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People will meet many people in this life, have stories with some people, and finally choose a person to enter into marriage, and grow old with a white head.
When we choose to come together with a person, we are fantasizing about being able to go all the way to the end with him, except for a few people who treat feelings as a game attitude, most people are very religious about love, because of love, so come together, because of love, so it is determined that it is you.
It's just that feelings are never a once and for all thing, two people come together because of a momentary heartbeat, which is a very easy thing, and the difficulty is the future management.
The reason why those couples who will be separated is not because they do not love enough, but because they cannot operate and do not know how to cherish it.
What we all have to admit is that even the person who first loves deeply, with the passage of time, the feelings will fade, and the weakening is not because they do not love, but the two people continue to get along in a different way.
Some people disperse as they walk, for many reasons, some because they have changed their minds, and some who have completely parted ways after a quarrel.
People's life always has to experience many times to miss, pour out their hearts and lungs to love a person, but in the end there is no way to come together, in the face of such dispersion, the heart is always a little difficult to reconcile.
Will be sad because of an unworthy person, and will also have doubts about love because of a missed person. Presumably we have all been skeptical and sentimental for those who missed it. But in fact, all the misses can only prove that they are not deeply loved.
I remember when I first watched "The Former Three", I would be sad and tearful for the dispersion of Lin Jia and Meng Yun, the two people had been together for so long, the feelings were so deep, but in the end they still came to the end of dispersion.
Presumably, many people have been touched by that line: one will not go, one thinks it will stay.
Both people are waiting for the other to take the initiative and give in, and in the end neither of them has waited, they are all angry with each other, so that they completely part ways.
After all, it is still not enough to love, if it is really deeply loved, how can it miss that person because of pity?
Honestly, we must have all done such things, when we are young, we will take temper, self-esteem, and face more seriously than anything else, two people are harder than whose temper is harder, they are unwilling to give in, they often quarrel over a little thing, and many people go to a strange road after an argument.
At that time, many things would be important, but they did not take that person to heart.
He says he loves him, but in reality? It's just that the words are good, but nothing is done in behavior.
If you really love him, how can you say something hurtful? Each knows each other's weaknesses, and neither person is merciless. If you really love him? How could he let go of his hand so easily? Unwilling to bow your head, unwilling to seek peace, willing to miss rather than show weakness, how can this be love?
Before hearing those misses, I would feel the same feeling, thinking that the fate was too shallow, in fact, using fate to summarize the emotional loss, just a kind of self-comfort.
Push the dispersion in love to the point of having no part, you can pick yourself out, in fact, you ask yourself, have you really worked hard for this love? Do you really want to go down with him? Do you really love him that much?
All the inaction in love, in fact, is not so loving, will watch the decline of love, originally love is not to work hard to manage things will be gone.
I used to think that it was too arbitrary to reduce all separation to not loving enough, but now I can say with absolute certainty that the reason why two people are separated is actually not deep enough love.
Either one party already wants to let go, or both people have the intention of leaving, allowing the relationship to develop freely and go into decline.
If two people love each other deeply, then they will not easily fall apart.
Because you know it's not easy to meet him, it's a shame to miss it, and the moment you choose to come together with him, you never want to be separated from him.
Maybe there will be better people than him on the road in the future, and maybe there will often be some temptations in life, but as long as the heart is firm in the direction, then it will not be easy to deviate.
After meeting him, you are no longer full of fantasies about unreachable love, he is all your expectations of love. No matter how good others are, it has nothing to do with you, no matter how romantic and sweet other people's love is, you will not envy, will not look forward to, the best love is after meeting you, never envy anyone.
Because your heart is particularly firm about your love, even if it is not so materially full, even if the other party is not romantic enough, but you are very sure that he is the person you want to stay with for a lifetime.
You love each other deeply, care about each other, both sides are trying to be good to each other, to get close to each other, there will be no suspicion, doubt, pity, and will not easily say break up.
Of course, even if two people who love each other deeply, there will be certain contradictions and frictions in the process of falling in love, which is inevitable. This is the time to test whether your love is deep, and people who do not love deeply enough will take themselves very seriously, because they value their feelings too much, thus ignoring each other.
You are always measuring and calculating how much the other party has paid for you, you value your face too much, feel that if you bow your head first, is it too faceless, will you be looked down upon by him, will you be in a low position in this love?
When a person is flooded with these thoughts, then it is clear that he does not love the other person deeply enough.
If it is deep love, where will there be so much thought to consider the depth of love, face self-esteem is not important, as long as he is around.
As long as you don't lose him, then whatever you want to do is willing to do. This is the real reaction of people who love each other deeply.
As long as both sides are firm enough and firm enough, then no matter how much friction and how many contradictions can be solved.
So don't make excuses for breaking up anymore, it comes down to not loving each other enough. Not enough love will be separated, and two people who love each other will never miss it.
Because you are all taking care of each other's emotions, you are all working hard for a good ending to this relationship, as long as you love deeply, you can face all difficulties.