Confidant World Culture Imagination Series (2)

Text/Confidant World Sister Wang Ruiping

From the liu xuezhou incident behind the ...

Incompetent parents and "cyber rioters" are both a disease

Symptom 1: Confusion

The parents finally received Liu Xuezhou. Xuezhou was thinking: Since I have found my own parents, my parents should also solve my problems that have been wronged. However, the parents of the school state can not distinguish between right and wrong, the child has good and bad, can not be abandoned because of the emotion of the school state, if the parents are always good and bad do not fight together, the child will get nerves, do not know how to do it in the end.

The sixth sense tells me that the parenting model of school state parents only stays in the wrong place, rather than solving problems with a responsible attitude and a caring attitude. The school state requires the housing problem to be solved, and do parents have any intention to implement it? Not solving or communicating, leading to such entanglement and distrust and anger, becomes a problem.

If people always live in their heads when they look at problems, they will not have flexibility in handling things and will always go around in the problem. This problem can only be seen if all our consciousness is associated with this error.

Parents need to communicate with their children, and such communication is the accumulation of parent-child relationship emotions. These inactive parents repeatedly use the means of abandonment, and squander the hard-won relationships without stinginess.

I can sense that the parents in the school state still want to handle the relationship well, otherwise there is no need to take him to the youngest son's birthday party. But why is there such a big conflict behind it? This phenomenon proves the selfish attitude of the parents of the school state, and if the parents of the school state can enter with sincerity, maybe it will not be like this.

Liu Xuezhou's parents are ostensibly avoiding Xuezhou, but deep down they are afraid of responsibility. And this fear of responsibility is related to some inflexible consciousness and lack of communication skills.

Human communication can dominate the fate of mankind. Parents who do not communicate with their children will make their children feel like a kite with a broken line. How a child behaves, thinks, emotions, and emotions is related to how parents communicate with their children.

Parents who don't communicate with their children, they also think, but they don't understand what they really need. They talk casually, without realizing what they mean behind what they are saying. People can not only rely on language to communicate, but more importantly, they can solve practical problems, so that both sides can understand the meaning and understand the needs.

The solutions are all contained in the problem, only parents can fully use the sense of innovation to create a good parent culture. Let us give full play to the sensitivity and strength of self-awareness, and do our best to communicate so that life can be rejuvenated.

Symptom two: self-disguised netizens

Some netizens, afterwards, will feel that when they first paid attention to the development of the Liu Xuezhou incident, they always remained silent, and did not speak out for Liu Xuezhou, and regretted it.

I would like to say that in fact, this is a routine manifestation of human beings seeking benefits and avoiding harms. People distance themselves from controversial matters in order to avoid making others feel that there is something special about them.

I want to say: don't suppress yourself, such a correlation reaction, in the past life is there a similar event? For example, I know that I don't like it very much, but I still submit to some unreasonable demands of some people. Such a flattering, obedient personnel relationship is stuck in the primitive form of social morality, like the level of the animal world, and the ultimate purpose of repression and grievance is to escape the blows of the enemy.

Symptom three: decadence

The media reported incorrectly, and afterwards refused to bear the responsibility of reform, in such a complicated and weak state of Liu Xuezhou's relationship with his parents, the media held the psychology of trying to collect news, and there would be no positive energy promotion for society at all. Only strong, mature, solid-minded and deeply rooted people are enough to solve extraordinary problems.

If the media, Liu Xuezhou's parents, can reflect afterwards, can see Liu Xuezhou's struggle and persistence with wisdom, they should apologize and make up with guilt, if they can do so, will things go differently? But there was no if, and in the end everything was destroyed, because everyone continued to refuse to communicate. I wondered: What kind of culture has caused the media and parents to have so many entanglements and divisions? Maybe it's the pressure of life and the fear of being unfairly evaluated, so it makes them feel decadent.

Such decadence turned into an escape, and "Mingzhe self-preservation" became their belief. They begin to feel disgusted and ashamed of the natural manifestations of the child's desire for love, and they are completely out of touch with life.......

What we usually inherit to our offspring is an unhealthy mental state, and the long-term unhealthy cultural state of society makes people unable to resist the invasion of harmful substances, resulting in a collapse of physical strength, and they appear to be so humble and bent at the hands of others.

We need to have a spirit of innovation, a spirit of commitment, a spirit of dedication. Spiritual hereditary weakness will make people give up self-motivation and innovation, and we need to overcome weakness through physical fitness and spiritual enrichment. The network is a double-edged sword, there are advantages and disadvantages, some "network violence", is this decadent type, think that they are presiding over justice, in fact, for their own sake, and do not want to take risks, and even do not care about the cost of life that others have produced, blindly hinder others, causing victims can not express normally, life spirit imbalance, such network violence behavior creates social disharmony.

