In 2002, actress Yu Mingjia was only 20 years old, and her parents had already found a blind date for her.
Yu Mingjia hung up his parents' phone angrily, not caring about his life's events at all. Unexpectedly, my parents were very persistent and urged marriage for 7 years.
Blind dates again and again, Yu Mingjia went from full of hope to complete disappointment, she couldn't bear to tell her mother: "Mom, I've gone on blind dates so many times, it's really annoying."
The mother looked at her daughter who was 27 years old and not married, tears could not stop flowing, and begged her daughter: "This is the last time, okay"?
Yu Mingjia didn't like others to arrange her life, but she didn't expect that she had known her blind date for 3 months, and she quickly got married.
Parents can't believe it, relatives and friends don't understand, only Yu Mingjia himself knows how difficult it is to meet the right person.
In the blink of an eye, Yu Mingjia has been married for 12 years, how is her life with an ordinary husband?
01. I don't test for diplomats, I only like to be an actor
Yu Mingjia was born into a "family of diplomats", most of whom were diplomats in his family and relatives.
Since childhood, my mother told Yu Mingjia that in the future, you should be an excellent diplomat like your aunt.
Yu Mingjia, who was still young, did not understand what a diplomat was. All she knew was that her relatives were powerful and could see them on TV.
However, his family is too good, which also puts a lot of pressure on Yu Mingjia.
Since childhood, as long as her grades fell out of the top three, her mother would say: "How did you give birth to this stupid daughter of yours, your aunt and uncle's grades are not like yours."
In her mind, the freeze-frame idea was: no matter what you do, you have to do your best.
Not only that, usually Yu Mingjia also has to go to training courses to learn etiquette, painting, piano and chess... In the words of her parents, she must be better than others.
Therefore, in Yuminga's childhood life, there were only countless books and endless songs.
Such a strict education made Yu Mingjia resentful of such a life. She longs for freedom and hopes to one day do what she loves.
In high school, her parents advised her to go to the diplomat exam so that she could find a good job in the future. But this time, Yu Mingjia wants to be herself, and she doesn't want to be a puppet of her parents.
Therefore, Yu Mingjia chose Chinese drama when filling out the school. When her father found out, he beat her hard with a ruler: "You repeat your studies next year, and you will take the diplomat exam in the future."
Her father's non-support made Yu Mingjia very disappointed in her heart, and she couldn't help but ask her father with tears in her eyes: "You have been arranging my life, have you ever thought about whether I like it or not"?
The old couple only hoped that their daughter could be as good as the aunt and brother-in-law at home, but they never considered their daughter's feelings.
Seeing Yu Mingjia's rebuttal, the mother took her father's hand and whispered that she would let her daughter choose by herself this time.
This time, Yu Mingjia was finally not bound by his parents and chose his favorite path. But she didn't expect that the performance she chose was also a difficult road.
After Yu Mingjia entered the university, he has always been eager to enter the crew to film. However, her acting skills are difficult to even perform a drama, let alone the director will choose her to film.
In her sophomore year, a director approached her and thought she had a good image. But as soon as the other party saw her acting skills, he immediately said: "Your good temperament is acting, and it is difficult to say a word."
Soon after, Yu Mingjia watched her classmates become the heroines of that play, and she didn't even get a small role.
She told her parents about this grievance, and her mother felt sorry for her daughter and flew to Beijing to accompany her for a long time.
When her mother saw Yu Mingjia depressed all day, she asked her if she chose this industry in the first place, did she love it or to break away from her family?
Yu Mingjia cried and said that he really likes acting. The mother nodded, telling her not to be discouraged, but to study hard in order to comprehend the knowledge that cannot be learned in textbooks.
Yu Mingjia nodded, and she began to go to the crew to find small roles to participate in, trying to adapt to the rhythm of filming. After several years, although she did not become popular, she also had some small fame.
