In 2010, in a small two-bedroom apartment, Fu Dalong and Rao Minli held hands and looked at their wedding photos on the wall.
Although there was no grand wedding, although there was no decent house, the two held hands tightly and looked at themselves in each other's eyes.
This is the romance of the old days.
However, no matter how romantic love is, it seems to have lost its defense in the face of reality.
In the 12 years after marriage, the two did not even have their own house, lived in a rental house, and did not have children.
It seems that the title of "the poorest actor" is not out of nowhere, although he won impetuosity and vanity, he lost marriage and love.
How did a seven-foot man be defeated by reality, and how did he laugh at the storm?
01
In 1976, Fu Dalong was born in Tianshui, Gansu, the birthplace of Fuxi culture.
Fu Dalong's parents are ordinary workers, and although the family is not very rich, it is also a "well-off family" that others envy.
Fu Dalong has had a strong curiosity since he was a child, so his interests and hobbies are wide-ranging, such as martial arts, drama, and music.
When his parents asked him to choose his favorite interest, he thought for a long time and didn't figure out which one he liked the most.
There is no way, and his parents can only helplessly let him learn one by one.
I thought that the child's heart would not be too long, but I didn't want to, this school is several years.
This also cultivated Fu Dalong's versatile talent.
Not only that, Fu Dalong has a great sense of justice since he was a child, which may be why he later disdained fame and fortune.
Once, the young Fu Dalong saw a few older children bullying children, so he stepped forward and scolded:
"What are you doing, what is the ability to bully children."
When the teenagers saw him, they said disdainfully: "You are old, you still dare to take care of our business, hurry away, don't get in the way." ”
Fu Dalong ignored them, stepped forward to push them away, helped the child on the ground up, and prepared to take him home.
Seeing him so "arrogant", those teenagers didn't say a word, cursed while raising their legs and kicked over.
Fu Dalong was already a few years younger than them, and he was unable to fight with two fists and four hands, and could only roll on the ground holding his head.
This is not the end, the gang of teenagers are punching and kicking again, and verbal abuse.
The rabbit was in a hurry and bit people, but Fu Dalong couldn't bear it, grabbed a teenager's arm and bit it hard, almost biting off a piece of meat because of too much force.
Afterwards, the bitten boy led his parents to Fu Dalong's house.
It can be imagined that Fu Dalong's father was extremely angry and beat Fu Dalong in front of the other party,
He also kept apologizing and saying good things, and finally gave the other party a cigarette, and the matter was over.
After waiting for the people to leave, his father asked Fu Dalong what was going on, and Fu Dalong said what happened.
Only then did my father realize that he was wrong. But looking at Fu Dalong standing there stubbornly, with a look of "I'm not wrong", he was also crying and laughing.
In 1984, that year, Fu Dalong was 8 years old.
That day, he was practicing martial arts in the martial arts team, and seeing his seriousness and appearance, Han Gang, the director who came to visit, immediately became interested.
So he was invited to participate in the movie "Winning the Lottery", and just like that, the confused Fu Dalong embarked on the road of acting.
In the film, Fu Dalong can be described as his true color, and he shows that tenacity to the fullest.
I thought that this "electric shock" was an unattainable opportunity, but I didn't want to, and the good show had just begun.
With his excellent performance, it didn't take long for him to receive an invitation from the crew of the movie "Young Peng Dehuai" to play the male lead.
As soon as the film was released, it let everyone see a living great man, not only looks alike, but even every word and deed, a look, is so godlike.
This time not only allowed him to be recognized in the circle, but also won the Chinese Film Tong Niu Award for Outstanding Performance.
Since then, everyone has known this tenacious and courageous child star.
After that, he also starred in many classic film and television dramas, and his acting path became smoother.
02
In 1994, 18-year-old Fu Dalong was admitted to the Beijing Film Academy.
After entering the university, because the cultural foundation is not solid, his academic performance has not been very good, or even the bottom.
He began to realize that he had been busy filming before, and although he had a certain fame, he also delayed his studies.
Therefore, he decided to study hard and improve his cultural content and professional quality.
While everyone else is fighting for a play, he reads "Shakespeare" in the library;
When others are comparing with each other how much they can earn in a play, he is nibbling on steamed buns and pickles in the dormitory;
While others were pursuing romantic love, he recited by the lake "born of happiness, died of sorrow".
He "forced" himself to hone himself with tenacity and make himself stronger and more vibrant.
Through unremitting efforts, Fu Dalong's grades caught up, he got rid of the countdown, and finished his studies in first place.
However, this is not the happiest thing for him, and the rich spiritual world is his true pride.
After graduation, Fu Dalong began to gradually take on plays, and his first drama was "Young Bao Qingtian".
With his excellent acting skills, he successfully attracted the attention of the great director Feng Xiaoning.
Feng Xiaoning found him and let him read the script "Purple Sun", and Fu Dalong felt that it was a very good story after reading it and decided to star.
