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In the article "Blessings", Lu Xun told the story of Xiang Lin's sister-in-law. Lu Xun used his usual calmness and compassion to shape the life of Xianglin Sister-in-law, her life was full of ups and downs, losing her husband and children, what she could get was the malicious "sympathy" of others, and in the torture of life, Xianglin sister-in-law died at the beginning of the New Year.
When I read Xiang lin sister-in-law when I was young, I always felt that she was eating the evil consequences of herself, nagging every day, lobbying everywhere for her misfortune, and taking the blame for her death; but now when I read Xiang Lin sister-in-law again, my heart is full of sadness, I understand her helplessness and misery, she has never been a funny character, but a tragic character. Her death was not only poor, but also by ugly and distorted human nature.
As an adult, it is also a sad thing to suddenly understand Xiang Lin's sister-in-law.
We live in the world, there are joys and sorrows, no matter at what stage of life, we have endured the test of fate, and the story of Xiang Lin sister-in-law also tells us the truth of these three people.
1. Don't lobby around about your misfortunes, there are very few people who really care about you.
Sister-in-law Xianglin is a female worker in Lu Town, her husband died early, and there is an evil mother-in-law and a little uncle in the family. When she first came to the fourth uncle's house in Luzhen, she was twenty-six or seven years old, and although she experienced the blow of widowhood, Xianglin still maintained her industrious and kind nature, often with a smile on her face, and was still full of hope for life.
Because she is particularly capable, Lu Si's family is very satisfied with her, and Xiang lin has also found her own value in her work.
Unfortunately, the good times did not last long, and Xianglin's sister-in-law was sold to the mountains by her mother-in-law and forced to marry. After marrying, Xianglin's sister-in-law and wife were harmonious and gave birth to a son, originally thought that she could start a new life, but her husband died again, and what was even more pitiful was that her son was also taken by the wolf and lost her life, and she was also driven out of the clan.
Two cruel blows directly knocked Xiang Lin into the abyss, and she lost the hope and hope of being alive.
In order to make a living, Xiang lin's sister-in-law came to Lu Town again, and although Lu Fourth Master felt that she was obscure, he remembered her ability and took her in. But this time the Xianglin sister-in-law who came back was obviously different from before, her hands and feet were not sharp, her reaction was also sluggish, the whole person was dull, there was no smiley face, and Fourth Master Lu was already very tired of her, and at the same time felt that she had corrupted her customs, and resolutely did not let Xianglin sister-in-law touch the sacrificial things.
Sister-in-law Xianglin began to complain to everyone about her misfortune. "I'm so stupid, really..." Each time she began with this, telling the story of her son being taken by a wolf, and at first, people felt deep sympathy for her and even cried with her. But gradually, people no longer felt that Xianglin was pitiful, but began to get tired of her nagging.
Where would she know that her misfortune and sorrow had been chewed and appreciated by everyone for many days, and had long since turned into slag, only worthy of boredom and scorn.
The sorrows and joys of the world are not the same, "empathy" is only superficial, and the people who really know you are only their own family members and close friends. So, if you have misfortune, don't lobby around and complain everywhere, because you don't know if the other person is really sympathetic or secretly laughing behind your back.
Vulnerable people will lobby around for their misfortunes, and strong people will only grow louder and stronger.
2. No matter how bad the mood, you can't lose the ability to make a living.
Everyone living in the world must have their own ability to live and die. What can maintain Xianglin's sister-in-law's food and clothing is also the income of her own female worker, but after Xianglin's sister-in-law returned to Luzhen, she has been indulging in her own sadness, her work is no longer flexible, her response is more and more sluggish, and there is no smile on the corpse-like face all day, which quickly provokes the dissatisfaction of the owner.
Later, because Fourth Master Lu had not allowed her to participate in the sacrifice, Xianglin Sister-in-law listened to Mother Liu's suggestion and went to the temple to donate the threshold, she thought that this would "atone for her sins", but the owner still did not let her fiddle with the sacrifice things, Xianglin Sister-in-law completely lost her spirit since then, became timid and afraid, sat all day, and even did not do her own work well.
Over time, the fourth lord Lu's family became more and more dissatisfied with her, and finally sent her away, and Xiang Lin became a beggar, and even the last food and clothing could not be obtained, and finally died on the street.
Of course, Xiang Lin is just a low-level woman with no culture, and she has no cognition of how to control her emotions, but this point has a warning effect on us.
