Yesterday, the teacher received a request for help from a mother, and the specific situation was like this.
My son is obviously 12 years old this year, his mouth is getting stronger and stronger, we say one sentence he can stand up to you ten sentences, I am so angry with him that I can't do anything.
Two days ago, he didn't go straight home after school, but played late outside with a few classmates. When it was time for dinner, I told him to go home, and my son, who was playing with water quality, refused to listen to how to call, there was no way, I had to take a strong pull and pull him back.
But as soon as he got home, he shouted at me, "Why do I have to listen to you, why don't you adults listen to me?" I want to play a little more!"
During the period and the son a lot of dialogue, here the teacher will not do a detailed elaboration, for the child does not obey the parents of the discipline should be done? Do you encounter a situation like this in the process of educating your children at home? What you tell your child to do, he doesn't listen, you let him do what he does, he just does it with you, always likes to talk back and bump into you.
In fact, adolescent boys are no longer as obedient as when they were four or five years old, which is a normal phenomenon, as a parent, you don't have to make a fuss, whose youth is not rebellious? But as a parent, you must pay attention to educational methods and skills when educating adolescent children.
The phenomenon of children and parents' back-talking often occurs, in real life, there are many boys who want to talk back to adults like this, so why are they older and more resistant?
In general, adolescent boys like to talk back for the following reasons.
1. The rebellious psychology of adolescent boys is very serious;
2, adults never consider the wishes of children, arbitrary;
3. Boys have too much self-esteem;
4. Parents lack communication and communication with boys;
5, parents love your children too much;
6, parents themselves can not lead by example;
7, love to quarrel with others and so on...
In fact, for children like to confront their parents this phenomenon is very good to solve, and then the teacher also through the education case to answer and analyze for you.
When the child resists, as a parent, you should not only blame him, but also criticize him without talking about ways and methods, regardless of the occasion, which will only cause the child to complain and hurt the child's self-esteem. Therefore, you should first analyze the reasons why your child is talking to you, and then prescribe the right medicine.
Talk to an adolescent boy with patience and don't hurt his feelings.
There was once a mom whose educational experience was this:
After his son went to junior high school, the problems began to increase more and more, and more and more unacceptable to her, either disgusted with her parents here or there, or felt that she was wordy, and often talked back to her.
Later, when the mother spent with her child and her son said that she was unhappy or criticized at school, the mother did not say, "What mistake did you make?" Instead, it is a sympathetic text from the perspective of his son: "Why are you unhappy?" After her son told her the details of the situation, she was working with her child to find a solution to the problem. Before long, the child not only stopped talking back to her, but also the originally rigid relationship with the child was eased.
I don't know if you were inspired by the case shared by the teacher, I have to say that this is a very smart mother, she knows how to change her methods in time to solve problems with her son, and her method of education is also worth trying other adolescent boy mothers.
Sometimes, the same meaning, just because the parents express it differently, can avoid boys from rebelling.
Therefore, as a parent, the way you talk to your children when you are with your children in your daily life, be more patient, think more from the perspective of children, don't hurt children's feelings, and maintain children's self-esteem, so that children will naturally not talk back to you.