01
Someone once said, "Everyone's motivation is traceable." ”
People are floating in the rivers and lakes, and everyone has their own interests to pursue. This is doomed to "you calculate me, I routine you" thing, will only be more and more, not less and less.
When I was young, I always had the idea that people in this world would not live easily, why can't they live in harmony, you respect me, I respect you?
After more experience, I slowly saw through that this idea of hoping that everyone would live in harmony could not become a reality at all. Because human beings, such creatures, after all, have greed and evil thoughts.
Mr. Jin Yong wrote: "Where there are people, there are grievances, there are rivers and lakes, and people are rivers and lakes." ”
If you work in the same unit as your colleagues, there will be contradictions between you. Either today we calculate each other for promotions and raises, or tomorrow we will fight for a little bonus. This is human nature.
Slowly, the word "villain" was derived from the jianghu.
Why are villains hated? Because they do things unscrupulously, and they have no bottom line for people, they pick things everywhere and calculate others everywhere.
If we want to avoid the calculations of villains, then we must find out their bottom line. Before the little man counts us, he will show these fox tails, pay attention.
02
Before counting you, the villain will deliberately be particularly nice to you.
It has been said that there is no good in this world for no reason, only sinister intentions.
In this world, no one but our parents are really good to us. This, on the other hand, is doomed to have a purpose in all "good" principles.
Just think, everyone in life is so busy that they don't even have enough time to rest, so who would really want us to have a good life?
In the workplace, if a colleague wants to calculate us, he is not evil to us at the first time, but deliberately approaches us, with a smile on his face, as if we are their nobles.
There is a saying that "if a man is abnormal, there must be a ghost, and if something is abnormal, there must be a demon." ”
A man, if he has done something abnormal, believe that he has absolutely no ill intentions. One thing, if it doesn't follow a normal trajectory, believe it must be something wrong.
So be wary of those who are deliberately good to us, who often hide their bellies full of intrigues and tricks.
03
Before counting you, the villain will go around in gangs.
There is one thing that honest people can't do, that is, forming their own small circles in the rivers and lakes and forming gangs. But for this matter, the villain is a familiar road.
You know, of all the circles in the workplace, the most existing are those who like to win people's hearts, left and right, and grasp the weaknesses of human nature to death.
You work hard and don't sin against anyone. However, the villain just looks at you unfavorably, thinks that you work hard, that you don't understand things, and even more do not fit in. At this time, the villain will have to "tidy" you up.
Of course, the villain "whole" person will not come over, let alone punch and kick people like a reckless man, but to draw people around you to target you, exclude you, and keep you in a corner.
As long as you are squeezed into the corner by villains, then your dream of promotion and salary increase cannot be realized. Because leaders need not only people with strong work ability, but also shrewd people with "smooth" interpersonal skills.
For villains, we don't have to fight with them, so that the well water does not violate the river water.
04
Before counting you, the villain will deliberately provoke you.
As mentioned above, villains are particularly familiar with the weaknesses of "human psychology", which dooms them to be practical "psychology masters", who can casually lead you and make you lose your way.
For example, if your colleagues around you deliberately embarrass you, or even push some tasks that are not related to you to do, how will you react?
I believe that people will feel "angry" at the first time, so that they will have a grudge with him. This often falls into the arms of others. Because your anger and anger will make your weaknesses all revealed.
Since everyone has an insurmountable "emotion", this "radical method" will always work.
Just like two chess players playing against each other, others provoke you, make you lose your rationality, and then you are in the midst of emotional attrition and wild thoughts. As a result, you will be one wrong step, one wrong step, and nothing will be left.
In the face of the villain, do not easily get angry, but be moody and angry, so that he can't see through, guess through, then you win half.
05
Before counting you, the villain will transfer the contradiction.
In the philosophy of dialectics, there is the principle of grasping the main contradiction and doing things.
The contradiction between us and the villain is essentially the contradiction between the "struggle of interests" and the "conflict of three views". We feel that people must abide by morality, and villains feel that they cannot talk about morality, and this contradiction does not arise?
What's more, we fight with the villains openly and secretly, that is, we regard the "villains" as one of the contradictions in life. This leads to only endless death between us and the villain.
In order to break this deadlock, the best way, what is it? That is to divert contradictions. When we have a contradiction with it, the villain transfers the contradiction to someone else's head and even provokes a new contradiction. In this way, our contradictions with the villains are covered up by new contradictions.
This is what we often call "Ming Xiu Zhan Dao, Darkness Chen Cang". The new contradictions on the surface are all false. Only the contradictions that are covered up are true.
Therefore, it is better to get along with the villain, respect and stay away, and try not to "compete with it", otherwise it will cause trouble.
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