We often say that the greatest love in the world is maternal love. For children, mothers will always give, give and sacrifice unconditionally.
But there are many people in the world, not all mothers are great, and not all mother-daughter, mother-child relationships are very harmonious.
For example, the star Zhang Shaohan has already turned against her mother, and she also said that she would not forgive her mother. Obviously, he is the closest person in the world, why would he go to a strange road?
In fact, this has a lot to do with Zhang Shaohan's mother's tireless behavior of "destroying women".
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Zhang Shaohan was born in Taoyuan City, Taiwan Province in 1982, and has a younger brother and younger sister below. As the eldest daughter, Zhang Shaohan has a sense of responsibility since she was a child and takes good care of her younger siblings.
When Zhang Shaohan was 12 years old, his family immigrated to Canada, but the happy life he dreamed of was soon shattered.
In foreign countries, the father who is not good at business failure, and he has a heart attack, his health is not good, and he cannot support his family, so his personality begins to become more and more irritable, and he punches and kicks his three children when he is not satisfied, and vents all the unsatisfactory life on the children. Sometimes, he was drunk and shouted that he would light the gas and blow up the house.
Zhang Shaohan took on the responsibility of the eldest sister under such circumstances, in order to subsidize the family, she washed the car, delivered takeaways, set up stalls to sell clothes, and worked as a waiter in the milk tea shop...
At this time, Zhang Shaohan, although his life was poor, his family was working hard together, looking forward to a better future, and imagining that life would get better and better.
Perhaps this part-time work day, although it is hard, but Zhang Shaohan feels that it is to pay for his family, and he is also willing to eat.
But later, when the family became richer and richer, they became enemies because of money and gradually drifted away.
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In 2003, Zhang Shaohan became famous by relying on the TV series "Dolphin Bay Lovers", and soon she developed her film and television songs and became a popular diva in the music industry, constantly participating in TV series and movies, and the real fame and fortune were both gained.
In 2007, Zhang Shaohan's career reached its peak, and at the beginning of the year, she went to the Spring Festival Gala and sang her masterpiece "Invisible Wings", which was really popular all over the country.
But it was also this year that Zhang Shaohan's life, because of his mother's various strange behaviors, completely fell into a low point. First, the mother, who was over a hundred and a half years old, was exposed to cheating on her colleagues.
On April 4, 2007, Zhang Shaohan's mother, Kang Rou-yi, was photographed kissing South Korean singer Jang Ho-chul in the street late at night, which put Zhang Shaohan in a very embarrassing situation.
First, the mother Jiang Rouyi was cheating in marriage, at that time Zhang Shaohan's parents did not divorce, his father was treated and recuperated in Canada, and his mother, who was forty or fifty years old, was looking for fun in Taiwan, which was a very shameful, humiliating, and unacceptable thing for any child.
Second, Zhang Haozhe is Zhang Shaohan's disciple and colleague. The mother cheated on her colleague and talked about the sister-brother relationship, which is very embarrassing for anyone, not to mention the world's well-known.
This incident was devastating to Zhang Shaohan's image, that era was still very conservative, especially in Taiwan, women are still very traditional after marriage, with a "good wife and good mother" culture, the mother cheated, making Zhang Shaohan very uncomfortable.
She came out at the first time to apologize, saying, "All this is because I am Zhang Shaohan, making it difficult for my mother to have normal social activities." "It means that the mother is in order to accompany herself in Taiwan, so she can't reunite with her father, resulting in the breakdown of her parents' feelings."
However, two years later, Zhang Shaohan admitted that he "only knew about it when he read the report" and did not know about his mother's love affair with the little master.
The mother's cheating made Zhang Shaohan laughed at by the public for a long time, and his career was also affected, but the key to the two tearing their faces was money.
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After Zhang Shaohan became famous, the family's living standards have been greatly improved. Zhang Shaohan is also very generous to his family, providing them with food and clothing. But Zhang Shaohan's filial piety and money supply have fostered the greed and laziness of his parents.
Zhang Shaohan's mother, because her daughter earns money easily, does not have her own career, spends money lavishly, and is also addicted to gambling, squandering her daughter's hard-earned money. After the failure of his father's career, he also did not work for many years because of heart disease, and he relied on Zhang Shaohan to raise him.
As Zhang Shaohan's agent, In order to make her daughter earn a lot of money to satisfy her endless desires, Zhang Shaohan constantly forced Zhang Shaohan to take on some commercial performances and activities that she was unwilling to participate in. The stubborn Zhang Shaohan is unwilling to compromise, and Zhang's mother is increasingly dissatisfied with her daughter.
