Do you know what the first half of the sentence "don't steam steamed buns fight for breath" is

Image source: Natto House

01

These two days deal with a student incident. It goes something like this: students participate in a competition together, and then there are some communication misunderstandings, and then there are some personnel changes, and both sides feel that the other is doing something wrong.

I will not elaborate on the details, and when the parties to this incident go back to describe these things about themselves after five years, they will not add more content than my words. The problem is that both sides argue, think the other has a problem, and demand an apology from the other.

What kind of situation did this matter develop in the end? For almost a week, the students involved did not have the heart to go to class, and the students who were preparing for the exam did not have the heart to review, and finally made trouble finding a counselor. When we intervened in it, we found that in the process of dealing with the incident, the students had made a lot of very inappropriate actions under the impulsive emotions. These subsequent acts have nothing to do with the event itself. However, these acts have further deepened the contradictions between the two sides.

In the end, the three counselors, for two consecutive days, did almost nothing else, and finally got to 9 o'clock in the evening, which was only a "fifty boards each" way of dealing with it.

02

I know that for the final result, in fact, every student is particularly unconvinced.

I actually write this article to remind you from another perspective: regardless of the identity of the person concerned, you evaluate this matter from the perspective of a bystander, is anyone right or wrong from the beginning to the end? Counselors are not judges, and I don't think we should have value judgments, we're just responsible for helping you build a platform for communication and then leaving it to you to deal with each other. But on the spot, did you come up with effective communication?

Dealing with this, you have spent so much time, energy, and manpower, and it has nothing to do with the results of your original desire to achieve good results in the competition. And the value of the payment that everyone has always emphasized, how many unrelated people have paid their time and energy for this matter, and these efforts have not created any value for the event.

It is the product of emotional coercion.

Every student who talks about things is the right thing, or is it the right person?

03

Once heard such a story:

On September 7, 1965, the World Billiards Championship Tournament was held in New York, USA. Louis Fox is a godsend, his score is far ahead, just a few more points can secure the championship. It was at this point that he spotted a fly landing on the main ball, and he waved the fly away. However, when he leaned down to hit the ball, the fly flew back again, and he got up again to drive away the fly, and then leaned down to hit the ball. But the fly seemed to be deliberately opposing him, and as soon as he returned to the table, he flew back to the main ball, causing the surrounding audience to laugh. Louis Fox was in such a bad mood that he finally lost his mind and angrily hit the fly with his club, which touched the main ball, and the referee sentenced him to hit the ball, and he lost a round of opportunities. Louis Fox lost one after another, while his opponent John Dealy became more and more courageous and finally won the championship. (Source network for this paragraph)

The truth of this story, I checked a lot of information, can not verify. This game is real, and so are these two players. So will this story be true? Yes may exist.

At the 2004 Athens Olympics and the 2008 Beijing Olympics, shooter American athlete Matthew Emmons lost the gold medal in the final, leading the second place by a large score. When playing sports, we often see such a plot: the big score is behind the situation to overtake.

You said that they are two people who have reached the top, and the strength level is similar, where does the change in the result come from?

Master the move, who can be more calm. Whoever is better.

04

"Don't steam steamed steamed buns!"

We've all heard this saying. Many people grit their teeth in anger and say this sentence, thinking that this is a strong reason for their emotional catharsis. But can the actions we do under the domination of emotions really bring good results?

"Don't steam steamed steamed buns" is actually only half of the colloquialism, the second half of the sentence.

"Sold the child to buy a cage drawer, do not steam steamed

Even if you sell your children, you have to buy a cage drawer for steaming steamed steamed buns, but at this point, you can't even afford to buy a ball of noodles, you can only steam a breath, so you are ruined, just to fight for face. But what did you lose when you earned this moment's face?

If it is me, if I really want to fight, I will endure this moment of anger, take this breath as my action force, insist on working hard, go up, to struggle, not to gamble, not to be resentful, not to be stingy, just to remember the motivation that comes with this moment, to persevere in action.

You said I couldn't steam steamed steamed buns, so I opened a steamed bun shop.

You say I can't win you, and I beat you with dignity.

No matter how you treat me, I will achieve what I want, no matter what. This tone should be arrogant, not gambling.

Thanks for reading support, welcome to forward likes, reprint please contact the background authorization