The little idiot's life is a joke. Others laughed, and she laughed herself. Obedient, sensible, obedient, not troublesome. This is the iron demand of the family for her. She tried so hard to do it that she ended up living as a joke.
The rules set by the ancestors are the precepts that parents hang on their lips. "Parents are all parents in the world", parents act according to the rules of heaven, how dare small children question?
"I'm for your own good." Poor parents in the world! After the whitewashing of the "traditional filial piety", this invincible blade is handed over to the parents, so that they can be majestic at home, and their feet are higher than the child's head!
The sister is very lucky, living in the most positive family style of the world is the parent and I am for your own good style of heartbreaking for children. Strive to live yourself as an "obedient, sensible, obedient, and trouble-free" person.
What happens in the end? It is just to take one's most precious youth and youth to satisfy the selfish desires of others and provoke a laugh.
Since she started elementary school, she often dressed strangely and her hair was disheveled. The untidy image, the little children themselves do not understand, the family does not care, no one cares about the children always have to suffer losses. There was no way, she looked up at the pale sky, shed a little tear, and then quietly wiped it away.
Suffer from the blank eyes of teachers and classmates.
Don't get me wrong, the little idiot is an only child! Both parents are alive in the same house for three generations, and their parents are regular employees of state-owned units! It was already the 80s when she didn't have to worry about food and clothing, thanks to the blessing of family planning, she became the first generation of only children in China. Born under the red flag, grown up in the bustling city center. But the superiority of the only child was not reflected in her.
The only child on the street lives happily, but she will always be like a refugee. Parents commute to work every day only pay attention to work, in accordance with the tradition of grandparents taken care of by the ancient rare years, the elderly in the 20s with granddaughters, limited cognition, to eat and drink enough, there is clothing, not to mention the girl, is absolutely the love of the heavens!
The strange costumes of the dumb sister have become a dazzling landscape in the school, and most of them are the old clothes of parents who pick up other relatives or colleagues or acquaintances. style? Old or new? Think too much. Even during the New Year's Festival, the family didn't have a single penny of spare money to buy her a new dress on a ceiling-level "luxury" budget, no, never. So I saw only the little idiot sister, wearing the old clothes of my middle-aged cousin (elbow hair) today, and tomorrow wearing the skirt of another relative who is more than ten years older. I couldn't even find clothes to wear, and in the middle of summer, I flipped out the woolen skirt that I didn't know who it came from, causing my classmates to watch. Two years later, in junior high school, the girl's body began to develop, and the skirt that was too "showing the figure" made the girl very embarrassed. So as a last resort, he carefully proposed to his father to buy a suitable new dress. The father looked at it doubtfully for half a day, this dress is not torn or broken, why waste money to buy it? You are an ignorant child, don't you know that your family is very poor, your father's salary is low, and your family still depends on your mother to support you?! The little idiot sister had to stop mentioning it. Every day, hunched over, desperately trying to cover up the developing figure. I am very afraid of the eyes of passers-by. No matter how hard it is, I can only endure it. Be obedient, be sensible, and save money for your family!
Little dumb girl instigation, is really instigated.
Why didn't she look for her mother? She didn't dare! Mom is the breadwinner of the family, earning money to support the family, too busy to touch the ground, under great pressure, and no energy to take care of these small things. It was as if there had never been such a thing in the world, and never asked a question. Mom's only concern was one thing: test scores. Like an obsessive-compulsive disorder patient. Coupled with the fact that Qiang likes to scold people, the little dumb girl has always been able to carefully observe her face to judge her mood, and never dare to say a word to her.
The little idiot sister is very afraid of her mother combing her hair, but she will not comb it herself, and her mother has no patience to teach! A large white iron comb is like a torture device, just pull, whether you hurt or not. In order to comb less a few times, I used a rubber band to tie my hair firmly each time, and I couldn't sleep. Comb once a few days, sometimes once a week. So the girl's hair was not straightened. This meticulous work, or after going to junior high school, finally the fat class teacher can't see it, only to teach! To this day, I still remember the helpless look of the class teacher, huh.