02. At the best age, marry the "ordinary man" Hu Jun
In 2008, when Yu Mingjia was filming "Mobile Phone", her mother called her again, and as soon as she opened her mouth, she asked: "Daughter, have you filmed so many scenes, haven't you met the right person"?
Yu Mingjia asked her mother, what did she want to say?
The mother smiled awkwardly and asked her to take time to go home on a blind date, and the family introduced her to a few nice boys.
Since the year he graduated from university, Yu Mingjia has returned to his hometown on blind dates every year. But over the years, she never found the right person.
Once, Yu Mingjia went on a blind date with an engineer, and the other party heard that she was an actor, turned around and left. During the filming process, there were also peers who pursued Yu Mingjia, but she did not want to find a colleague to marry.
In the blink of an eye, she was almost 27 years old, and her parents were even more anxious. From time to time, call her and ask her when she will be in love, when will she get married, and if she has any plans to have children?
A series of questions made Yu Mingjia ashamed and annoyed, feeling that his parents were too anxious. Yu Mingjia couldn't help but say: "Mom, I'm still young, do you want to film for another two years before getting married"?
The mother refused, saying that she could not give up, and if she did not marry again, she would become an old girl, who would marry her in the future?
Yu Mingjia has always been very insistent on her ideas in her career, but in marriage, she is also confused.
Yu Mingjia thought about getting married, but she always felt that she was too young, and impulsive marriage could easily affect her understanding of love.
The mother was so angry that she flew directly to Beijing, and they decided to use practical actions to urge their daughter to get married.
The father was afraid that the mother and daughter would quarrel, and also followed him to Beijing. Yu Mingjia said frankly that he has been on a blind date for so many years, and he is already very annoying.
Her mother still did not die, let her go home for the last blind date, and if she really couldn't find a suitable one, she would never be urged to get married in the future.
Yu Mingjia thought that this time, he still went home honestly on a blind date. Unexpectedly, after returning home, Yu Mingjia didn't even have time to rest, and met three boys in one day.
Another boy saw Yu Mingjia and said, I don't like your career, you have to change careers in the future.
Yu Mingjia angrily scolded the other party, and was scolded by his parents. Just when Minga and his parents were disheartened, a boy appeared and changed the status quo.
Hu Jun is the last boy Yu Mingjia saw on a blind date, and his parents said that he has a good personality and is also very literary and artistic.
After seeing him, Yu Mingjia saw Hu Jun wearing a pair of ripped jeans, and his hair was slightly yellowed, very much like a mixed society.
Yu Mingjia couldn't help but think of her parents' introduction to literature and art, and she felt that the other party was far from a literary teenager.
In the chat between the two, Yu Mingjia made it clear that he would not give up his job even if he got married. Hu Jun thought about it and mocked, saying that today's girls can eat with a little beauty.
Yu Mingjia couldn't help but scold, she is not that kind of vase, and acting also requires acting skills. The first meeting was unhappy and broke up, but that night, Hu Jun sent her a long letter of apology.
He said he went to inquire about the acting industry and thought her work was hard. Yu Mingjia saw that the other party was considerate of himself, and the anger in his heart also disappeared, so he chatted with Hu Jun.
During the chat, Yu Mingjia found that the other party was a very humorous and not machismo person at all. Yu Mingjia had a good impression of Hu Jun, and the two chatted hotly, and proposed to get married in less than three months.
This time, the change of parents did not agree. The mother felt that although the two had similar personalities, they had to know more and get married after only three months of acquaintance, which was too fast.
The opposition of her parents made Yu Mingjia very bad, and she ran to the bar alone to drink alcohol. In a daze, she called Hu Jun and asked him to take her to get the certificate.
When Hu Jun arrived at the bar, it was after 4 a.m., and when he sent her home, he found that there was nothing to eat in her refrigerator.
Hu Jun had to go to the surrounding 24-hour convenience store to buy a bag of rice and boil her millet porridge to relieve her.
