On October 16, 2019 local time, Dr. Charles Kigunduzheng of the Gynecology Clinic of Mulago Hospital in Uganda warned: "You have given birth to 44 children and cannot have any more." If it regenerates, we consider hysterectomy. ”
The woman sitting opposite was 39-year-old Ugandan Mariam uganda.
She thought they were trying to scare him, but after testing, they actually had her uterus removed.
Maryam grew up in Africa and has had children since the age of 13.
What she couldn't accept was why doctors would remove her hysterectomy without her consent.
"If you don't remove it, you're going to die."
The doctor then explained Maryam's situation and her grim reality.
Poverty consumes most of the possibilities. For a woman, poverty is an irresistible temptation; for a man, poverty is a mortal threat. For a man, once he is drawn into poverty, he becomes poor. For women, once they are bound by poverty, it is estimated that the greatest value in their lives is to have children, from the time they are able to have children to the time they are unable to have children.
During this time, he will be subjected to endless verbal abuse and beatings from her husband.
The poorer the place, the worse it gets. In many countries and regions in Africa, the fertility rate of women is very low. However, this does not mean that they are not entitled to the benefits of eugenics policies. Africa is a developing country with a rapid population growth rate. The population base is large. According to the World Bank, Ugandan women in Africa have an average of 5.6 children in their lifetime.
There is hope in the hearts of people living in poverty.
Maryam was sold by her father to her current husband when she was 12 years old, and the following year she became pregnant.
Maryam's young age, coupled with her brutal husband, her life was not pleasant.
The first was a pair of twins. In a cold winter, the children were frozen, and the children's mothers did not suffer in the slightest. Because she knows that children need warmth and love. The 13-year-old is taking care of her two children and you can imagine how tough it is for Maryam.
Just as Maryam was preparing to raise her two children, giving them the privilege of educational resources to keep them from going their own way, she became pregnant again in her third year.
It was like winning the twin lottery, and this time she gave birth to twins.
Tearless Mariam had to struggle to raise her four children.
Mary was stupid, but it wasn't her fault, she was born in a backward and barren place, sold by her father at the age of twelve, and has since been reduced to a fertility tool.
To her husband, Maryam was nothing more than a living womb whose sole purpose was to give birth.
Maryam's husband was convinced of having many children, and even though the family was very tense, he never gave up on having children.
After all, ignorance is the root cause of human cruelty.
Due to the ignorance of society, the pursuit of prolific and happy children naturally leads to many problems.
Harming one's own physical health is one of them, and excessive childbearing can also cause some pressure on society.
Contraception is needed to address this situation.
Nyhow, Mariam is very talented. Her father died 3 months before she was born. Her mother was a woman with a history of mental illness. With the help of her mother, Elizabethm began to conceive when she was 2 years old. Although she consulted her doctor about reasonable contraception, it did not work.
The poorer he was, the poorer he became, and he began life after Maryam.
Over the next 20 years, Mariam gave birth to five quadruplets, four pairs of twins, and five pairs of twins.
At the age of 36 in 2016, Mariam had already given birth to 44 children.
During this period, 6 children have died due to difficult conditions and 38 children are now alive.
Disappointment became commonplace, and Mariam, who was raising 38 children, felt overwhelmed.
Three years ago, after the doctor said he was going to have her uterus removed, he had a big fight with her and ran away early the next morning, taking all the belongings from the house, leaving them orphans, widows and widows, 39 of whom were orphans and widows.
It was true that the poverty was poor, but life went on, with 38 children and nearly 50 kilograms of food for a meal, and Maryam had to do everything.
Combing hair, making wine, picking up trash, Mariam had no choice but to give up any chance to make a living.
There were only three simple shelves in the house, and there were some thin mattresses and old sheets on the bed board. In such a small space, my son and I slept for a full two months. During the day, I put myself at the head of the bed while my son lay on the floor and made a bunk. My son's body is weak. Younger children slept in their beds, while older children had to lie on the floor.
To say that it is to make a floor is to lay a torn mattress as thin as paper on the floor, which is no different from sleeping directly on the floor.
