraged to actively participate in beneficial activities and social occasions to develop their social skills and sense of responsibility.
To educate your children well is to contribute to society.
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