Of the only children in the class, she had no friends. Who wants to play with such an unattended child? Bullying is also commonplace.
But the little girl did not dare to tell her parents. They'll leave it alone. Dad believed that "everything is inferior, only the reading is high". Throughout her life, my mother remembered the revenge of being deprived of the opportunity to go to school and read, and her heart was only for scores. Scores became the only topic of conversation between the three of them, the only "serious thing". Parents' wishes are important! Reading is a big deal! Leave is not allowed in any situation!
Grandpa died, went back to his hometown for burial, and the whole family went. The ten-year-old girl was left alone at home for three days. Can't take time off, have to go to school! The girl endured the fear, and ate three days of leftovers alone in the home of Black Gollum! The iron will of the parents is the order and rules of this family! Afraid of her parents' faces, she was often threatened with disobedience and would be kicked out of the house, and she did not dare to say a word.
Up to now, more than 30 years later, where is Grandpa? She often stared at the palm-sized toy hammer and thought. It was a little toy that her loving grandfather had made for her. The wooden handle has cracked. No one, whether parents or relatives, remembered that she was Grandpa's favorite granddaughter, and no one took her to see Grandpa, no one told her which direction Grandpa's grave was facing. She was too non-existent in this family, the family worship, no one ever thought of her.
Now over 40 years old, she carefully collects a small hammer in a flannel box. That was her only precious thought of her grandfather.
The little sister is also a person, and as an adult, she has become stubborn. Stubborn sister bites to death and does not ask her parents and relatives about this, but look at this gang every day to brag that there are people who have hearts, have you ever remembered one day?!
The little idiot sister is very disliked by her parents. They work hard to earn money to pay tuition, and this stupid kid can't get his grades up! Parents who don't get a return on their investment are quite angry. The little idiot sister only quietly wondered: when investment and business have failed, why do you ask her to earn?! But she really can't earn points, what to do?
Annoyed parents don't hit people, but they scold. Especially Mom, scolded that called a fierce! Tear the homework book folding pen, what ugly words are protruding outwards, pounding the ground on the ground, even if the sister puts on the steel helmet, the spit star can smash out the hole! The scene was so exciting that I couldn't help but laugh at my neighbors. The dumb girl had no way to hide, and was forced to practice the skill of loading mushrooms. The stupid sister mother did not ask about the place at any time, in front of teachers, classmates, relatives, neighbors and other people, while scolding and complaining. Disobedient, unfilial, not trying, balabala... How hard she had been, how painful and regrettable it was that she couldn't go to school... By the way, all kinds of trivial matters in the life of the little dumb sister that make the parents dissatisfied are added to the oil and vinegar and blatantly cursed, in short, it is not satisfied with the unhappiness, and the little dumb sister makes her sad and uncomfortable. As long as she is not satisfied, she always boils down to: disobedience, ignorance, laziness.... It was as if this daughter had not been born to her, but had come specifically to cause her trouble. Sometimes I can't find anything to say. In order to win attention, in order to make a start, the editor should also make up some things to say that the dumb girl is disobedient and does not understand things, in order to continue the following topic. Dumb sister mother in a variety of circles of friends relatives circle neighbor circle curse and complain, private heart feel relieved, but also hope to fight to pay attention to sympathy and respect, relatives and friends may be able to help her, together scold dumb sister, together to manage dumb sister, let dumb sister listen to her words, obey her will, to work hard, earn points for her to earn face. Like a walking barrel of explosives, the pressures and suffocations of life are released through this method. The audience was impatient. Everyone directly gathered around to count the little dumb sister, even if the account was made, quickly pacified the complaining woman to the explosive barrel, which not only gave everyone's face, but also did not make efforts. So everyone dispersed satisfactorily.
Only Yu was like a little idiot who had violated the rules of heaven and was publicly executed.
