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Revisiting Paradise Lost opened a window for me to understand Japanese culture and Japanese men and women

author:Xiao Han Yan said

Rin muttered, "It's good to be alive!"

Hisagi couldn't help but whisper the same words as Rinko: It's good to be alive!

These were the last words Hisagi and Rin said before they died together. It is precisely because the two are going to die that they feel more and more moved and happy to be alive.

Revisiting Paradise Lost opened a window for me to understand Japanese culture and Japanese men and women

Today, I re-read the novel "Paradise Lost" by Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe, and I felt quite complicated in my heart. I had read it before, and I was amazed by the noisy bed scene in the book, and I did not understand the deep meaning of the novel. Looking at it now, fading away from those various external scenes, I really understand what the ultimate of love is.

01 The elite of love

Junichi Watanabe said: This work is a masterpiece that depicts mature men and women pursuing ultimate love.

The work mainly tells the extramarital love story of the 54-year-old husband Shoichiro Kugi and the 37-year-old wife Rin Matsubara, who met and fell in love, and the ending was that both of them died of martyrdom.

The hero, Hisagi, is an editor at a publishing house who has his own independent opinions on work, and is ostracized by other colleagues and transferred to an idle position. In family life, there is no love with his wife long ago, only family affection, and the relationship between the two is polite and estranged.

The heroine, Rinko, is a calligraphy teacher and her husband is a professor at a medical school, and the two have no children, making it a happy family in the eyes of outsiders. Rin is beautiful, elegant, and dignified, her husband is tall and handsome, has a proud social status, and has enough money. However, the marriage between the two is bland and tasteless, and it can even be said that it has no real name and has been sexless for a long time.

By chance, the two met and fell in love, and soon had a physical relationship, and the double fit of body and spirit made the two fall into the passion of extramarital affairs.

The charming and charming Rin brings inexplicable excitement and happiness to Hisagi, and Rin is also deeply attracted to Hisagi, who is mature but maintains a childlike heart.

Revisiting Paradise Lost opened a window for me to understand Japanese culture and Japanese men and women

Both are middle-aged and unhappy in their married life, so they are particularly eager for love.

Since the two of them got into bed, Rinko's body's desire code has been opened, and her sleeping mind has been opened.

The two constantly looked for opportunities to travel, have trysts in hotels, and even reached a state of madness, forgetting about work and family for a while.

Under such a passion, the two rented a house and lived together, brazenly betraying their respective marriages and families.

The two enjoyed themselves crazy together, but they couldn't help but feel guilty about their families, relatives and friends. After all, both are kind people, and they feel confused, helpless, and lonely when facing the strange gazes of relatives, friends, and even colleagues.

Hisagi's wife filed for divorce and received support from her daughter, much to Hisagi's surprise. After all, he never thought about divorce, he wanted to have passion, but he also wanted to keep his family stable.

As accusations from all sides become more and more vitriol, the two have no choice but to indulge in crazier sex.

Rinko's husband sends an anonymous letter to Hisagi's boss, causing Hisagi to be demoted again. Career frustration and the exclusion of colleagues have plunged Hisagi into despair.

And Rinko's mother did not understand her daughter's behavior and persuaded her repeatedly, Rin was still stubborn, and her mother finally made a desperate request to sever the relationship between mother and daughter, putting a lot of pressure on Rin and falling into deep despair.

However, Rin couldn't leave Hisagi. Because she and Kugi are together, they can always get all-round satisfaction, from body to soul.

The relationship between the two is so good, but can this relationship be maintained forever? Wouldn't it be a beautiful thing if they could die together when the two were in love? Rin began to think about it.

The pressure of many aspects makes them on the verge of collapse, and only indulging in sex can make the two temporarily forget the troubles of demotion and the guilt of the family, forget the worldly upbringing and morality, and live freely.

The harsh reality makes the two cornered, and the idea of dying together, in the end, Hisagi accepts Rinko's suggestion of martyrdom and freezes this unrecognized love at the peak of love in an extreme way.

Revisiting Paradise Lost opened a window for me to understand Japanese culture and Japanese men and women

02 Three possibilities

In the relationship between the two, it was Hisagi's initiative at the beginning. It was Hisagi who taught and inspired Rin little by little, opening Rinko's desire code. Later, the awakened Rin goes further than Hisagi, and she sees that only death can fix the high-level love between the two and finally have each other completely.