But Feng Xiaoning made a request at this time, he said: "The male protagonist is a farmer, and he must have a peasant temperament. ”
Fu Dalong said very firmly: "Give me a month, by then it will not work, you will remove me." ”
In this way, Fu Dalong carried a backpack and went to the remote countryside.
Here he did everything, hoeing, mowing, harvesting wheat, raising chickens, geese, and mules.
Running back and forth bare-chested all day, when eating, carrying a bowl, squatting in front of the door to eat. There is no image at all.
And just like that, a month passed quickly.
But Feng Xiaoning did not contact him, which made him very puzzled, but he did not complain, he felt that even if he could not act, it was an experience.
It wasn't until two months later that Feng Xiaoning remembered this stubble and hurriedly came to find Fu Dalong.
When he saw Fu Dalong, he was stunned, his face was full of stubble, his skin was black and purple, his hair was oily, and his hands were cocooned.
Simply a standard "old farmer".
At this glance, Feng Xiaoning decided the male protagonist of the movie "Purple Sun".
And Fu Dalong's performance did not disappoint Feng Xiaoning, and the performance of the three points into the wood was simply amazing.
After the film was released, it received a double harvest at the box office and won the Best Picture Award at the Hawaii Film Festival.
Fu Dalong also became famous in one fell swoop.
I thought that he would take advantage of the victory to pursue and establish his own dynasty in the entertainment industry. But he didn't want to, he chose to "go into hiding".
In fact, it is not really hiding, but the scripts he received continuously did not move him, in his words:
"There is no meaningful script, I am afraid that I will not be able to fully devote myself to it, then it is better not to act."
Indifference to fame and fortune can be seen.
During those days, he calmed down again and honed his acting skills alone.
But no filming meant no income, and he had to start a side business for survival.
At that time, he worked almost everything, as a stevedore for a moving company, a waiter in a restaurant, and even delivered food.
Once, when delivering food, customers happened to recognize him and asked excitedly: "Are you Fu Dalong?" ”
Fu Dalong nodded and said, "I am." ”
The man said, "I especially like your "Purple Sun", how did you do this? Is it to experience life? ”
I originally thought that Fu Dalong would avoid or admit it directly, but he said bluntly: "There is no filming, I also have to eat." ”
It is such a person who pursues not a false name, nor money, but a beautiful yearning.
After many years of silence, Fu Dalong finally ushered in an outbreak again.
It was 2006, and the crew of the movie "Tengu" found Fu Dalong and invited him to play the male lead.
After reading the script, Fu Dalong smiled up to the sky and finally waited for the role in his heart.
Without saying a word, he rushed to the crew with simple luggage.
At that time, Fu Dalong was destitute, so he used the only money he had to buy train tickets and borrowed some money from friends as entanglement.
Fu Dalong, who had accumulated thick hair, finally stood up.
With his outstanding performance in the film, Fu Dalong won the Golden Rooster Award, the Huabiao Award and the Film Media Award as the actor in one fell swoop.
Fu Dalong, who reached the peak of his career, also obtained a lot of high-quality works, so he did not have to consume his spirit in waiting.
At this time, Fu Dalong was already a 31-year-old "older leftover man". Having hardly tasted love, he also began to yearn for romantic feelings.
03
It was in 2007, and under the introduction of a friend, Fu Dalong met Rao Minli, who was also an actor.
When the two first met, they were a little shy and did not communicate much verbally.
But Fu Dalong actually made up his mind to pursue Rao Minli the moment he saw her.
Fu Dalong stared at Rao Minli non-stop, the bent eyebrows of willow leaves and the rippling eyes of autumn water made him linger.
It wasn't until the red-faced Rao Minli reminded him to shake hands that he reacted.
Although the acquaintance was short-lived, it was doomed that the fate of the two was not just a gust of wind.
However, the introverted character of the two made the relationship between the two tepid, until one time filming in a foreign country, the two met unexpectedly.
That time, Fu Dalong boldly asked Rao Minli out, and even drank two sips of wine before going out to strengthen his courage.
The two met to eat together, and at the dinner table, Fu Dalong's nervous hands didn't know where to put them, so they gave Rao Minli dishes one by one.
Rao Minli was sweet in her heart, but her mouth said: "You feed me like a pig." ”
Fu Dalong hurriedly followed and said, "Then I will give you less clips in the future and raise you as a mermaid." ”
A sentence that seemed like a joke made the two a little more ambiguous.
Rao Minli lowered her head shyly, while Fu Dalong took the opportunity to hold her hand.
Rao Minli wanted to retract her hand in panic, but Fu Dalong held it tightly, just did not let go, and under the dispute, Rao Minli said:
"Quickly let go, eat first."
Fu Dalong did not hesitate and said, "If you promise to let me raise you first, I will loosen." ”
Rao Minli, who blushed to her ears, could only nod gently, and the excited Fu Dalong jumped up at once, almost overturning the table.
A meal is sweet in the vein.
The two began to fall in love, but the good times did not last long, and Rao Minli's parents learned of their relationship.