Such drama can be staged at any time. Dumb sister mom is happy to do this. She probably thinks this is when her daughter uses it best. Snubbed in social circles, she needs this word introduction, back pot man.
The little idiot sister is trained by the "family training" day by day, and the little age is like a pebble polished for thousands of years, sluggish and stupid, without edges and angles, not seeking progress, only seeking partial security, as if she has aged in advance, always want to disguise herself as a small mushroom at home, and no one should bother. Especially afraid of occasions such as relatives gathering, it must be her execution ground.
Cardamom years, children carefree, travel together, laugh and sprinkle in the sun. The little idiot sister can't do it, she doesn't dare to come out of the door. I was afraid of the strange eyes of my neighbors and wished I never had to go out during the day. She knew that she was not like other children and could live freely in the sun. Only dare to go out after dark, the right to let the wind blow. Since she was a teenager, she has practiced a skill: she can stay out of the house for a whole week.
She hid alone in the cold room, enviously watching the other children's spirits and smiling.
Teenagers, to the annoyance of their parents, have a sense of autonomy. This "anti-bone", they vowed to break. "My own child, I can't say anything?" You people are mine, you dare to grow anti-bone?! Mom reprimanded her.
"Hitting is kissing and scolding is love, the old saying is correct!" If the dumb sister's father said, "Your mother loves you, why does she scold you for not scolding others?" Because you are her daughter, she has worked hard to scold you! Dad thought he was a cultural person, educating his sister: "As the old saying goes, if there is a change, if there is none, it will be encouraged!" Mom criticizes you, you listen! Even if you don't do those things, you have to take them as a warning! ”
A dose of poison was poured down, and the dumb sister was powerless to resist.
Dad, who didn't read a single book, took the gentle route and decided to tutor himself. Every day, I racked my brains to come up with a lot of strange calculation problems, trying to tie my daughter to the desk forever and earn points without wasting a minute. The math teacher saw that the little idiot girl was always stingy, and the speed of the ants climbing to do those problems, as if they were working very hard, but the results did not improve at all, and they were very confused. Take a look at her father's practice questions, her expression is strange, and she wants to stop talking. After all, the dumb sister father is very responsible, and he will also work hard to tutor the children himself. It was a positive energy, and it was inconvenient for her to say more. So I put down the exercise book lightly and left. Dumb sister dad does not know where the confidence comes from, and he dares to talk about it when he has not graduated from junior high school. I despise the knowledge of elementary school. The teacher asked to write a narrative essay, and the father who could not distinguish the genre of the composition, guided out an argumentative essay..... The old fool with a little confusion, finally in the class question session, the stupid girl who walked the evil road answered the question and caused the hall to laugh...
"I'm for your own good!" Dumb sister dad stressed so.
Survival rules. Opinions are not tolerated.
Dumber sister was more silent.
Can you believe that the little idiot girl who is ignored and abandoned at home and at school actually fell in love with learning one day! This has to be said to be a miracle!
Because of the luck, I moved in a neighbor who collected waste. In the gray scrap box, there are always all kinds of books that others have eliminated, and even complete sets of novels. The heavens and the earth suddenly became bigger! The girl who has never had pocket money gets a wonderful story from the waste frame and sees the world beyond the wellhead. The frozen gate finally trembled and opened a crack in the door. The brilliance outside the door shone brightly, illuminating the girl's eyes.
She carried her parents on her back, reading like hunger, regardless of type, regardless of time, walking and watching, watching between classes, watching under the desk, hiding in the bed to see.... The spring flowers and autumn moon in the poems are so beautiful, the words and sentences of missing the deceased are so sad, the mountains and rivers are so magnificent, and the martial arts rivers and lakes are like blood... The world is wonderful, people are different, the lives of their peers are unexpectedly colorful, and the darkness in the heart of the dumb girl seems to be diluted a little.
Poetry and song, martial arts fantasy, old news, no one refuses. The vocabulary of the eye has also risen, and all kinds of descriptions have come to hand.
