After watching a movie yesterday, I suddenly understood why Yao Ce liked a girl like Xiong Lei. Xiong Lei's clubbing, drinking, tattoos, and being expelled from the health center may be Yao Ce's favorite look.
The Coolest Day is a German film released in 2016. The film is about Andy, a pianist who has been waiting in the hospital for a suitable lung transplant source for 3 years because of pulmonary fibrosis, and Benno, a young who has been told that he has brain cancer and has little time. Two people decide to abandon the world and reality, indulge themselves, and enjoy the story of the last moments of life.
The pianist Andy was an idealistic and hard-working young man who, when he first met the bohemian Benno, did not agree with and resisted his words and deeds, but just after Benno took him to live a brazen life for a few days, he resolutely followed Benno to Africa. The living environment in Africa is extremely dangerous for people like Andy who carry oxygen bags on their backs.
But it was also because Andy followed Benno to Africa that he had many firsts in his life. He overcame his panic disorder, had face-to-face contact with lions, and experienced all kinds of wonderful adventures that he had not experienced for more than 20 years, and even had the first sexual experience of his life. The bohemian Benno is a sparkling presence for and a well-behaved and afflicted Andy, the way he wants to live.
Let's look at Yao Ce again, Yao Ce began to be taken to the hospital by Xu Mu to seek medical treatment at the age of two and a half. These 20 years have been extremely painful mental torture for Xu Mu, not to mention the sick Yao Ce, and what he got was hepatitis B, an infectious disease that makes people talk about it.
When you were a child, did you have any classmates or other familiar people around you who had this infectious disease? And what will your parents say to you? Are they going to say, "Kid, stay away from that XX, he has an infectious disease." "Of course, we now know that those infectious diseases are not transmitted by proximity, but parents do not care about those, and in their minds, staying away from the source of infection is the best way to deal with them."
It is conceivable that Yao Ce must have been excluded when he was a child. In the torment of illness, he also had to endure the strange eyes and alienating attitudes of others. After the transformation of the great sanyang into the small sanyang, his situation may improve. Generally speaking, people with hepatitis B virus such as Yao Ce will invariably choose to conceal their history of illness when they come into contact with people in order to be treated equally in interpersonal relationships. But even if it is concealed, it will have a fear of being discovered in the heart, and when it gets along with people, it will not completely release itself.
Look at Xiong Lei, tattooed, bungee, drunk, expelled from the Maternal and Child Health Hospital, and even walked quite close to lesbians. She is rebellious and egotistical, and gives all her passion for what she likes. Therefore, after learning that Yao Ce had hepatitis B, she still insisted on marrying Yao Ce.
Some people on the Internet say that Xiong Lei and Yao Ce are together to cheat marriage and cheat money, which I don't agree with. If it weren't for liking, which girl would marry the man because of the man's not very favorable conditions, and give birth to a child with him, not to mention that the conditions in the girl's family are not bad.
Xiong Lei dared to pursue the person he liked, which can be seen from the fact that "Xu Mother did not agree that she was with Yao Ce, and she moved into the Yao family for a year and a half". She doesn't care about the eyes of others, and she will try to fight for the people she loves. In the end, she also married Yao Ce as she wished, and gave birth to a son.
Just like the conformist Andy in "The Coolest Day" will desperately follow the bohemian Benno to Africa, rebellious and self-reliant Xiong Lei has a fatal attraction to Yao Ce. Xiong Lei's wanton life was what Yao Ce wanted most.
Some netizens who claim to be yao ce alumni said that Yao Ce did not like to study when he was in high school, and liked to skip class and surf the Internet with the rich second generation of the next class, which I believe. After more than ten years of illness, physical and psychological torture made Yao Ce want to find a breakthrough and make himself happy. On such a life trajectory, he met the like-minded Xiong Lei and was deeply attracted to her.
After graduating from university, Yao Ce's work was arranged in the Medical Insurance Bureau, and there was no pressure in his stable job. But such a job income is not high, Yao Ce because of the frailty and illness from childhood, Xu Mu never treated him materially, his food, clothing, housing and travel has always been good, and now he marries and has children, and wants to maintain the original good life, the salary of the Medical Insurance Bureau is a drop in the bucket.
So he chose to quit the iron rice bowl, go to Shanghai to start a business, and start an e-commerce business. We don't know how the business is, but his intentions are good, and as a husband and father, he wants to bring a better life to his wife and children through his efforts. His love for his wife and children can be seen in the content he posted when he was recuperating at home after he was ill, and the small interaction with his son can make him move.
Although he had previously said he would return his adoptive parents' house, he did not act until his death. The reason may be seen from Yao Ce's brilliant letter. He was worried that after he left, the life of his wife and children would not be guaranteed, so he hesitated.
Yao Ce's heart is fighting fiercely between morality and responsibility. On the one hand, the adoptive parents have taken care of him for 28 years, and the money to buy a house is also paid by the adoptive parents, so he should return it; on the other hand, the wife has no job, the son is still young, and after he leaves, how can their life be guaranteed. The house doesn't solve all the problems, but the good guys can give them a place to stay, a place where they've been living for years before. Otherwise, after their own death, their wives and children will have to move away from their familiar homes after they have no husbands and fathers.
Now that Yao Ce has left, the information he and his wife previously posted on social platforms have been turned over, and these have become evidence of various public opinion accusations. Everyone is an ordinary person, and no one can remain intact in such a pursuit and wanton magnification, and finally retreat. Perhaps handing everything over to the judicial organs and themselves is the best way to deal with the Yao Ce incident!
Author: Cheng Dahua.
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