Introduction:
Setbacks and entanglements are often the starting point for us to move towards wisdom and sobriety.
The experience of frustration and entanglement can just be used to experience our acumen and whether we have achieved the performance of learning after learning.
Everything that changes itself needs to have several core elements:
The cultivation of patience in mindfulness takes time.
This in itself is also a kind of patience.
Allow yourself to explore slowly, flexibly give yourself enough time and space, and have more cases of self-change to adapt, rather than "anxious for success".
Being in a hurry, or caring too much about a certain outcome we desire, will make us lose interest and confidence in mindfulness.
【1】
Observing yourself is the first step to growth.
Knowing yourself clearly is the first step to wisdom and clarity.
What are you?
Where are you?
What do you have?
What is your status?
How do you think and act?
Self-examination and self-identification of this series of issues are the core growth factors.
People always use "self-knowledge", but without deep analysis, naturally they also know the word but it is difficult to do it.
If we observe:
A certain problem has been bothering me.
Or, one's own state is sometimes good and sometimes bad, mainly influenced by the environment and others.
Or, when you find yourself in frustration and entanglement, you are very miserable.
But if we find ourselves like this, it means that we have fallen into a simple "air circulation" of "knowing but not being able to do."
【2】
Everything is clear and everything is known, but once you act, operate, and extend yourself, you can't always do it better!
It even backfired, and it was terrible!
This is the confusion and problem that people often encounter in this era.
Know, can't do it, there's a reason.
One: only know the appearance, but do not know the distance and the truth.
Belonging is simply not known - what is right, what is the standard, what is the bottom line that needs to be followed.
Second: I know what is right, but some habits and attachments in my bones are solidified; it is difficult to overcome.
It is too difficult to do it; good words and deeds and their standards are actually the opposite of their own inner attachments.
In essence, there is a problem with one's own inner values and conscience and morality.
Third: knowing what is right and wanting to change repeatedly is that you have not yet found the means and experience to overcome obstacles and change quickly.
Need someone to remind.
Guidance is needed.
Good knowledge of goodness is needed to lead the way.
If you insist on consciously changing your words and deeds, and give yourself more time and space to finely adjust, you can do better.
【3】
People's self-improvement and self-change are essentially a process of building, consolidating and perfecting "new habits" and "new learning ability".
Repeated practice, deliberate practice, is the basis of operation.
At this point, three boosts are needed to help us.
One: Mentors guide themselves to change.
To do good deeds every day is to punch the clock.
Self-change also needs to be punched.
Second: be able to face it patiently.
Observe yourself.
Analyze yourself.
Don't hide the "habitual thinking" of selfishness and evil in the deeper parts of your heart.
Third: give yourself more patience.
We lack patience because we live in the future and want to rush to the next moment in our lives so that the "present" slips away from our present.
You can't see your own problems and shortcomings at all; if you do it, it is ineffective to improve.
brief summary:
The current information overload disperses the unity and stability of our focus and focus.
So little time to really observe and think.
All kinds of film and television books, everything you need.
A variety of information resources are at your fingertips.
A variety of recreational activities can be found everywhere.
However, we are still often bored, bored, and even bored.
[Bored] [bored], [endless things] have become the biggest killer of modern people's time, and also become the biggest killer of happiness, clarity and wisdom.
With the constant pursuit of external information and fluctuations, it is better to let ourselves have the patience to observe ourselves.
After truly remembering and valuing the laws, standards, and right understanding and right view, we must let the teacher guide us and let him know his own problems; the teacher is good to give reminders and guidance at the first time.
And let us really know clearly in front of our eyes what we want to do and what we don't do; we can act in the next second, and the good model is done in the moment we do it now.
Yes, if there are good teachers and good knowledge around us, good relatives and friends and family members, their righteous thoughts, right views, and right actions are also our examples and references.
After a long time with the right people, many troubles, entanglements and pains naturally disappear; at that moment, the right action is always with us, and it doesn't matter what we know but can't do!
Appreciation to the author