As a direct consequence, chinese language scores have improved rapidly, and essays have steadily become sample texts read by teachers in all grades.
The situation is slightly better. Confidence seems to have come back a little bit.
A little bit is good. Never before, after all.
Literature is like a glass vase, radiant and beautiful and delicate. She carefully took it in her arms.
It was hard to survive the high school and did not accidentally enter the university. In addition to the language, the little dumb sister's achievements are really incurable. Deeply discouraged, his parents ordered the little idiot to study for the university.
Little Dumb Sister weak raises a little hope, can you read Chinese language and literature major? I only have this strongest, and I really like it! Parents, like the mouth of the Nine Heavenly Buddhas, gently opened: "Learn what literature, learn physics!" Work better! Ignorant! I am for your own good! "You must know that you are your parents' new house, a big color TV, and you will have to make money to honor your parents in the future!" The responsibility on your shoulders is heavy! Don't mess with those who don't!
Dumb sister is very instigated, is really instigated. She had never dared to resist, but she actually began to argue by instinct! Parents instantly feel that the sky is going to fall!
The sister was in a hurry and very sad. The 16-year-old already has his own ideas. She doesn't want to, she has to fight. But the authority and arrogance of the parents could not tolerate such rebellion, and the father asked funny and contemptuously: "Do you dare to resist?" You still ask your parents to eat and dress! "When my sister boarded, I had to beg you before you raised me?" Besides," the gentle father began to reason, "how good can your language be?" It's all up to me to improve your grades! You forgot? How hard did it take me to teach every day? Say it yourself! You're my daughter, I'm stupid, you're even dumber. Be down-to-earth, study physics well, and pay more in the future! My mother, who has always been a bad talker, also jumped out to help: "That is, such a simple language, you have to work hard to teach it to make some progress." Learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well, walk all over the world without fear, and find a good job in the future, which is practical. ”
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The vase shattered.
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The biological parents took it and smashed it to pieces.
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The inaudible cracking sound reverberated in the void, and it kept ringing, ringing until now, and the sad sister was still in tears in front of the screen.
Love and effort everything to 0.Seem so ridiculous, stupid, and not worth mentioning. The sad sister knows that her parents have been demanding a school performance, but in the end it is empty, and they urgently need a little sense of achievement to prove that their efforts have not been in vain. But that's not your credit! The sad sister could not give in. She felt her enthusiasm and effort like a joke.
Parents refused to listen, refused to say more about the matter. A little thing, what do children know? What are you struggling with?!
What's the fuss about?
The family could not tolerate the voice of the sad sister. She had to be quiet and obedient.
Mom and Dad, I was really obedient. I really tried. Strive to meet your requirements. I was really obedient and tried very hard. Why don't you believe it? Why can't I see it?
Obedience and hard work, what do you get?
For the sake of college, the little sad girl actually won the award!
The father, who has always been honest, claimed that the child was a national unified college student who was admitted to the unit. In the mid-90s, I was still very skilled in college entrance examinations.
The leader was shocked and immediately sent a bonus! Dad's honest image is too deeply rooted in people's hearts, and no one has ever doubted it. Dad got the bonus back and taught the sad sister: go to school well, graduate from college and then take the graduate school. Even if you don't go to school, you can do it!
Relatives were also shocked at what an ugly duckling turned swan live version. So there was a sound of compliments, and the parents said that they were very happy, and they didn't know if they were not weak-
Sad sister is even more shocked, honest parents what is wrong with this?! I couldn't figure it out for years.
After going to adult college, the sad girl even stepped into society with half a foot. Began to contact relatives and face classmates independently. Relatively free a little. The sad sister who has been under control for more than ten years, an obedient child, a person without a single opinion, a blank piece of paper, was thrown into the quagmire of the world. Fear of socializing, not knowing how to deal with bullying to protect themselves, and not knowing how far ahead.
Another joke begins.