Rao Minli is 8 years younger than Fu Dalong, and her family is solid, beautiful and beautiful, and she is a proper "Bai Fumei".
Look at the rich dragon, who looks average, is a lot older, has no house and no deposit, and is a serious "poor boy".
Therefore, after learning that the two were in love, Rao Minli's parents firmly objected and said to her:
"What is good about him, he wants money or no money, he wants to look without looks, he doesn't even have a house, do you want to be an old mother when you marry?"
Rao Minli completely ignored her parents, and at this time, Rao Minli was already fascinated by Fu Dalong,
She felt that in Fu Dalong's body, she exuded a unique charm, which made her unable to forget and extricate herself.
Under the obstruction of her parents, Rao Minli still laid out the facts and reasoned at first, telling the second elder that Fu Dalong was a rather talented person.
However, the parents just didn't listen, feeling that their daughter could not marry off so aggrieved.
In the end, it always ends up in a big fight.
Rao Minli's parents have completely defined Fu Dalong as a "poor boy who does not learn and has no skills".
And Rao Minli has always insisted on her love, and even did not hesitate to cold war with her family.
Under the repeated obstruction of her parents, Rao Minli also wanted to open, and she didn't even bother to explain, and directly 4 words "unless he doesn't marry."
Parents saw that their daughter's attitude was so resolute, they could only sigh and no longer interfere.
So, Fu Dalong and Rao Minli also began an unbridled love.
The cinema left their ear curls grinding;
Their affectionate veins were left on the dinner table;
Their sweet words were left in the park;
Their laughter was left in the playground.
In 2010, the two entered into marriage hand in hand.
Rao Minli did not dislike simple weddings, nor did she care about the small house, she was really married to love.
Life after marriage is still sweet, and the career of the two continues.
Fu Dalong still goes his own way, choosing a script that he is satisfied with.
His wife, Rao Minli, is pursuing graduate school and wants to continue her studies.
Although he still lived a poor life, Fu Dalong did not feel wrong. He is content with love, content with the principles he adheres to.
He will not take on those "bad films" without nutrition because of money;
will not be on some variety shows because of chasing false fame;
Not to mention the fact that advertisements will be taken indiscriminately because of profit.
He seems to be one of the few people in the impetuous entertainment industry who lives "sober".
Zhao Wei said in an interview:
"There are some people, even if life is difficult, even if they have not filmed for 4 or 5 years, they will not take a play casually, they are the ones worthy of respect."
This is the purest actor.
However, in the past, one person's perseverance persisted, but now, it is two people facing poverty.
The reality of life once again smashed heavily on Fu Dalong's body.
He wants to give his lover a rich and romantic life, but he doesn't want to give up his principles.
Realistic firewood, rice, oil and salt, he himself can disdain, but he can't bear to let his wife accompany this kind of life.
And Rao Minli also understands that although she is married to love, she cannot obtain an economic foundation.
It's like a castle in the air, maybe one day the clouds clear, it will cease to exist.
So, gradually, two people holding hands for love seem to slowly have a gap.
04
Everything seems to be arranged by fate, and the two people who drift apart do not escape the law of breakup in the end.
Although there was no scandal, although there was no mutual denigration, the relationship was really irreparable.
In 2022, Fu Dalong and Rao Minli suddenly issued documents announcing their divorce one after another.
This is how the 12-year journey came to an end.
The two posted in unison: Everything is better and cherishes each other.
tells the story of the two from lovers to friends.
Everyone is speculating that two people who have never had a scandal suddenly divorced?
Some people say that the relationship between the two broke down;
Some people also say that the relationship between the two was not good, but they have only lasted until now;
Some people even say that there is no house, no car and no children, and such a marriage exists in name only.
Whatever the reason, in the face of the fact of divorce, it seems a little powerless. But, believe they will leave each other with sweet moments.
After the divorce, Fu Dalong still lived in the old house, although he had no children, but he was open-minded and had long looked down on everything.
He still follows his own perseverance and pursues inner flatness.
He would read each script carefully and would refuse without hesitation.
In recent years, he has not filmed much, but each one is a masterpiece.
Whether it is playing the leading role or supporting role, or even acting in friendship, he takes it so seriously, in his words:
"Respect every character and be worthy of every audience."
And when faced with the invitation of the "reality show" program, he only coyly said that he was not suitable and was afraid of the cold scene.
It is such a rich dragon who "does not talk much", in order to avoid trouble, he even deleted his personal status on social platforms.
He continued to perform his life, ignoring other people's comments, ignoring other people's opinions, sticking to his beliefs, and guarding sobriety.
Just look at yourself in the mirror, nod, and move on.
It's not that his pursuit is bad, it's just that we don't understand his pursuit.
Epilogue:
When indifferent fame and fortune encounter the impact of reality, contradictions inevitably arise, some people stick to it, and some people follow the flow.
Originally, the most romantic love is when I look at you and find that your eyes are full of me.
But when the cruelty of reality can no longer support their ideal love, when the wind finally blows away, leaving only a piece of peace.