Many people like to bring their emotions into the work, today is in a good mood, work is very diligent, and get along with colleagues is also very harmonious; but if the mood is not good, they will be nitpicking at work, spitting everywhere, and for a long time, everyone will naturally be estranged.
No matter what happens to us, no matter how bad the mood is, we must still do our job well, keep our career, and not lose our mood at the same time, and then lose the job of maintaining our livelihood.
3. "It's not too big to watch the hilarity" is the greatest malice of others.
When Sister-in-law Xianglin first came to Luzhen, others only praised her for her hard work and ability, but when her mother-in-law took her away, she also became the "center of public opinion" in the town, and others discussed how she was sold to the mountains to marry He Laoliu, how to resist desperately on the wedding night, how to give birth to a son, etc., but once they heard that she had a good life, everyone said that she had made good luck, and they no longer mentioned her.
I don't know if you found it, the people's discussion of her was pitiful and sympathetic at first, but knowing that she was doing well, everyone shut up and did not mention Xiang Lin sister-in-law.
The distortion of human nature is here, and others sympathize with her with a lofty posture, but she is really well, and the hearts of others are not tasteful.
So we often say that there are really few people who really hope that you will have a good life, except for your own parents.
Later, Xiang lin sister-in-law died her husband, died a child, and completely became a poor woman, she returned to Luzhen again, and set off a wave of discussion, everyone went to listen to Xiang Lin's sister-in-law tell stories, and even lost tears, but it didn't take long to get bored.
Until Liu Ma, who had been eating vegetarians, gossipily asked Xiang Lin's sister-in-law: "How did you rely on it later?" The people in the town started a new topic again, and they had a new interest in xianglin's affairs, and asked her "how did they cling to it later", xianglin sister-in-law is not a fool, looking at their ridicule and ugly faces, naturally know the intentions of the people, but use their own misery to add some spices to life.
Sister-in-law Xianglin gradually became silent, did not speak all day, and only worked silently.
Mother Liu told her that two men in hell would fight for her, and Lord Yan Luo had to saw her off and give her half of a person, these words frightened Xiang Lin Sister-in-law, in order to avoid this ending, she saved the expenses and went to the temple to donate the threshold, hoping to get salvation, but still did not change Lu Si's view of Xiang Lin Sister-in-law.
This was the last straw that knocked down Xiang Lin's sister-in-law, who was eventually overwhelmed and completely lost the belief in being alive.
There are several bystanders with different identities in the text, Lu Si represents the exploiting class, he is willing to take Xianglin sister-in-law again, because Xianglin sister-in-law is more capable, one person can be used as two people, you can save money for helpers, but he is extremely pedantic in his heart, convinced of some bad ideas in feudal society, thinking that Xianglin sister-in-law married two families, and killed her husband, it is really unknown, when Xianglin sister-in-law finally lost "value", he did not hesitate to sweep her out of the house. Hearing the news of Xiang Lin's sister-in-law's death, Fourth Master Lu also scolded her for being a fallacy, because she died at the wrong time and made a big fuss about the scenery.
There is also a kind of bystander is the most common crowd, they are idle, they like to talk about the rights and wrongs of others, take the pain of others as a spice of life, when they can no longer hear new topics, they will abandon Xianglin's sister-in-law, and will only mercilessly ridicule and disgust.
I think the most hateful bystander is "Liu Ma", the text says that she is a good woman, vegetarian and not killing, but in the name of care, she used the hell theory to intimidate Xianglin Sister-in-law, and the next day she brought the new topic of "how to cling to Xianglin Sister-in-law" to the streets and alleys, saying that she is a good woman, which is full of irony.
In this way, in the disgust and ridicule of these insensitive and ruthless bystanders, Xiang Lin's tragic life ended. At first, she was full of enthusiasm for life, although she did not have a husband, she wanted to live a new life by relying on her hands, but she did not think that the snobbery of her mother-in-law, the indifference of everyone, coupled with the real tragic fate, Xianglin sister-in-law eventually went to death, not only physical destruction, but also spiritual destruction.
When I was young, I felt that Xianglin's sister-in-law loved to nag, and every day was "I am really stupid, really...", and later I learned that every time she said this sentence, how heart-wrenching it was, and how hateful the crowd was.
The world is sad and happy, cold and warm self-knowledge. Don't look down on yourself, don't talk about others, the hilarity is someone else's after all, but the days are their own.
With this encouragement.