When group activities, everyone is always used to doing their own thing, procrastinating, and sometimes not following the rules, which always makes people feel that this is not a team. When you encounter such a time, do you really want to stand up and let everyone listen to your instructions? That is, you want to be a leader and bring everyone together.
But in reality you back off. The first is that you don't know how to unite people; Second, you are afraid that people will not like to listen to what you say. But there must always be one person in a group to stand up, why can't this person be you?
In order to cultivate children's leadership ability, we still analyze the essence of children's lack of leadership spirit from the child's psychological resistance!
1. Because of the fear of taking responsibility! You may think, "If you don't do a good job of what the teacher explains, I'm definitely the first to be criticized, so forget it."
Parents' solution: Children should be encouraged to be brave enough to try and take responsibility! For example, you can say to the child, "Baby, you can do a great job, you have to believe in yourself, as long as you are good to the whole team, even if the things explained by the teacher are not done well, you should be brave enough to stand up."
2. Fear that classmates will laugh at themselves and not listen to commands. You may think, "Do you really think of yourself as a leader?!" ”
Parent solution: In this case, parents should believe in their children, tell their children not to care about how others see themselves, just do what they should do, this is an opportunity to show themselves in front of the group, but also an opportunity to exercise their social skills and leadership skills, benefiting themselves, and have nothing to do with others!
Here are some practical tips for improving your leadership skills! Welcome to add in the comments section!
First: Learn to express concerns and crisis awareness!
Expressing concern with emotion, this is not the meaning of complaining to everyone; On the contrary, it can make everyone feel a sense of urgency and crisis, and let everyone know that you are thinking about the collective.
For example, "We may be behind in this game, oh, what should we do?" "There is not enough time, everyone should hurry up and seize the time."
Second: Unite in affirmation.
Find a way to affirm and praise everyone first, so that you may offset some of the resistance of others. Then, try to encourage each other with your partners and stimulate their own motivation.
For example, "Everyone is working hard, continue to cheer, just stick to it" "I can do things with everyone, I am so happy, let's cheer together!" ”
Third: how to convince everyone.
If you want to unite your classmates in the group, the most important thing is to convince your friends. At this time, you need to use your brain a little, think about where the current difficulties are, what should be done, and record the progress of things, and then assign them to everyone to complete, so that everyone can receive the task and take responsibility.
For example, "Think about what else is going on to be done now?" "It's better to assign things to everyone so that everyone knows what they're going to do."
In our lives, there are people who are good teachers, some people who are good disciples, and some people who are very suitable to be leaders and are willing to serve everyone. If we want to play a leading role in the collective, we must first "know ourselves and know each other" in order to "never lose a battle."
To play a leadership role in the group, you need to understand the strengths and personality traits of different students.
所以最后在和大家分享一个关于社交力心理学中多元智理论。
We can use this theory to explore the strengths of each student and provide them with suitable development opportunities.
The theory of multiple intelligences was proposed by Howard Gardner, a psychodeveloper at the Harvard University Institute of Educational Research, in 1983.
He believes that human intelligence can be at least divided into the following categories:
1. Language (Verbal/Linguistic)
2. Mathematical Logic (Logical/Mathematical)
3. Visual/Spatial
4. Body-Movement (Bodily/Kinesthetic)
5. Music (Musical/Rhythmic)
6. Inter-personal/Social
7. Introspective (Intra-personal/Introspective)
8. Nature Exploration (Naturalist, Added by Gardner in 1995)
9. Existentialist Intelligence (Later added by Gardner)
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