In life, some people will have a smooth ride, and they will have a smooth ride for a lifetime.
But some people in life is not very smooth, sometimes just encountered a good thing, after a short time encountered some bad things, some people can not even meet some good things, encounter things are people are anxious, and finally overwhelmed.
Everyone will have some difficulties, and the reason why you encounter these difficulties in life is because people need to grow, and if you don't encounter these difficulties, you can't grow.
In addition, when you encounter difficulties, you will become more and more intelligent, because you know how to survive in this world, so you will try to learn a lot of things, and then let you get out of these difficulties.
When encountering difficulties, it is inevitable to ask for help from others, because the strength of the collective is huge.
But sometimes we must ask for people, and some people will not necessarily bring benefits after asking for them, but may also bring disadvantages.
When people are in distress, do not go down three or four times to ask these three people, there is no point.
01.
Wooing unkind people
When you encounter difficulties, don't bother with an unkind person, because such a person will only look at your jokes, so there is no point in seducing such a person.
If a person is kind enough to see that others are in difficulty, this person will lend a helping hand, because such a person is easy to be soft-hearted, so it is not easy to see others.
But some people are different, such people are hard-hearted, obviously know that others are in difficulty, but still pretend not to see anything, sometimes in the opposite direction to say something, or do something, and then make this victim more and more difficult.
There are good people and bad people in this world, so we have to have the ability to discern people.
Some people have befriended good people, so such people get benefits, and they are also smooth on the road, rather than bumping and bumping, or even letting others hurt.
Another person wants to make friends with good people, and when you make friends with good people, you will find that your life will get better and better.
Because good people will make you feel happy and happy, and will also purify your heart and make you kinder, so that your life will get better and better.
Only when you encounter difficulties can more people help you, and sincerely help you.
So make friends with good people, and be kind to others.
02.
Ask for help to beware of your people
Around us, there will always be some people who are always wary of us in life, and when we encounter something, these people are often afraid that we will surpass them, so they will also suppress you when doing things.
"Man dies for money, and birds die for eating."
If you encounter great difficulties at a certain stage, then these people who compete with you at this time will look at your jokes and even think that you are getting worse and worse, because only in this way, your competitors will be gone.
Therefore, when asking for help, don't ask those who are wary of you, because in this way, it will only make your situation worse and worse, because the other party will not sincerely help you when helping you, but pretend to help you.
The other party pretends to help you, in fact, to do something to hurt you, so that it will only make you more and more passive, but also will only let the other party know you better, more able to know your weaknesses, over time, you will be pinched by the other party.
If a person is wary of you, then this person must be thinking of harming you, otherwise, the other party will certainly not be wary of you. Imagine how a person can have such thoughts if he doesn't want to hurt you.
It is precisely because they have the idea of wanting to harm others, so they will feel that others are an obstacle, they will be wary of others, they will be afraid of others surpassing themselves, and once others have signs of upward mobility, this person will come to suppress.
03.
Ask for help from people who look down on you
Don't ask for help, a person who looks down on you, because when you ask for help from this person, you will feel particularly humble and very faceless, and at this time, your dignity will fall to the ground.
A person who looks down on you seems to give you some help, in fact they can't solve the essential problem for you at all, when you encounter some problems, this person maintains a high-minded appearance, seemingly helping you, but also helping you a lot of things.
In fact, when you look back and think about it, these people are actually only curing skin trauma, and the fundamental problem is still not solved.
And the other party naturally understands that he has not solved the fundamental problem for you, because this person's help to you is like giving alms called Hanako, so it is all a small favor.
In life, we must not be a person who looks down on others, because everyone has a comeback day, even if they fall, they can't lie on the ground forever.
So when you can't see others, you are pulling hatred, if one day the other party stands up, at this time the other party may slap you, then you may not have the strength to fight back, so don't be sarcastic and sarcastic.
In addition, in life, we try to be careful, do not be too reckless when doing things, otherwise sometimes fall, you will be stagnant, you have to change the current situation through many ways, which is also a great ordeal for a person.