Symptom four: moral problems

In order to prove their innocence, Liu Xuezhou's parents went to the media to talk about Liu Xuezhou's not. In order to increase traffic, the media also reported without finding out the facts, and there was no remedy afterwards. Why do these adults do so many immoral things to a 15-year-old and feel so relieved afterwards? It seems that the extraordinary problem of "popularizing culture" must be universally accessible to the whole people in order to succeed. Only by cultivating and encouraging more socially intelligent managers can society solve the great task of popularizing culture.

Cultural workers must insist on leading the positive energy of society!

A person's behavior should be in line with his morality, whether it is Liu Xuezhou's parents or the media, their avoidance has a positive motive for their avoidance, and I am trying to find some emotional roots...

Symptom five: boring type "Internet storm" person

In this era of high-speed operation, through Liu Xuezhou's observation of the Internet violence incident, I found that in many modern people, I saw a serious "boredom" problem. For me, who is constantly pursuing to surpass myself, such "boredom" is not easy to kill myself in a chronic way, and it is self-destruction.

Are those who do not solve any problems, always have to be highly bored, in order to seek a sense of existence on the Internet, and unscrupulously attack the weak and small people are not ashamed?

Symptom Six: Forget your part

The duty of parenting is to raise children, if parents forget their duty in the process of raising children, the ultimate purpose is only to deliberately occupy the position of parents and achieve the purpose of controlling children.

Forgetting this part is inaction, acting in the spiritual world to bring harm to the child, such a parent is divided in the heart, bringing pain to the child, hurting the child also hurts himself. Let us look back at our own problems, with love, with hope, with the spirit of creation to influence the child, the achievement of children at the same time to achieve their own is the right way for parents!

Symptom Seven: Constrained Human Nature

Liu Xuezhou's parents told the media that Liu Xuezhou wanted a house, and Liu Xuezhou's classmates said that Liu Xuezhou just wanted to get approval.

I found that some of the behaviors caused by people's desire to control restrain human nature and corrode people's hearts. So I'm going to break down such a pathological evasion of responsibility here. When I do this, the people I criticize will not be able to understand, I just want to influence more parents, to be an enlightened, life-advocating intelligent parent.

Today, I am clear about the problem of the Liu Xuezhou incident, and I am bluntly advised, only because I understand the truth that "there is a nest and the egg is not broken". Those two-faced people who only talk about it when it comes to their own interests, even if they solve the problem, they do not respect the damaged, they lack the spirit of envy and hatred for the people, but they form a solution that hurts nature and reason in the self-righteous thinking mode of the upper echelons, so that small problems become big problems, and facts become century-old jokes.

In doing so, I want the whole society to improve its sense of social responsibility and attach importance to the cultivation of family souls. From this point of view, in this era, I have paid a lot for my ideals and beliefs, including happiness and tranquility, and even my own life.

People are often unaware of the terrible suffering they cause to the minds of others

The struggle and pain caused by Liu Xuezhou since he recognized his relatives made me deeply feel the mental torture from my parents' inaction. Liu Xuezhou's parents, while asking Liu Xuezhou to bear the consequences of their inaction, also want to control Liu Xuezhou's behavior, not allow Liu Xuezhou to have excessive behavior, Liu Xuezhou's excessive behavior is regarded as filial piety by them! All this resulted in a terrible attitude of silence and acquiescence in the suppression and torture inflicted on Liu Xuezhou by his parents and the media.

This mental torture sent Liu Xuezhou into hell, causing him to fear, and when he wanted to sue his parents for rebellion, he was reminded that he would become unfilial. Later, he chose to give up, but his abandonment did not bring any compensation and repentance for these adults! I think for a 15-year-old, this kind of dumb eating, having unspeakable helpless choices, must bring about his own deep heart, his own inability to do anything boring, heavy, terrible self-pity.

The behavior of "Liu Xuezhou's parents" has brought Liu Xuezhou's inner pain, and I feel the same!

The behavior of "Liu Xuezhou's parents" is found at all levels of society, and even too much to live. Usually people who have suffered this kind of treatment, when venting their emotions, are both emotionally impulsive and arrogant, and relentlessly vent the hatred and anger in their hearts. Just like the dialogue between Liu Xuezhou's mother and Liu Xuezhou, the angry voice behind Liu Xuezhou's dialogue with his mother has become a seriously injured child!

Symptom 8: Bad parents

Treating children incorrectly should be a sin, and the way of thinking of healthy parents is usually a moral way of thinking, so the way of thinking of sinners and the way of thinking of bad parents should be exactly the same, in the face of bad parents, in addition to expressing anger and abandonment, more we can take the good wishes of doctors to treat them with the good wishes of curing diseases and saving people.

In the Liu Xuezhou incident, Liu Xuezhou initially went to see his parents with a calm and curious mood, and he wanted to experience the life of having his biological parents in his heart.

Since the Liu Xuezhou incident, I have learned about the Liu Xuezhou incident over and over again, and I want to understand the background, feelings, and causes of the incident of each party, and finally combine my own life experience to re-certify the relationship between criminal psychology and social education! As an educational parent, if you want to really educate your child well, the reasonable requirements for the abandoned child, no matter what the requirements, as long as it is beneficial to her health, the parents should not hesitate to provide them to him.