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I didn't go to college and went to adult college. The mother personally escorted her sad and depressed daughter to go through the enrollment procedures. Enroll in an officially designated major for seniors.
The family is still financially strained, and there is no money left after paying the tuition. Catching up with the wave of layoffs in the 90s, the family was having a hard time, and the depressed sister also managed herself sensibly, never mentioning a little "excessive" demand.
Old clothes in this institution of higher learning, with their heads bowed, hurried back and forth. Try to make yourself non-existent. But the second-hand old clothes that have been worn for seven or eight years are really worn. The university campus is very large, in addition to the students of the university, there are also international students, foreign teachers. Seventeen or eighteen girls are the age of beauty, one by one beautiful. She is like a black dot on a beautiful petal.
In such an environment, the depressed sister is painful, embarrassed, and helpless. So he plucked up the courage to ask Empress Dowager Cixi to buy some suitable clothes. The empress dowager was kind and educated: "Do you know when your mother was a child?" Just one or two pieces of clothing and pants, whether it's spring or winter. A handkerchief has been used for many, many years, and once when it was dry, I dozed off and accidentally burned, and your grandmother almost strangled me to death! Where there is happiness in you, born in the blessing, there is no blessing. ”
Probably living in poverty has limited the mother's concept of clothing to "having a cloth to cover herself." That was the 1990s, when China was growing rapidly. There are thousands of changes around me, but my parents are like rocks that will remain unchanged for thousands of years. After being laid off, they stuck to the unit and did not leave, and they had an iron heart to successfully mix until retirement. They shut themselves up, have no friends, and no longer care about outside information. If wrapped in ice cubes, freeze them decades ago.
Fortunately, a classmate gave her an old dress, and the depressed sister was able to have a replacement dress on campus. Seventeen or eighteen girls who don't love face? A little bit of self-esteem is human. But for this dress, the depressed sister can only endure even if she is ridiculed by her classmates.
Otherwise you won't have to wear it!
After all, the depressed sister has gone to college, and her parents are a bit out of reach. She came into contact with classmates, roommates, relatives. No more "sit through the prison" style 7X24 hours of learning. The free air restored a little of the freshness that a teenager should have.
The first person to enter life is a small cousin of the same age. Xiao Tang's sister-in-law is young and beautiful, and she is the only daughter in the family. Very pampered by parents. I can't study, and my parents don't force me. Vocational high school began to "mix society", and as soon as he graduated, he was opposite to his cousin. Standard social communication. This completely different peer, how fresh, how free, what an incredible family, she is so lucky! Depressed sister is very envious, in all aspects.
The cousin's mother lamented the little cousin: Now the child "woke up" really early!
The depressed sister of a blank piece of paper seems to understand, but also seems not to understand.
This little sister-in-law gave her the first lesson in sociology.
Xiao Tang's sister-in-law saw the depressed sister's clothes, which was really a bit incredible. Thinking about it for a moment, simply dump your own fashion that you don't want to wear a few times to this little girl! Solved her image problem, but also by the way to make a little money for themselves, the best of both worlds.
Xiao Tang's sister-in-law has always been a little sister, with a good life and bright clothes, which is obvious to all. The depressed sister, who was even grayer than Cinderella and struggled in the cracks all day, was moved. The terms are negotiated. For the first time in her life, depressed sister has suitable clothes to change, and finally can enter the classroom without looking down.
The bad is bad, and the cost of living is very, very tight. The speed at which the depressed sister saves money and repays it is too slow. The little cousin was very angry. So he directly stabbed the matter in front of the depressed sister's parents. The parents were shocked and furious. The two, who have always relied on the family, took the depressed sister straight to the big brother's house. A family criticism conference was held. The depressed sister who stabbed the hole in the sky was surrounded by everyone, gagged, sifting through the chaff and only shedding tears, and her mind was blank.
