Text / Nishiki
Editor / Little Love Letter
"I think the biggest change in my life is that I married Lu Jinbo and gave birth to my daughter," Zhao Ziqi said of her marriage to Lu Jinbo.
In fact, Zhao Ziqi is not Lu Jinbo's first wife, before that, Lu Jinbo and his ex-wife Wang Lei's relationship has always been very good, and the two have also conceived a daughter together.
As one of the "troika of online literature", Lu Jinbo often shared the daily life of his wife and daughter on social platforms during his marriage with Wang Lei, and also wrote many articles about his wife and daughter.
This also leads to the fact that in the eyes of the public, Lu Jinbo and his ex-wife have always been the image of a loving couple, and later Zhao Ziqi's "latecomers are on top" was complained that it was "small three turned positive".
But in fact, when Lu Jinbo met Zhao Ziqi, his relationship with his ex-wife Wang Lei was already on the verge of breaking, and then he began to fight a divorce lawsuit.
In the face of the overwhelming pressure of public opinion questioning "Little Three", and even his acting career has been negatively affected by this, what exactly makes Zhao Ziqi ignore everything and insist on marrying Lu Jinbo for the second marriage?
01
Lu Jinbo and Zhao Ziqi met through a friend's introduction.
One is a well-known publisher in the circle, which has signed popular writers such as Han Han, Yi Zhongtian and Feng Tang.
One is a famous actor in the show business circle, who once gave up his job as a CCTV host to enter the show business circle as an actor.
When they first met, Zhao Ziqi was deeply attracted by Lu Jinbo's gentle and humble temperament, after all, who can refuse a man with great talent and humility and gentleness?
In this way, by chance, the two got together, and they had mutual affection in getting along, and Lu Jinbo launched a fierce attack on Zhao Ziqi.
Ordinary men pursue the women they like, most of them are dating, watching movies, and shopping, but Lu Jinbo is different, and the literati should have the appearance of the literati.
Others date to eat, he fish ruler, paper short love long; Others sent bags and big cards, he sent the four treasures of the study room, and used pen, ink and paper to seek hearts.
Although there is no promise of mountain alliance and sea oath, and there is no earth-shattering Western romance, Lu Jinbo's unique Chinese-style man romance deeply touched Zhao Ziqi.
Regardless of whether Lu Jinbo is married for the second time, and no matter what kind of negative impact his acting career will have because of this relationship, Zhao Ziqi is like a moth to the fire and throws himself into Lu Jinbo's arms.
Emotionally, Zhao Ziqi has always been a very emotional person, as long as he is identified, he will desperately run to love, in his own words, that is, "the old house is on fire", and there is no salvation.
After more than a year together, the two finally cultivated to the fullest and entered the palace of marriage.
However, the public has been talking about this marriage, after all, the fact is that Lu Jinbo was with Zhao Ziqi without divorce, and because of this, Zhao Ziqi was labeled "Little Three".
But saying that Zhao Ziqi is "Little Three" she is also really wronged, Lu Jinbo once loved his ex-wife Wang Lei, but when he knew Zhao Ziqi, he was already fighting a divorce lawsuit with his ex-wife.
That is to say, at that time, Lu Jinbo's marriage to his ex-wife Wang Lei was in name only, but it was delayed for a long time due to the division of property, and Zhao Ziqi was Lu Jinbo's girlfriend who only talked about after he resumed his singleness.
In the face of the public's finger-pointing of this relationship, Zhao Ziqi herself did not care very much, but Lu Jinbo did not want the girl he loved deeply to suffer such grievances.
He boldly stood up and expressed his love for Zhao Ziqi in the most sincere words:
"I met her at the most difficult time in my life, we talked a lot, we learned a lot, life is not easy for us.
She must be the poorest actress to marry, and she has suffered a lot of grievances when she married me, and now the two places are separated to see me start a new business, gathering less and leaving more.
But she said it was still good to be together."
In just a few lines of text, the paper is short and long, he did not mention his previous marriage, but he was defending Zhao Ziqi every word.
02
When he first got married, Lu Jinbo still maintained the image of a humble gentleman and a gentle jade like when he was in love, but soon after he got married, his "true face" was slowly exposed.
Lu Jinbo once commented on himself, "People who know me know that I am a good-tempered person."
The good temper here is not the "good temper" we usually understand.
As a famous publisher, Lu Jinbo often writes some film reviews, but most of the film reviews he writes are sharp, and it is precisely because of these sharp speeches that Lu Jinbo has aroused great controversy among the audience.
Because Lu Jinbo "has many enemies" in film criticism, he himself does not care, but Zhao Ziqi, who is Lu Jinbo's wife, has "suffered".
Zhao Ziqi still wants to shoot in the show business circle, her husband published sharp film reviews outside, in the face of his dissatisfaction with the film, there is no mercy, resulting in Zhao Ziqi's side of the "city gate fire and pond fish".
Before Zhao Ziqi was under the banner of Bona, as a result, Lu Jinbo wrote a large film review criticizing Bona's new film, Lu Jinbo was nothing more than besieged by netizens, but Zhao Ziqi not only had to accept the anger of netizens, but also had to accept the doubts of his superiors.
