There is a fable:
Once upon a time in a forest, a crow, a pigeon and other birds lived.
One day, the crow was very worried and planned to leave the forest on a chosen day, ready to say goodbye to the pigeons in advance.
The pigeon asked, "Why are you leaving?" ”
The crow replied with embarrassment:
"I don't want to leave, but a lot of people here are extremely unkind to me, and it's hard to hear my voices, and maybe no one here will welcome me to stay."
The pigeon listened, pondered for a moment, and then said gently, "My friend, if you do not face up to your problems, then no matter where you go in the future, no one will welcome you." ”
This is the famous law of the crow.
Lu Xun said:
"We must dare to face it squarely, so that we can dare to think, dare to say, dare to do, and dare to be."
In life, don't be a person who covers your ears and steals bells, you must be a frank and frank person, and you must be a person who dares to face everything squarely.
In fact, the sign that a person begins to mature is to dare to face himself.
On the other hand, if a person encounters a problem, he escapes, and is accustomed to letting others and the whole world accommodate himself and indulge himself.
Then there is no doubt that such a person can not play any value at all in reality.
And such a person, in this life, is destined to live a mediocre and boring life, like a pool of stagnant water, lifeless.
1: Face up to the shortcomings
Some people say that the reason why a person can become more and more perfect is that he knows more and more how to find his shortcomings and then correct them.
Let's imagine how much disappointment and loss reality would give him if he had a perfect mindset in the first place to treat anything or a person.
Taking ten thousand steps back, if everything in life is carried out according to his wishes, then wouldn't such a cookie-cutter life be very boring?
If everything is already prepared and does not require any manipulation or thought, then over time life must be boring.
I don't know if you have ever had such an experience:
When I was a child, I was accustomed to eating the best dishes made by my parents, thinking that it was the most delicious breakfast, lunch and dinner in the whole world, and enjoyed a long period of time with peace of mind.
Then, when we enter the society and begin to move toward independence, when we need to solve three meals a day by ourselves, we feel that we can't do anything and eat what we don't have the energy to eat.
When the parents are getting old one day and we carefully prepare three meals for our parents when we are filial piety, we will find:
The meals made by my parents used to be delicious, but now when I eat the meals I make myself, it will be delicious.
When the parents were young, they did not need to solve three meals a day, and in the process of growing up, they felt that in the matter of cooking, compared with their parents, their shortcomings were obvious.
However, when one day we really understand, in fact, if a person faces up to his shortcomings and does a good job with his heart, it will not take long for the effect to be very good.
As long as you are careful, you can also make a table for your parents to eat happily and happily.
However, most people now, especially when they are young, like to rely on the people around them and are accustomed to clinging to others.
They feel that it is good to cool under the tree, and they are not willing to face up to their shortcomings, or even directly ignore their shortcomings.
Then, thick-skinned and shamelessly enjoying the "fruit" of others.
In this world, there are no people without shortcomings, but if you know where your shortcomings are, and you know that it is serious, but you still do not change, then you are stupid.
Because a person does not correct this shortcoming today, tomorrow this shortcoming is still there, the day after tomorrow is still there, and the day after tomorrow will also be there.
And one day, you may accumulate more shortcomings because you have not solved this shortcoming today, thus dooming your life, that is, a life full of shortcomings, and the more you live, the more tragic you are.
As Voltaire said:
"What wears people is not the mountains in the distance, but a grain of sand in the shoes."
A person's shortcomings are like a grain of sand in the soles of shoes when climbing the mountain of life, the more shortcomings, the more sand.
Then, you will find that even if the mountains in front of you are towering into the clouds, the mountains are stacked, and the smoke waves are vast, no matter how attractive they are.
For you, the pain under your feet is enough to make you irritable and then climb without the heart.
In fact, life is not so difficult, just like you find sand in your shoes, so just stop and pour it out.
Life is not so difficult, when you find your own shortcomings, find your own shortcomings, then just change in time.
Herzritt said:
"A man without flaws is obviously non-existent because he cannot find a friend in this world, and he seems to belong to a completely different species."