Only this time, the depressed mother clearly felt that the in-laws were not welcome. Relatives seem to have found an outlet, and they are brazen and open, and they talk about mother and daughter together. There was no beautiful scene of her ardent expectations, everyone understanding her difficulties, and helping her discipline her daughter together.
Depressed Dad sat silently on the side. As always, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it's indifferent, waiting for the brothers, sisters-in-law, nephews, and nieces to solve the problem. In the trivial matters of life, he has always been able to hide and hide. Troublesome, nasty. Men don't care about these things.
He firmly believes that he can't do it, find excellent nephews and nieces to help him discipline his daughter, and grasp and manage together, can't be wrong!
Without hesitation, he pushed his little daughter before everyone and was beaten by everyone.
Just like it always has been. Both parents need this daughter to extract some of the benefits they need from the family.
Nominally, depressed dad is the youngest father, belonging to the elderly generation. In action, he is as dependent on his brother and sister-in-law as a child. His heart still lives in the extended family. I don't think I've got a family, I should go to my own family and start a business. He was close to his brothers and sisters-in-law and nephews all his life, and his wife and daughter were a burden. When you encounter troubles, try to find your brother-in-law's family to help solve them. If he had not dealt with social tasks, he probably would not have found trouble for the rest of his life to marry and have children.
But the nephews and nieces don't seem to think so. Presumably they were quite critical of this relative, who always brought trouble, and could not speak without talking to their family of three. In particular, the lobby brother has never seen the depressed mother, the little aunt, is not pleasing to the eye, and usually has to barely maintain a big face, only daring to damage the little depressed sister openly and secretly, and secretly bullying the children. This can be regarded as an uncle and aunt handing over a knife by themselves, so can it be used? That's called a pain, that's called a joy! Which beats which, I would like to smother this relative, save the future to hinder the eyes!
Everyone has their own little abacus.
The pale little sister just stood quietly between them.
Her parents needed the kinship. The extended family must at least maintain a superficial harmony, and the price is paid by the depressed sister. Little she is the most weak and deceitful, and her parents don't care. She is the introduction of her mother's attention, the back of her parents, relatives are inconvenient to directly intimidate her depressed sister's parents, take the little depressed sister as a target for gas, and her white eyes are quickly turned to the sky. The parents automatically understood that they had the understanding and respect they wanted, but the fire did not burn on them anyway, as if it was not their daughter, but an orphan on the street. So the face is maintained very well. Everyone continued to be satisfied.
Parents just get angry everywhere, and the family and everything are happy with their daughters.
The daughter cannot tell the truth. She must "tolerate" her cousin, who is 20 years older than her. Because people always have shortcomings. Depressed sisters must be sensible and must be tolerant. Dare to say that Weiqu is angry, her father will directly reprimand her with her father's authority, and the relatives are very friendly, and they are not allowed to make up and lie! Ignorant!
hehe.
The whole family trampled on her, and her father turned a blind eye. In exchange for the "closeness" and "peace" of relatives. With the face of his whole body as a "father".
In this way, the depressed sister was completely destroyed in the circle of relatives.
No one thought of her as a normal person.
A loud noise, the depressed sister returned all her clothes.
Since then, how much ability the depressed sister has been to do more big things. Never be greedy for any small bargain.
Depressed sister roommate six sisters, peers are always easy to approach, almost every night there are hot bedroom sleeper talks. Depressed sister accidentally mentioned her father's famous words: Do you dare to resist? You still ask your parents to eat and dress! Instant silence. Halfway through, a mosquito net floated out of the voice of the little girl in Henan: "You may not be biological, right?" ”
Soul torture, depressed sister chose silence.