The boss directly found Zhao Ziqi and said, "Do you have an opinion on me?" ”
But Zhao Ziqi's side also has no way, she is not without persuading Lu Jinbo to let him control a little, but Lu Jinbo just does not listen to persuasion, and even uses "then I can't tell lies" to refute.
Obviously, before getting married, Lu Jinbo was still a gentle and jade image of a strange prince, who could have expected that after marriage, he would be so black and poisonous, and Zhao Ziqi really couldn't do anything with him.
Fortunately, after getting married, Zhao Ziqi is also about to disappear, otherwise with Lu Jinbo's mouth, it is difficult to say whether Zhao Ziqi can mix in the show business circle.
Regarding his own poisonous tongue film criticism style, Lu Jinbo has not come forward to explain.
"I think it's harmless for us to evaluate some bad movies, and everyone I know knows that I'm a good-tempered person, but I can't accept being uncultured."
Lu Jinbo's sharp film review also proves that he has always been a frank and simple person, and he will not think about any human feelings.
In the face of film works, he has the most sincere attitude to evaluate, which is also the point that Zhao Ziqi appreciates Lu Jinbo the most.
03
When he first saw Swen and humility, after marriage, his belly was black and poisonous, and it was estimated that only Zhao Ziqi could suppress Lu Jinbo, the big Buddha.
It is said that men after marriage often lose their enthusiasm when they are in love, and the feelings of husband and wife will also fade, but lu Jinbo and Zhao Ziqi's relationship seems to break this law.
After marriage, Lu Jinbo no longer wrote love letters expressing love, but spent more time on supporting his family.
Zhao Ziqi was not disappointed by this, she took good care of the family as usual, prepared the clothes that her husband needed for work in advance every day, and prepared a variety of tricks for each meal.
Even whenever she ate, Lu Jinbo always swallowed it and did not pay attention to the gorgeous presentation, she was never disappointed.
Because for Zhao Ziqi, cooking, plating, and taking care of everyone in the family is what she likes to do, everything is out of her own interests, nothing else.
"At home, I only have to go out, and when I enter the house, I will listen to my wife and dispose of everything."
After a year of marriage, Lu Jinbo and Zhao Ziqi had their first daughter, and the following year they became pregnant with a daughter, and after the daughter was born, Zhao Ziqi focused on taking care of her daughter.
Father Lu Jinbo is responsible for earning money outside to support the family, and mother Zhao Ziqi is at home taking care of the rear, they live a life that many old husbands and wives will live, but there are not so many complaints.
After marriage, Lu Jinbo never paid attention to any form and romance, but he also tried not to cause trouble to his wife as much as possible, because all love was in silence.
The daughter has brought great changes to the lives of Lu Jinbo and Zhao Ziqi, some people say that the daughter is more clingy to the father, but here in Lu Jinbo, the daughter is more sticky to Zhao Ziqi.
After having a child, Zhao Ziqi's Weibo and circle of friends have almost become a large show girl scene, and what her daughter said and did will be carefully recorded by Zhao Ziqi.
Every time Zhao Ziqi works outside, the time away from home will not exceed three days, and it seems that only by "punching the card" to her daughter will she be at ease every day.
Once Lu Jinbo was at home with his daughter as usual, Zhao Ziqi was busy filming outside, and as a result, the daughter directly said to her father: "Dad, in the future, you will go out to earn money to support your family, I want my mother to accompany me at home." ”
Although Lu Jinbo was sharp and poisonous when he wrote the film review, his mouth reached his daughter's place without a rut.
Lu Jinbo said that the relationship between himself and his wife is not so much a husband and wife as a strategic partner, and each family and career can give each other help and dependence.
No one is necessarily the pillar of the family, and a family needs to rely on the joint efforts of each member to run well.
There are always so many people in life who complain that there is not so much romance and warmth in marriage, but the daily chai rice oil and salt, trivial details are hidden in the time of small romance.
No one in marriage is willing to make sacrifices, the focus is on whether in a marriage relationship, can you find what you really like to do, such as some of the rituals you prepare, because you like it, not to please anyone.
Zhao Ziqi's new dramas "The Second Embrace" and "Several Popular Characters" are about to be broadcast, and the entire drama also focuses on the dilemma of women in the workplace in identity conversion.
Life is like a drama, for a woman, the husband and son do not necessarily mean sacrifice, and breaking into the workplace is not necessarily a winner in life.
Just like the theme of the play "The Second Embrace", how women weigh the workplace and family, how to get along and tolerate in a marriage relationship is a major problem in life.
There are not so many pretentious things in life, two people are in tune with each other, do not complain, do not bother, have the same values, and live well in the same magnetic field force is itself a very enviable happiness.
Just like Lu Jinbo and Zhao Ziqi, after marriage, they are also like many old husbands and wives, who focus on the details of life.
The husband is out and about, the wife enjoys the comfortable life brought by the husband, and the husband enjoys the comfort in the details that the wife prepares every day.
Moving forward with each other, understanding each other, that's the most romantic thing.