The next day, Yu Mingjia woke up, and the smell of porridge on the table made her swallow. After the two finished breakfast, Yu Mingjia looked down and asked Hu Jun, what she said last night, did he agree?
Hu Jun's ears turned red, nodded, and took out his ID card. Before the parents of both sides agreed, Yu Mingjia married Hu Junshan.
03. Have two children after marriage, happy and happy
In this year, Yu Mingjia's "Mobile Phone" was released, and she also became popular.
Many friends said that Yu Mingjia got married when his career was booming, which was a very unwise choice.
But Yu Mingjia feels that if you meet a good man and don't cherish it, what should you do if you meet a bad man in the future?
After marriage, Yu Mingjia took the initiative to cook and eat, and Hu Jun forced himself to eat a plate of unpalatable dishes. Yu Mingjia said happily: "Since I was a child, my parents will not eat a bite of cooking dishes."
Hu Jun nodded and said that in the future, Yu Mingjia will be a little princess, and he will be responsible for three meals a day.
Yu Mingjia also knew that cooking by himself was unpalatable, so he handed over the power of cooking at home to her husband. Hu Jun looks very unreliable, but he is actually a man with a very good personality and calmness.
He would go to the market early every day to buy vegetables and then prepare the day's meals. When Yu Mingjia was filming, she put the food in a thermal box in the morning and took it to the crew.
Since getting married, Yu Mingjia has not eaten a single takeaway, and the refrigerator is filled with various fruits and vegetables.
Later, Yu Mingjia gave birth to two daughters, and was even spoiled by her in-laws. During the confinement, Yu Mingjia rarely held her two daughters, and it was her in-laws who were helping her with the children.
In the evening, after Hu Jun gets off work, he will help change his daughter's diapers and feed milk powder.
In fact, Hu Jun doesn't like his wife to show up all the time, but thinking that Yu Mingjia really likes filming, he gave up his job and concentrated on taking care of his family at home.
Of course, Yu Mingjia is also changing for the family, trying not to accept dramas with kissing scenes.
In 2012, Yu Mingjia filmed "Mendi", in which there were several kiss scenes. Yu Mingjia showed the script to her husband and asked him if he could accept the kiss scene, he could accept it, and he went to participate in it himself.
The husband read the script and thought that the role she played was very good, so he encouraged her to participate. Yu Mingjia did not refuse, turned around and entered the crew to film.
It is reported that when Yu Mingjia was filming, her husband also went to visit the class, and when he saw his wife filming the kissing scene, he would not be jealous, and he encouraged her not to be nervous.
In addition to filming, Yu Mingjia also likes to bloom himself on the drama stage.
In 2022, the drama "Gradually Getting Better" will be performed eight times in a row at the Shanghai Art Center, each of which is on stage in Mingjia.
Her career is stable, and her two daughters have gradually grown up and become her pride. The two daughters are very sensible, and every time Yu Mingjia comes home after filming, they will feel very tired and will sleep all day.
The two daughters and husband do things lightly and will not wake her up. After resting, Yu Mingjia will take his two daughters out to play and exercise together.
For her, the happiest thing is to curl up on the sofa with her two daughters and watch the TV series she participated in.
After 12 years of marriage with Hu Jun, Yu Mingjia feels that his life is very happy, and he does not regret getting married and having a daughter when he was popular.
Epilogue:
In an interview, Yu Mingjia once said that blind dates cannot be taken advantage of by appearance.
In fact, when she saw Hu Jun for the first time, she didn't have a good impression at all, and the other party's dress and behavior made her feel disgusted.
But unexpectedly, after chatting, Yu Mingjia found that the other party was very compatible with him. As it turned out, she wasn't wrong in her choice.
Under Hu Jun's love and care, her life is getting happier and happier, and her two daughters are gradually growing up. Yu Mingjia, who used to hate marriage, wanted freedom wholeheartedly.
And now Yu Mingjia likes to go home to see her husband and daughter after filming, she likes such a warm life.