Even some children do not have mattresses, and they are often pushed out of the mattress when sleeping.
This part of the child can only stay on the cold ground for one night until dawn. Then they would crawl slowly like snails until they climbed a mountain. If it continues like this. They will not be able to climb up. In the end, they will die. And then do it over and over again.
To take care of the young child, Maryam would sleep on the other side of the bed, and a child would toss and turn her back two or three times a night.
One was thirsty and the other had to go to the bathroom. No, Martha was asleep in bed again! Her stomach kept rolling like a little egg. Martha remembered that today was Martha's birthday and that she should go and eat something. After such tribulations, it is not uncommon for Mariam to rest badly.
Life is always unfair, and children living in such a family naturally have no choice but what their mothers give and what they accept.
Because of the poverty of families, schools, etc., these children dare not think.
Unable to enter the school, these children, who were supposed to be in the classroom, were left to wander around the house's crumbling house.
As they grow up, they also indiscriminately enter factories to work as fitters, repeating the same fate for generations.
Even in this case, Maryam still insisted on sending all her children to school, she was uneducated, but she knew that people like them had nothing and could only change their lives through knowledge.
Due to the pressure of childbirth, Mariam went to the doctor.
"The ovaries are much larger than normal," the doctor told Maryam's first test result.
Subsequently, doctors slowly revealed the root cause of her ability to have 44 children.
"The probability is still genetics. Mariam is prone to ovulation. Excessive hyperovulation means that Maria is more likely than most women to release more than one egg at the same time in a cycle, which greatly increases her likelihood of having multiple births. "You might say: How is this possible? We all know that under normal circumstances, only 1 follicle can produce sperm per month, and only 2 to 3 oocytes are produced about 10 days before each menstruation. Dr. Charles explained to him.
"Personal constitution problems are inevitable, and it's not Maryam's fault."
After multiple births, Maria also consulted a doctor, hoping to stop childbirth by taking birth control pills, but Mariam was born with antibodies to the drug, and various contraceptives did not work.
Maryam has 44 children in her womb and the situation is deteriorating across the board.
Her body was overwhelmed by the need to take care of her children, and she couldn't sleep at night and had to worry about work during the day.
But her husband insisted on having more children, and if Maryam had another child, she would most likely die of blood loss during pregnancy or childbirth, and what would happen to her 38 children?
Considering that there was no effective contraceptive contraceptive method, Mariam had to undergo hysterectomy to save Maryam's life.
When her husband learned that doctors had performed a hysterectomy on Maryam, he publicly objected.
The couple got into an argument, her husband beat her as usual, and Maryam had to beg to spare her life.
But the next morning, Maryam woke up with no sign of her husband, and she was about to cook when she found that there was not even a pot left, and he fled with all the family's valuables.
Maryam's marriage was not happy, and at 12 she was supposed to attend elementary school, but she was born in the poorest region of Africa, a woman, uneducated, and soon married.
The people of the region always used their daughters as a means of selling money, and Mariam is said to have been registered before birth.
After marriage, her husband drank all day, beat her, scolded her, not only did all the housework, but also gave birth to children every year.
She didn't want her children to live like this, insisting that every child go to school, cook only one meal a day, and eat another meal after getting help from neighbors so that her family wouldn't starve to death.
Some say she's had so many kids that she could give them to someone else if she couldn't afford it. But she said: "I am a woman, I can't raise myself, I just want my children to grow up healthy and happy, not to be pampered and pampered like other women." In this way, she and her children will have a better life.
"I think family companionship may be more important than superior material conditions." "I'm a mother and I want to be a good mom." "I don't want my son to be a bad-tempered, unwilling to learn and embrace new things. Maryam said she never gave up on her child.
Just as poverty consumes all possibilities of a person, it also consumes all of one's conscience.
Maryam was born into a family equally poor, but still had a steady stream of children.
Maryam's mother couldn't stand it any longer, abandoning her three days after she was born, leaving behind the three-day-old Maryam and her 5 siblings.
Shortly after Maryam's mother ran away, her father remarried.