The university was not in the nineties. Everyone uses landlines. The aunt of the commissary on the first floor of the dormitory shouted every day: Who is who, come down and answer the phone! At noon on this day, I just started to eat, and the depressed sister was called down to answer the phone at home. I only went back to school yesterday, what is the matter that I don't say at home on weekends, I have to call school? The mother was so upset about the phone bill that she never called her daughter. There must be something important! Worried, the depressed sister rushed downstairs to pick up the phone. "Did you take the passbook from the house?" Mom's tone was full of doubt, and there was a little bit of certainty. Depressed sister inexplicably, passbook? What passbook? You don't always collect these things well, I've never seen them! "Honestly, did you take it?" Only you come back on the weekend, and no one else in our family comes! Mom raised her voice. Of course, the depressed sister could not admit it. Mom hung up the phone in disbelief.
Depressed sister's head buzzed. Walking back to the bedroom, I didn't feel relieved. Seeing that her face was not good, the little sister of Henan asked, is there an accident at home? The depressed sister told the story, and she couldn't understand the reason for the call. Henan Meizi was silent for a moment and asked, "Shouldn't you really take it?" The others looked over in unison. In the limited life of a college student, I can't believe that there are still mothers in the world who don't trust their daughters to this point. Depressed sister is tired. Even the explanation was not convincing. Other people in this world have wronged you for no reason, and you can fight back and scold you and defend yourself loudly. But what about those who have wronged you? No matter how innocent you are, you can't erase the doubtful eyes of others.
Things can't always be a headless case. Such a big thing, you always have to figure it out.
On the weekend, the depressed sister came home and asked her mother if she had found anything. Mom replied casually, looking for it in one of her pockets and forgetting about it.
There is no then, it is very indifferent, and I don't feel that there is anything wrong at all.
The depressed sister was angry: What about me? What about my white-backed black cauldron, my reputation as a white bearer?
However, no one cared about her. Everything is taken for granted.
Depressed sister can't stand it and is angry!
Mom yelled back: You stupid bitch! What's wrong with you? I'm your mom, I can ask!
Daddy and Slime: "Why are you angry?" Mom is looking for something, of course. You still have too little knowledge, and some unreasonable parents encounter this kind of thing and go directly to the school to arrest people! The father, who considered himself the head of the family, changed into the tone of the leader: "Your mother is very gentle and dripping." Don't say the problem of unjust or unjust, we are a family, this is a very common thing, don't be so on the line. Home and Wanshixing, hurry to confess to your mother. ”
"No, Dad, why, why would you suspect me ????" I really can't imagine, I am very sad, in the eyes of my biological parents, I have always maliciously speculated about my daughter! And they still think there is no problem!
This is not the first time. When she was very young, my mother lost her hand because of her own money, or mistakenly put it in the closet or fell under the bed, not to introspect herself first, but to wait for the little suspect to come home from school, and when she entered the door, she was arrested and interrogated fiercely.
Although the depressed sister was small, although she could only cry, she was not stupid, and since then, she knew that she had no relatives around her, and that a small child could only grow like a weed on her own. This "home" is hierarchical and has no place for her to speak. The feeling of the word "relatives" cannot get rid of a bloody gas for life.
The result of that year was still that the mother found the money herself. It was as if nothing had happened. Just don't mention it again. The whole family didn't pay attention to it.
A kitten in the rainstorm, soaking wet and shivering, but did not know how to hide. No one wants it, there is nowhere to hide.
At this time, the mother was angry and sat on the side with a black face, ready to receive the victory of the mother-daughter war once again.
Affirming her authority and dominance time and time again, this sense of respect that she did not receive in the unit and in the family, she had to get it in the lowest rank in the family.
The daughter was her most controllable member, eerily making her feel safe. "You are mine!" Rushing to the sky, in front of the old woman is just a bean sprout! "Don't try to fly out of her palm.
One of the rules of this "home": the daughter is always wrong. Parents are always right, and wrong is also right.
Together, the depressed sister tried not to return to the dull and depressed home. Surrounded by harshly white walls, a room of darkness and coldness. There was no temperature, only endless rules to be followed, and all kinds of irresistible commands. Far less intimate and comfortable than in the dormitory.