Moreover, Zhang Shaohan's economic control over Zhang Shaohan is also very strict, and the money earned is directly into her account, until the mother and daughter are separated, and Zhang Shaohan has his own account.
Women meet eccentric and selfish parents, and after work, the result of earning money to their parents is that when they want to use money, there is no money available at all.
For example, Zhang Shaohan's money is all in her mother's account, in 2008 she had a heart attack and went abroad for treatment, when she asked her mother for money abroad, Zhang Shaohan's mother was unwilling to give her daughter a lot of money, but instead swept away more than 20 million yuan on the account and moved away from Zhang Shaohan's home.
It can be imagined that he waited for money to treat his illness and save his life, his mother not only did not accompany and care for herself, but took the money to run away, how sad and helpless Zhang Shaohan should be.
After returning from treatment, Zhang Shaohan not only stopped her career, but also poured more black materials at her, such as being accused of being slapped in a nightclub to increase exposure, playing a big name when participating in CCTV programs, refusing to eat box lunches, and assistants scolding CCTV directors. These negative news and rumors of improper private life made her comeback even more difficult.
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In September 2009, Zhang Shaohan's family farce with his parents was finally put on the table, perhaps Because Zhang Shaohan felt that the image had been destroyed by his mother, he simply admitted that the mother and daughter were not in harmony.
Zhang Shaohan first denied the rumor of "dry mother leaving the house", saying that during his medical treatment, his mother ran away from home with his own money, and also stressed that he had fulfilled all the obligations that should be a child." ”
But Zhang's mother obviously did not think that her daughter had fulfilled her maintenance obligations, and she first complained to the media that "Zhang Shaohan suspected that her mother cheated her of her savings and wanted to return the passbook and all the deposits managed by her mother", and it was the daughter who took the initiative not to spend money for herself.
Zhang Shaohan's uncle, uncle and father also came out to join in the fun. According to media reports, Zhang Shaohan's uncle contacted "underworld people" to intimidate Zhang Shaohan and wanted to blackmail more money from his niece.
The father, who has divorced his mother, also joined forces at Zhang Shaohan's concert, publicly accusing his daughter of "abandoning her".
Seeing that her daughter still did not compromise and yield, Zhang's mother contacted her ex-husband, Zhang Shaohan's uncle, grandmother and other relatives, confronted Zhang Shaohan in court, accused Zhang Shaohan of abandoning her, beat up their family, demanded that Zhang Shaohan pay 300,000 monthly alimony, and asked Zhang Shaohan to give her the current mansion villa.
Even Zhang Shaohan's mother and uncle scolded Zhang Shaohan in public on the street, pulling their hair and slapping them like a shrew scolding the street, which is strange and incomprehensible. Until the younger brother couldn't see it and came out to save Zhang Shaohan.
Seeing that "filial piety" could not suppress Zhang Shaohan, Zhang's mother hinted to the outside world that "her daughter made some friends who were not in the same way", saying that her daughter's "sexual orientation was abnormal", and even rumors that she was "drunk and poisonous".
In the face of various rumors and rumors, Zhang Shaohan endured the pain of developing a press conference and took out the hospital's examination report to prove his innocence.
But the dirty water poured by her relatives personally still destroyed Zhang Shaohan's image, and there were always people who felt that her family said that she was not good, she must be bad, otherwise how could the whole family betray her? No matter how she defended, the three became tigers, and Zhang Shaohan was still insulted by thousands of people.
Some media even summarized Zhang Shaohan's "seven deadly sins":
The family farce that lasted for several years greatly hit Zhang Shaohan's image, and the paparazzi squatted around her home for many years to take her "ugly photos", endorsements were terminated, commercial contracts were terminated, and even the company abandoned her, and the snow hid her.
Despite her strong professional ability, her image was damaged, and her career was inevitably destroyed. After all, there are too many capable artists, and no one wants to cooperate with an artist who is full of "stains" and negative rumors, which is too risky.
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It was not until 2018 that Zhang Shaohan returned to the audience's attention with a song "A Diao" on the singer's stage. The best decade of her life was ruined by her mother.
Whose fault is this? In the family dispute between Zhang Shaohan and his mother, outsiders cannot distinguish who is right and who is wrong, and the truth can only be known by themselves.
But motherly kindness will be filial piety. The identity of a parent is not a natural protector, and the mere fact that parenthood does not require unconditional obedience and devotion.
We can't treat them as private tools because they are their own children, ask children to serve themselves unconditionally, use children as tools to make money, and use them as tools to satisfy their own happiness and wishes in life, and kidnap children to pay for their own lives.
There is no love for no reason in the world, nor is there hatred for no reason, Zhang Shaohan is unwilling to forgive his mother, after all, it is because he was hurt too much.