Rin secretly went to the place where Hisagi's wife worked, saw Hisagi's wife Fumied, and saw a shrewd, capable and elegant but aging woman, which made her very worried that if it took a long time, Hisagi would not have aesthetic fatigue for herself.

Hisagi and Rin discuss the Abe incident, and Abe has been with his lover for about three months and strangled the man at the height of love.

Writer Takero Arishima and his lover both hanged themselves in a similar situation.

From these two events, Rin determined the fact that only suicide can keep love fresh forever and freeze the peak of love.

For Hisagi and Rinko, death is just a way to love.

We want to ask, is there no other way but death?

Author Junichi Watanabe gives three choices:

The first type: the two divorce and then get married, form a new family, and achieve a happy ending for lovers to eventually become dependents.

That's right, Hisagi and Rin caused some degree of harm to each other's wives and husbands. However, time can heal all wounds, and as long as they are willing to start a new life, it will all pass.

What's more, Hisaki's wife has taken the initiative to file for divorce. Although Rinko's husband does not agree to leave, as long as Rin persists, she can divorce if her ex-husband already has a new love.

Watanabe said: When faced with marital problems, divorce is a solution, but in the life of husband and wife, in addition to the feelings of both parties, there are also children's problems. Couples who divorce after a quarrel face these problems, so they cannot choose to divorce hastily. Of course there are exceptions.

Even if it is divorced, Watanabe is against marriage, he said: If you want to keep the passion of love at its peak, then you cannot get married, and marriage will only ruin this love. When you get married, you start an ordinary life, and the two who love each other slowly become partners in life, so that there is no overwhelming love.

Therefore, the choice of Hisagi and Rin getting married did not work.

Revisiting Paradise Lost opened a window for me to understand Japanese culture and Japanese men and women

The second: Hisagi and Rin end their extramarital affair and return to their original family.

In reality, many men and women who have suffered marital betrayal end up choosing this approach.

The marriage of China's famous table tennis players Lin Dan and Xie Xingfang once made such a choice.

In the face of Lin Dan's cheating, Xie Xingfang chose to forgive and accept, she said this:

Just go home.

This choice is about the most common, and in reality many men and women choose to endure and return for the sake of their children.

In the case of Hisagi and Rin in the novel, Hisagi's daughter is an adult and is married; And Rin doesn't have children. So there is no such thing as sacrificing for their children.

However, this choice still hurts Hisagi and Rin herself a lot. Both of them are the kind of people with rich feelings, who pursue freedom and passion, and are not willing to be consumed by ordinary life, let alone without freedom and passion in life.

The third option: die together.

Two people selfishly and willfully together forever, disappearing from this real world.

Rin thought a lot and finally chose this result for herself and Hisagi.

Rin is more active than Hisagi for this choice.

The novel reads:

She is like a tireless horse, forever galloping in pursuit of her ideal love.

For this ideal love, she and Hisagi came together, but at the same time felt a kind of unease. Especially after meeting Hisagi's wife. Hisaki and his wife were also in love back then, and she and her husband also got married because they were in love, but in the end, didn't they all make love fade, the relationship was cold, and it was like a strange road?

I am 38 years old this year, my youth is fading day by day, and I am slowly aging, and one day I will be old, and Hisaki's heart will change.

The law cannot protect marriage, and time cannot retain love. Sooner or later, the love between the two will be consumed by ordinary life.

Revisiting Paradise Lost opened a window for me to understand Japanese culture and Japanese men and women

Rin fears such an ending and wants to end her life when the two fall in love with each other, so that love can be made eternal.

This ending is crazy and frightening, and it makes us sad.

The years pass, the youth is gone, love fades, and only death is eternal and unchanging.

Watanabe is very good at writing about extramarital relationships, he believes that extramarital affairs are inevitable and reasonable in modern society, he hopes that extramarital affairs and marriage can coexist peacefully, but in fact, in real life, the two are enemies and can never coexist peacefully.

Therefore, the ending of Hisagi and Rin dying together is unexpected, but it is more reasonable.