Parents remain aloof. As soon as they return home, they seize the rare opportunity to show their parental majesty. Pipe the heavens and the earth, the air, hate can not even control breathing. The name is: "I am for your own good!" We've broken our hearts for you! "In the face of their adult daughters, they treat three-year-olds as well. Words and deeds must be controlled.
On the contrary, for adolescent daughters, what should be paid attention to, what needs to be understood, how girls should protect themselves, how to make friends, and so on, a series of important issues in life are ignored. Simply throw things away at school.
In the words of the depressed mother: "We paid to send you to school!" You should go to the school yourself to find out, why blame us? “
school:?????? Can I still be so versatile?
Depressed sister did not successfully graduate from college. Maybe it's really stupid, maybe it's that you can't help but hate this kind of life that is forced to be ignored. Two years of college courses, she was born for four years.
In the fourth school year, parents were saddened to find that the means of just getting angry, persecuting, and abusing were becoming more and more powerless. The daughter's rebellion was irrepressible.
The mother's authority was challenged, and the fury was unbearable. Yelling and crying escalated. Opening the door from home to the street, I wish that everyone in the whole world would come to see this daughter who was not filial piety, disobedience and disobedience. I wish my daughter was ugly in front of the whole world to relieve the hatred in her heart.
The neighbors watched jokes and performed, and no one paid any attention to her.
No matter how intensely she performs, as soon as she turns her head, it won't be long before she starts singing!
The daughter is multi-purpose. Not only to bring her respect and satisfaction, but also to be an emotional garbage can, which is her main outlet.
She was afraid of losing this little girl. The original words are: "You are the handmaiden of the family!" "In the true sense of the word, you must be filial piety, and you must serve the old people well." Otherwise, when you are young, you will be punished with hunger, and when you grow up, you will threaten to have no inheritance.
If you want a little help from her hand, you have to exchange your life for it.
The depressed sister bowed her head when she went out and walked around the side. She knew that no matter how hard she tried and how strict she was, it would be useless.
With this mom, the neighbors don't know what to think of her. When she was a child, there were no neighbors to make friends with her.
In this way, she was completely destroyed in the neighborhood circle.
She didn't dare think about it later.
Depressed sister is actually clear from childhood, long years oppressed by life, but can not understand, nowhere to talk, the mother's spirit has long been a problem.
She didn't believe Dad didn't see the problem, it was just that he had adopted a consistent policy of avoidance. As long as the fire didn't burn over his head, he turned a blind eye.
Mom is the breadwinner of the family, and it's not convenient for Dad to show opposition. He explained to his daughter that his mother was just a little short-tempered and talked a little more. He kept saying this to himself over and over again.
The ability to hide from the side and pretend to be deaf and dumb in case of trouble is also first-class.
Anyway, if he encounters any mother-daughter contradiction, as long as he suppresses his daughter, does not allow her daughter to be angry, activates his "smart" brain, makes up some theories, and "communicates" with his daughter, the daughter must accept it. This trick is simple and hassle-free.
Boy, what do you know? Just talk about it. Depressed Dad was very complacent about his ability to "convince people with reason".
---------------- depressed sister has also been confused, why do parents take it for granted that she is a child, she is stupid?
Just bully the children of youth and ignorance!
In the face of his daughter's studies, the depressed father is a little weak: you see that your classmates have graduated and worked, and you can't stay in school all the time! Gentle attitude, depressed sister finally listened to it. Besides, the students have all graduated from work, and it is indeed wrong to waste two years of tuition fees. Feeling guilty, he took out the "don't go out all week" stunt that he had practiced in a small way, and worked hard. Fight to the end, make up for the three years of arrears of studies, and successfully get a graduation certificate.
Strange people in the circle of relatives and neighbors, and even in the family who are not welcomed, turned out to be strangers. A blank piece of paper was kneaded into a confused ball and thrown into the social whirlpool.
#面对子女的冷漠, how can the elderly live their old age in peace##The most recent relationship in the world is parents or couples ##父母老了, will you send them to a nursing home #