There is no one in this world without flaws, just as there cannot be a perfect man.
Therefore, from this level, it is more necessary and more necessary for us to calmly face our own shortcomings and bravely face our own shortcomings.
Even rejoice in telling yourself: fortunately, I found this shortcoming in time, otherwise I don't know what I will suffer in the future.
2: Face up to the advantages
A person must not only face up to his own shortcomings, but also face up to his own advantages.
Because in many cases, a little inattention, but if you are not conscious, the advantages will also be transformed into shortcomings.
Face your shortcomings and inadequacies calmly, and then work hard to change it.
Then, correct their own advantages, learn to think in a different position, compare hearts to hearts, stop evaluating, blame and other mentalities, and the road of life can become broader and broader.
Truly intelligent people, or people with a certain wisdom in life, know that they retain the basic advantages they should have, that is, they do not blame or complain when they encounter problems.
Su Dongpo, a generation of literary heroes, was repeatedly persecuted because of the disputes between the imperial court, and was degraded several times, and the official road was very tortuous.
The farthest depreciation, to Hainan, where "one goes 10,000 miles, a thousand knowledge is not returned", the harsh living environment and frustrated life torment Su Shi's mind and destroy his will.
However, even in a desperate situation, Su Shi still did it calmly and calmly.
In the third year of his demotion to Hainan, when Emperor Zhezong of Song died, Emperor Huizong of Song succeeded to the throne, so the imperial court granted amnesty to the world.
Then, the son of zhang Huan, who had been the sworn enemy, was afraid that Su Shi would return to take revenge on his family because of the amnesty, so he wrote letters overnight, asking Su Shi to be magnanimous, open a net, and let himself go.
How to expect that Su Shi not only did not tit-for-tat, nor did he choose revenge, but even generously sent medicine to the other party's family to take care of his body.
Su Shi replied in the letter with this sentence:
"But the past, let alone the benefits, is only the one who has not yet been."
Let the past things pass, and anyone who wants to evaluate, theorize, even blame and complain, or even retaliate is not advisable.
The ancients said: Rebuke yourself with the heart of blame, and forgive others with the heart of forgiveness.
To be a person and do things, we must face up to our own advantages, come up with empathetic thinking, and forgive the personality charm to get along with people, and we are bound to be able to harvest a better life.
Su Shi has done a good job of facing up to his own advantages, so he has learned to take it, put it down, and live open-mindedly.
I like what Ushinsky said:
"Only by facing up to one's own ignorance can we expand our knowledge."
To face up to one's own ignorance is actually to face one's own merits, because when a person dares to admit his ignorance, it shows that he has the expectation and courage to change himself.
With expectation and courage, then in the next few days, we can dare to change for the sake of growth, and be willing to change for the sake of growth.
To change yourself is to face up to your own advantages, actively play out your own strengths, find micro-motivations, boldly pursue goals, and bravely achieve goals.
3: Face life squarely
The quality of life depends on the degree to which you dare to face life.
Every effort you make to face up to life is a positive change in your life.
It is said in "Zhuangzi Fisher Father":
"Man has eight defects, and things have four troubles, so we must not fail to observe them."
Everyone has at least eight kinds of problems, and everything has at least four kinds of evils, so we must be sober and clear in dealing with the world.
In life, no one is perfect, but after recognizing this fact, you can still maintain a courage to change yourself and dare to face life.
Don't be arrogant and self-effacing, don't give up on yourself, and change when you know what you don't know, instead of indulging yourself when you know what you don't know.
The strength of a man is that in order to be able to live the life he wants, he can endure any life.
Therefore, when we want to make our lives better and better, we need to tell ourselves to calm down, calm down, change ourselves, and make a long-term development.
As the British philosopher Russell said:
"Hobbies and momentary hobbies are not basic sources of happiness, but a means of escapism, a way to temporarily forget the unbearable pain."
Based on long-term goals, face up to their own shortcomings, but also face their own advantages, constantly evolve, constantly temper.
In this way, on the road of growing into a talent, live out your own truth, goodness and beauty.
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