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In October 2019, I set out from the UK for a trip to the Netherlands, where I met the love of my life.
I am a literary girl who studied politics, loves to draw, and loves Van Gogh.
Go to the Netherlands that meeting, just happened to meet Van Gogh's painting exhibition, I went alone to see the exhibition, in that exhibition, he is also a person, Chinese in the overseas family, we all noticed each other at a glance, I think he should also like Van Gogh, I love the house and Wu, added WeChat to each other.
In Georgia
When I first added WeChat, the two of us didn't often chat, he returned home from Tanzania on leave, and I was in the UK, with a time difference of 7 hours.
Then by chance, the contact between the two of us suddenly increased, and the more we talked, the more speculative, he knew that I studied politics, so he told me about various politics, he knew astronomy and geography, and over time, I was slowly attracted to him, and my heart rippled.
But one in Britain, one in China, I was hesitant at first to start this exotic love.
I have had an experience of a foreign love, but also because the foreign country broke up, so before I met him, I firmly resisted the foreign love, but sometimes it was so coincidental, the most resistant thing, after meeting someone, everything became less important.
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Shortly after confirming the relationship, I graduated.
He wanted to come to England to pick me up and take me back to China, but because the visa could not be processed, the two of us had to change our plans--- go to Georgia, where we would meet, travel, and return home together.
From the moment we established the relationship, we have been together for almost 3 years now, but we have actually met and stayed together for less than 1 month, and the memories of this short month have occurred in Georgia.
Looking back now, the days in Georgia, every day was incredibly happy and laid a solid foundation for our relationship, Georgia is a testimony to the love between the two of us, and one day, we will return there again.
We are in Georgia
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At the end of December 2019, we returned to China, and just after returning to China, we encountered the worst time of the epidemic, I was in Baoding, he was in Wuhan.
The 7-hour time difference has become a 5-and-a-half hour pass time, but Wuhan is locked down, it is still very difficult for us to meet each other, and when there is nothing to do, we can only chat on WeChat, play games, although it is bland but also very happy.
After the wuhan epidemic improved, he ended his vacation and set off again for Africa--- Kenya. I stayed for 2 years, during which time I never returned to China, and the two of us never saw each other again.
After returning to China for half a year, I found a job as an English teacher in China, usually need to prepare for classes, and began to be busy, he is the person in charge of the project, the work is also particularly busy, so we have time to chat, no time to go their own busy.
He often bought me some flower materials and let me learn to arrange flowers, which is also the background picture of his WeChat
In the past, when I was in England, 7 hours slow, often he waited for me, and now in Kenya, 5 hours slower, it becomes me waiting for him. Over time, I also slowly got used to kenyan time, and when I had lunch, it was Kenyan morning, and I often said good morning while eating lunch, and when I had dinner, he ate lunch, and at this time, we had time to talk.
In January 2022, he had planned to return to China, but the ticket was constantly circuited, and after several unsuccessful attempts, he finally had to give up the idea.
Compared with long-distance love, in addition to rarely meeting, foreign love also faces a difference in time, so many things are more fragile, especially when they have not seen each other for a long time, conflicts are more likely to occur.
There are many quarrels, and we have slowly found a way to deal with it, no matter what kind of quarrel, it must not be a cold war, which is also an agreement between the two of us.
No matter how unhappy and angry you are, you must not be cold, even if you don't speak, you must always keep the phone, as long as you keep the phone, the two people will have something to say, as long as there is communication, this result is generally good.
Slowly, the two of us got to know each other more and more, and now we rarely quarreled, and our feelings were very stable.
I especially like to draw, and slowly I get better and better, and he will buy me a paintbrush
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Although I have been in a relationship a few times before, I have never chosen someone so firmly, and I recognize him, trust him, and admire him.
He is 6 years older than me and will be more mature, steady and considerate on many things.
Every time I asked about something, he could always say the origins of it and extended to something more, and from him, I learned so much. So for so long, I never thought about whether this person was worth it, he was deeply attracted to me, until now it has not changed, he is very capable, I like such a person.
In the past few years of falling in love, I actually want to praise my boyfriend, he really did a very good point, but I didn't say these words to him, I don't want to make him proud. But then I figured out that in fact, these words were very necessary, to let him know, in my heart, I was very sure of him.
In the period when I first returned to China, I did not find a job, in order to let me kill time, he sent me a pet to raise, in order not to let me take care of the trouble, he chose two lizards for me, this gift should not be thought of by ordinary people! Very good little things, when I have free time, I play with them and share with him every day the latest situation of two small lizards.
He gave me two little lizards
Before going abroad, he would write a poem to me every day, I thought that in a few days it would be gone, but I didn't expect to really insist on a hundred days, if it was me, I felt that I couldn't hold on for so long, although this is all small details, but it deeply touched me, with these bits and pieces, it is difficult to make the two people have a sense of distrust, even if it is a foreign country, it can always support each other.
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In July 2021, the domestic double reduction policy, educational institutions were deeply hit, I was busy at the beginning, slowly became idle, after completing this year's work, I submitted a resignation application and made an important decision to work in Kenya.
In addition to the reasons I want to be with him, I myself enjoy working abroad. My parents are very supportive, otherwise I wouldn't have made such a big determination, I have lived abroad alone, they are more at ease with me, plus I have been with him for such a long time, I can take care of each other, in their hearts, they have been very recognized by this future son-in-law.
When I was studying in England, because of the distance, I took my mother to Morocco. It was also my first trip to Africa, the Sahara Desert is so beautiful, and until now, I want to go back there again.
My photo album book records every place I go, the first one on the top is the first country I go to, and the bottom one is the first country we go to together
Morocco is small, but the way the locals live makes me yearn, people feel rich, don't have to think about anything, every day sun and sand, this is my dream life, although it is difficult to reach now, I have been working hard.
A long time ago, I set myself a small goal, before the age of 35, I will do my best to try, to accumulate savings that will allow me to live a peaceful life, and it is better to have love by the way. After the age of 35, I will slow down and enjoy life.
Although I have not been to Kenya, he often gives me pictures of local landscapes, interesting things, and I often fantasize about my life after the past, or the future is farther away.
The mountain he photographed looked sacred, and I would have to go again when I got to Kenya
In a few years, I think we will all reach the right age to get married, will we change to work in other countries after marriage? Will we buy a small house in Mombasa? Go over there to work and see the sea.
When I think about this, I feel very good in my heart, maybe after the real environment, my thinking will change, but for now, I still want to work with him in a city, and by the way, I can take care of him.
The two of us are now fighting to be able to work together, and I feel very hopeful about such a day, and I am looking forward to the day when we meet more and more.
At the beginning of the year, he asked me what I had made? I said, "I must spend my birthday with you this year!" "I don't know if it's going to happen, but I know everything is going to get better.
His own first birthday in Kenya, be sure to spend his next birthday with him
After returning home from England, I became very Buddhist. There has been a big change in attitude to life, and I am beginning to be able to accept things that cannot be changed, which may also be related to my philosophy of undergraduate science. I think that pain, failure, and the things that are not good in life can be accepted peacefully.
"It will always pass", this sentence, just like me and him, will always be together, I have always thought so, so I have a lot of confidence in us.
Although now because of the epidemic, my city is locked down, I don't know when it will be unblocked, but I still believe that it will always pass, after all, those days that have not met in the past have persisted in the past, aren't they.