Parents blacklisting their children can make children temporarily unable to find you, but if the child's heart disease is not cured, the tragedy that occurs later is irreparable! So my suggestion is that parents should not only use coercive means to solve problems, but also be a warm parent, play an educational role in order to truly help these loveless children!

About collective intelligence

Xuezhou looks for his parents like a curse, eager to get the love of his parents, but he does not understand human nature, so he attracts Internet violence because of Geng Zhi.

Healthy parents, social complexity and children's immature heart, should have great tolerance and understanding, it is clear that the parents of the school state are not healthy parents, coupled with the violent attacks of the media reports netizens, resulting in the life of the school state halfway to die, which is the result of the irresponsible evolution of collective motivation. We have to admit that we are stuck in infancy and have lost our collective intelligence!

We are physically adults, but we all have a baby inside our bodies. The psychological characteristics of babies are: everything is up to me, my judgment of my will, must persist. Good and bad cannot coexist, black and white cannot coexist, good and evil cannot coexist, and different opinions cannot coexist.

We need to see the fact that we are collectively stuck in infancy, that we allow only this state, deep understanding and acceptance, and then from here we grow into a wise person.

The wisdom of one person is no way to accomplish everything independently, because the wisdom and capacity of the individual is not enough, and family problems require family members to work together and use collective wisdom to find solutions.

Liu Xuezhou, as a child who lacks love, needs his parents to work together to make up for his lack of love, but divorced parents, obviously can not reach a consensus, can not give Liu Xuezhou the feeling of home, their relationship will also lose the exchange center, 15-year-old Liu Xuezhou, unable to handle such a family relationship independently, so collapsed.

Whether it is an individual or an enterprise, the generation of collective wisdom needs to be based on common goals and common mechanisms. The relationship between parents is right, the child is right, and in the mechanism of parental care, children can grow up strongly. From the corporate and social perspective, we must think about the principles of collective wisdom.

The family needs a home and everything to be happy, and the family members must have a team spirit, and collaboration is like music conducting. In collective life, in addition to the spirit of cooperation, how to respond is also important? Collaboration and response will always be very basic elements and the most critical mental models in group life.

Now, we invite everyone to embark on this journey of collective wisdom exploration, and we will make this important decision together to use collective wisdom to create a 100-day conscience cultivation training camp, and to do the most practical conscience cultivation training that integrates collaboration and challenge. We will create creative collaboration, through collaboration, through a lot of challenges, together for their children, for their children and grandchildren to create a very different world of confidants. Through this kind of conscience training camp, we constantly collaborate to help ourselves and achieve our dreams.

We use collective wisdom to observe together, cooperate happily, improve life resistance to stress, influence more people together, and use collective wisdom to complete the network confidant world!

Confidant World "100-Day Training Camp for Life Reconstruction"

Do not persuade others to be good without suffering

No one can be morally committed to the many problems of personal needs, emotional joy, and emotions.

Looking at the Liu Xuezhou incident, it will be found that the answer to the question and the question itself are by no means on the same level. You can't solve the problem of the moment with your existing thinking, existing connections, existing resources, and existing capabilities. Only by elevating yourself to a higher dimension can you solve it. Only by thinking in high dimensions can you raise your wisdom, your energy, and your life dimension to a higher dimension, and at the same time your problems will no longer be problems.

When in real life, people are led by unwise cultures and habits, life becomes full of holes, and the 100-day training camp of the world of confidants - life reconstruction and conscience cultivation will lead people to live wisely, and through learning, transform into a person with excellent conscience and wisdom.

We don't say the law of "you should..." we just have to learn to distinguish it from the wrong weeds, to communicate consistently by understanding a person's behavior, and to adjust their behavior to achieve the outcome of the adjustment event through the "100-day training camp for life reconstruction" in the world of confidants!

"Life Reconstruction - Conscience Cultivation 100-Day Training Camp" is to help people who are eager for happiness, desire equality, and longing for love to understand themselves more, understand the psychological skills of benign communication between people, and are the true education that stimulates people's morality and conscience cultivation.

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[Ms. Wang Ruiping, the founder of Confidant World, is a senior cultural work communicator, with more than a dozen international mentor certification qualifications such as "International NLP Mentor Certificate" and "Life Coach Mentor Certificate", and her experience over the years has made her feel and witness too many cultural changes in life, culture creates happiness, and culture changes life.

Therefore, she hopes to take the Pingruitang Academy on the world island of Zhixin as a platform to integrate the essence of China's 5,000 years of excellent traditional culture and the wisdom of sinology, help the world to get out of the trough, help entrepreneurs run enterprises well, advocate teaching them to educate Confucian merchants, pass on the Tao to build a strong country, and use cultural preaching to help the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation. Because of this great ideal and ambition, it has attracted a large number of outstanding mentors and cultural communication workers at home and abroad to participate in the co-construction. 】