Don't let the mother become the only black face in the family, the tool to correct the child's wrong behavior, should be specific rules, not, you are like this, I will tell your mother these words, hello everyone, I am Erjiu parenting said, this period I want to fight for the majority of mothers, why the family always uses the mother to deter the child when correcting the child's wrong behavior, you are no longer obedient, I will call your mother, you do this again, I will go home and tell your mother, you ask your mother to let you do this.
For example, that day, I went to the supermarket to buy something, a child, standing in the cookie area tantrums, that look probably want to eat cookies, but the old man next to him, just don't buy for him, so, this old man said to the child, your mother won't let you eat cookies, I dare not buy them for you, if you want to eat, call your mother, your mother agrees to buy it.
Therefore, the image of the mother at home has become a big tiger, yes, the reason why I feel that the mother's grievances is because when letting the child do something, it should not be decided by someone, but should be decided by the unified family rules, if the mother is very powerful, very fierce, and the big tiger, can deter the child, and other family members are not fierce or not powerful are cats, can not hold the child, so, the mother of the big tiger has become the only black face in the family to guard the rules.
Of course, there is a hidden reason here, the family with the child is unwilling or will not deal with the child's crying and anger, he will transfer this emotion to the mother, and then say: You have to be angry, send it to your mother, I am just carrying out your mother's orders, in fact, this is not right.
First of all, everyone in the family has a responsibility for the education of the child, when the child's behavior is wrong and needs to be guided and corrected, the person who took the child at that time should talk about the matter, and should not shirk the responsibility, do not let the child feel that eating cookies, playing with mobile phones These things are reasonable in other family members, only in the mother is not allowed, the family always dumps the pot to the mother like this, what will happen?
First, let the child learn to be opportunistic, if you want to buy something, you will avoid the mother, find the family who is easy to compromise, each family shouts to set rules for the child, but after the rules are established, no one else except the mother will abide by it.
Second, it puts a lot of pressure on moms, and I believe moms don't want to listen to their family complaints and become that judge when they get home.
So, if you are taking children, please use specific rules to guide children, in your own attitude to guard the rules, and then you can say this: our snack rule is to buy only one pack of cookies at a time, you need to abide by this rule, I do not agree with your current behavior, please put the second pack of cookies down, at the end of the article, I want to ask parents are also used as tools for children? Feel free to tell your story in the comments section.