His wife ran away, which was a great shame for his father, so Maryam's father took another one within a few days, as if to prove to everyone that he was not short of women.
In such a poor environment, the goodness of human nature gradually disappears, while the evil of human nature grows unscrupulously.
When the stepmother has her own children, the "tug-of-war" left by the ex-wife can be annoying.
"I never thought people would be so bad!" It's a true story written by New York Times reporter Michelle Roman Rossi in her new book, but the story was adapted into a film and won the 83rd Academy Award for Best Foreign Language Film. Her stepmother subverted Maryam's view of people by dehumanizing her behavior.
Brother Maryam was forced to eat glass slag by his stepmother when he was 7 years old and died in pain.
Mariam survived, but she will never forget it, and Mariam still had an unbearable hatred for her father and stepmother.
After getting married, Mariam fantasizes about leaving that terrible place for a better life, only to find herself locked up in a new cage.
The second year of marriage, the 13-year-old Mariam began to have children, but Mariam, who was in the middle school grade, began to take care of the housework and take care of the children.
Maryam had no rebellion against the injustice of fate, or no thought of rebellion at all, and a series of such absurd events had taken place on that barren road, which seemed to them to be completely normal.
In Uganda, it is not uncommon for fathers to sell their children and marry when they are only 12 years old, even if they do not turn on the kettle and have children without restriction.
Maryam awoke from the ordeal of the day, not knowing who had done it to her, but knowing the only way out.
"You have to go to school to have a choice!" "You have to read to have your own life!" "Read! I'm going to be a great writer! "I'm going to college!" "I must get into a good school!" Maryam finally realized that knowledge was the only way to change her life.
Thirty-eight children could exhaust her by simply opening their mouths and adding tuition fees. Rao was three heads and six arms, and he couldn't help her much.
Maryam certainly wanted to give some of her 38 children to a better life.
As soon as she thought about it, she remembered the horrific experiences of her childhood.
Maryam wants her children to be healthy and safe, not materially rich.
She doesn't look for a job and is willing to do anything to earn money, but it's still difficult to support a family of nearly 40.
The only person in Maryam's family who earns money, she not only goes out to earn money, but also takes care of the family's food, clothing, and housing.
One typical afternoon, Maryam cooked in the kitchen of her home.
Suddenly, the first son, Ivan Kibka, came home, and he was supposed to be in class.
"I didn't have the money to go to school, so I applied to withdraw from school." "Yeah, I don't want to go to school." "Why?" "I want your son to go to school!" "He's 11 years old." "So what to do? Ivan the Greatest explained to Maryam.
Maryam wanted her children to be educated, but reality told her it was impossible.
Maryam wanted to say something, but she felt only bitterness in her mouth, and comforted her eldest son to put the bag down first.
Mariam wanted to fight fate, but she had no capital.
Ivan got bored after dropping out of school, and during the day he helped Maryam wash clothes, cook, and take care of his younger siblings.
In the evening, when Maryam was off work, he would pinch her shoulders, slap her on the back, tell her funny things about the day, make her happy, let her get rid of her fatigue.
Life was uneven and different, unfair was normal life, and he had long been accustomed to it.
At school, he was ostracized everywhere and came home in a mess.
He didn't know where he was going now, he could only go step by step.
With the help of the children, Mariam's burden was lightened a little.
"I want all my children to be happy! Not like me. ”
Many urged her to sell her daughter, not only to ease the burden on the family, but also to get more money.
In such a poor place, many people treat their daughters as a commodity in circulation.
Maryam listened to the great light and picked up what was at hand.
She was a victim of this depraved folklore and did not want her daughter to repeat her fate.
After learning about Maryam's situation, the school offered tuition waivers to help poor mothers.
One by one, the children grew up and began to share the burden on Maryam's shoulders.
Doctors are also worried about Maryam, whose daughter is likely to inherit her ability to give birth to "super-multiple twins."
To avoid a similar situation from happening again, the hospital will consider regular visits to Mariam's house to learn more about the science.
Together, the Mariam family will finally have a new life!