Revisiting Paradise Lost opened a window for me to understand Japanese culture and Japanese men and women

03 External extrusion

Good things don't go out, bad things spread thousands of miles. Hisagi repeatedly took leave, arrived late and left early, and secretly answered the phone, and his colleagues more or less knew the news of his cheating in marriage.

Most people chose to dodge and stay away, imposing an invisible blockade on Hisagi, deliberately alienating, and seeing him with a little more contempt and disgust, of course, a little envy and jealousy.

All this brings great discomfort to Hisagi, after all, people are social animals and cannot live in isolation.

Aristotle wrote in his Politics that the outcasts are either beasts or gods.

However, Hisagi is not a beast or a god, he is just an ordinary man who wants a little warmth and love.

Soon, Hisagi's family also affected him.

Wife Wen Zhiren as her name suggests, very quiet and weak, after learning that her husband cheated on her, it was also very painful at first, and she covered her face with tears night and night, but she finally thought about it and made herself strong, after countless sleepless nights of deep consideration, she took the initiative to file for divorce, got the support of her daughter, and also maintained her dignity.

The husband's cheating is a very shameful thing, which not only affects the family's reputation and her husband's career, but also denies her charm as a woman.

However, instead of crying like most wives, Wen Zhi chose to bear it in silence and lick her wounds alone in the dark of night.

Life is short, and since a man's heart cannot be kept, then let him be free.

It was his wife's generosity and tolerance that brought unprecedented pressure to Hisagi. There is a saying that touching your wife's hand is like touching your left hand to your right hand. However, if you really cut it off one day, it will still hurt.

Revisiting Paradise Lost opened a window for me to understand Japanese culture and Japanese men and women

What about Rinko?

Rinko's husband is cold and arrogant, and he chooses to look at his wife's red apricot out of the wall, but in the face of the little green hat on his head, his heart is still resentful.

One day, the clothing store came to deliver the clothes, saying that they were custom-made by the hostess, and it happened that Rin was not at home. The husband helped to collect it, and he accidentally glanced at it to see that it was a red gauze shirt. He couldn't help but be furious.

The red shirt is something that only prostitutes wear in Japan, and now the wife wants to wear this red shirt to have a tryst with a man...

Is it tolerable or unbearable?

That night, when Rin came home, her husband went into a rage. Rin stripped naked and tied up, and tore the red gauze shirt.

The husband scolded Rin in very difficult words, and said that he would not divorce and lock her up in marriage.

If you can't have it, you have to learn to let go; If you don't want to be in pain, you need to know how to wave. Life is a long journey, and letting go does not mean that you can't have it in the future; Life is a pleasant enjoyment, and waving your hand is to say goodbye to pain.

It's a pity that Rinko's husband doesn't understand.

There is also Rinko's mother, who persuaded her daughter after discovering her daughter's extramarital affair, but Rin still interacted with Hisagi without remorse. When her mother found out, she thundered and scolded Rinko:

How could I have given birth to such an evil daughter like you?

The mother then announced that she had severed the mother-daughter relationship with her daughter.

For mothers, cheating on their daughters is a great shame for the family, and daughters are also a third party who destroys other people's families.

Her husband's disdain, her father's death, and her mother's angry scolding combined to push Rin to the point of rebellion, and she even thinks she is a bad woman and asks Hisagi to whip herself fiercely.

To Rinko: Now she only has Hisagi, and Hisagi is her entire world.

Owning Hisagi, thoroughly owning Hisagi, became Rinko's obsession.

Revisiting Paradise Lost opened a window for me to understand Japanese culture and Japanese men and women

04 Sound the alarm

The two got on the train bound for Karuizawa, and Hisagi put the ticket stub in Rinko's hand.

Rin said, "This is our one-way ticket."

Let's go to the park!

These are the last two lines of the novel. Yes, it's a trip to death, all you need is a one-way ticket.

Hisagi and Rinko's final choice pushed their love to the peak and their lives to the abyss.

Martyrdom is a helpless choice for Hisagi and Rinko, and it also rings the alarm for us:

Traditional marriage may not bring happiness, but at least it will not bring destruction. Pure love is certainly worth aspirating, but love and marriage should be linked to responsibility.

The Japanese works originate from the limitations of their country's region and national culture, and have always advocated the idea of timely entertainment, and Hisagi and Rin have suffered from it, and this kind of thinking is very harmful, so be vigilant~

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