Li Wanbo mentioned the beautiful appearance of his daughter Li Yu when she was 22 years old, and could not hide her pride and said: "My girl, although she is small, about one meter and six, but the child is really beautiful, people say that he is like a star." ”
Li Yu is not only good-looking, but also quite outstanding, she founded her own accounting software company at the age of 30 with a university degree, and operated well in Hohhot, "Ten years ago, local big businessmen over hundreds of thousands of projects, she can take it down by herself, very strong." ”
It is true that before 2013, everything in Li Yu was running according to the perfect trajectory of the proud daughter of the sky, but all the gifts of fate seemed to be withdrawn one by one in the years to come.
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Two generations of mother and daughter, genetic doom of mental illness
After all, there is too much uncertainty in the business world. In 2013, after the local software market in Hohau City tended to weaken, Li Yu's situation took a sharp turn, and the hard work she had worked hard for many years after graduation was about to be ruined, and she was finally on the verge of collapse. "Excellent" often means that the tightrope can't withstand half a minute of turmoil, so Li Yu has to return to his hometown in Shanxi with a lost soul and block himself in his room.
At this time, seeing that her former glamorous daughter was suddenly emaciated and chanting, Li Wanbo suddenly thought that her mother had a history of thirteen years of mental illness, and her daughter's current appearance was very similar to her mother in the early stage of the disease, which is probably a genetic doom passed down from generation to generation - two generations of mother and daughter, it is difficult to escape the curse of mental illness.
His wife, Sun Wen, only showed signs of mental illness in 2000, when everything was as usual, there were no sick elders at home, and the disease came with no signs but storms. The small family of the three was suddenly overshadowed, and Li Wanbo was also forced to deal with psychotropic drugs, learning pathological names one by one, mastering the dosage of drugs at different stages, and shuttling between Jingwei centers...
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"Family of the mentally ill" is an identity that needs to be learned all over again. At that time, Li Yu could not get used to his mother's appearance of irritability or excitement when she had a seizure, and his father comforted Li Yu and said: "The doctor said that schizophrenia is just a small psychological cold, don't be afraid of your mother, she is not crazy." Although he did not suffer from the disease himself, overcoming the "stigma" is still a compulsory subject for the families of the mentally ill.
In the end, his wife died in Li Wanbo's arms in 2011, which was the last time Li Wanbo found her and ran away. On the way home together, Sun Wen, who had been wandering for many days, lay tiredly in her husband's arms, and Li Wanbo's mind became confused between the bumps in the car. By the time he suddenly woke up, his wife had permanently ended the toss-up of more than ten years and quietly left him and his daughter.
When her daughter was also diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2013, the nightmare struck again. He recalled the hardships of taking care of his wife for ten years, and couldn't help but feel gloomy, how should he pick up a new burden again? How can this genetic doom in his mind take away his only remaining dependent daughter?
"I'm not sick, don't force me to take medicine"
Li Yu's condition deteriorated across the board in 2016. Like her mother, she began to leave home, wander, and return home endlessly. What's more, Li Yu refused to admit that he was sick. She always insisted that she was very sober, a normal person with a very sound spirit, and all her actions were out of her own thoughtfulness, so she was also very resistant to drugs or hospitalization, "I'm not sick, don't force me to take medicine" became her verbal muttering.
In desperation, Li Wanbo often waited for his daughter to take medicine with water in one hand and medicine in the other, otherwise she would take advantage of her father's inattention to hide or throw away the medicine, and irregular medication would lead to a gradual deterioration of her condition. Data show that most relapses of schizophrenia are related to self-discontinuation, and the relapse rate of patients who do not adhere to the drug is as high as 80%.
Only after a short stay in the local Anding Hospital for two months did Li Yu improve slightly. But as soon as there was improvement, Li Yu immediately asked to be discharged from the hospital and stop the medicine, which also fell into the longer tug-of-war between father and daughter about "whether he is sick", "taking medicine" and "hospitalization".
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Li Wanbo also went to great lengths to help his daughter readjust to social life, which is also an important part of mental rehabilitation. He tried in every possible way to find his daughter a job as a cashier, with fixed content and on-time salary, which matched Li Yu's situation very well. However, one day after her daughter received her salary, she suddenly disappeared again, disappeared into the sea of people, and flowed into the distance - she still couldn't do it, and the so-called "normal life" had irreversibly withdrawn from her world.
"I don't know what to do, I just can't let her stay in one place, I can't lock the house." I have had a cerebral infarction for 3 years, and I have been hospitalized 8 times, and my legs and feet are even more inconvenient. Li Wanbo sighed again when he said, "It's a lie to say that you don't think about it, can you not worry about the flesh that fell from your body?" But it's useless to remember, I'm now having problems walking in the aisle by myself. ”
Li Yu has even traveled to Beijing, and no one knows how she has successfully moved thousands of miles in modern society. Her cleverness helped her remember her father's phone number despite her illness, but she lost all the dozen or so mobile phones she bought her. "She can find someone to call me, and I will transfer her living expenses online so that she can't go hungry outside." But the biggest worry is that she is a girl being bullied. ”
Li Wanbo talked about the biggest worry about his daughter's physical safety outside. Fortunately, Li Yu is very vigilant and very defensive, and the disease has not worn down her natural acumen, "Sometimes when I pick her up behind, she calls the police on the side of the road and says that someone is following her." ”
Live and live with dignity
The onset in 2022 seems to be particularly serious. Li Yu gradually forgot his father's number, so he only called his father in early 2022, and has not heard from him since then. After nine months of missing contact, on September 30, Li Wanbo finally received a call from the Hohhot Aid Station.
The call was a bit of a hassle — Li Yu was silent after being rescued, she wasn't too aggressive, but it was hard to cooperate, and the staff couldn't get valid information about her. Fortunately, at this time, the rescuer staff in Hohau City thought of the Douyin public welfare project that has been deeply engaged in the field of finding people and relatives for many years.
The two sides have a smooth and fixed communication channel, so after receiving feedback from the aid station, the members of the Douyin tracing project immediately requested the cooperative police to compare appearance, age (roughly) and other aspects, and locked Li Yu's identity in a short time, thus successfully contacting Li Wanbo.
On October 18, Li Wanbo arrived in Hohau City, and has not yet picked up Li Yu for the time being due to epidemic prevention and control considerations. But the nine-month separation of father and daughter made him more determined not to let his daughter fall into a wandering cycle.
Existing medical research shows that schizophrenia is not a terminal illness, and about 2/3 of patients will improve significantly after standardized treatment, and even be able to re-marry and work normally, which makes Li Wanbo confident: "I am 68 years old, while my body can still take care of her, while there is still time to help her control her condition, I have to use all means to let my daughter-in-law live, live better, and have dignity." ”
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(All names in this article are pseudonyms)
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