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introduction
Mencius: "There are three filial pieties, and no queen is greater." Shun married without telling, for no queen also. The gentleman thinks that Judas is also telling. "In ancient times on the mainland, people regarded passing on the generations and continuing the incense as the top priority in life, but the system of each country in the world is different, and the social situation is different, for example, in some countries in Africa, whether it is a woman's love marriage or having children after marriage, it is different from the traditional concept of our Chinese, and even after everyone learns about it, they will be surprised. For example, the African woman who gave birth to 44 children at the age of 36 begged the doctor to remove the uterus, what happened to her now?
The protagonist of this incident is a woman named Mariam in The African country of Uganda, who has given birth to a total of 44 children in her life, which is almost incredible, like our Chinese family, usually one or two children, and even more surprising is that she was only 36 years old when she gave birth to 44 children. According to local custom, she married at the age of 12 and gave birth to twins the following year. Mariam gave birth to an unequal number of children almost every year, which made her miserable.
▲ Mariam
According to The Life of an African, "Mariam gave birth to five pairs of twins, quadruple triplets and triplets in succession, and by the age of 36 she had conceived 44 children, which is also rare in African women." After Mariam's husband abandoned the extended family 4 years ago, Mariam instantly became a single mother, with the burden of life coming one after another, using various means to earn money to raise children. In these 4 years, she has tried many professions, and in her spare time, she brews and sells medicinal liquor by herself, but even if she works so hard, she is overwhelmed by the burden of life.
Watching her mother work so hard and tired, One of Mariam's older daughters, 23-year-old Kibka, voluntarily chose to give up her studies and start helping her mother shoulder the burden of the family together. In fact, many people do not know that Mariam herself is also a child with a bitter life, she was abandoned by her mother when she was only a few days after she was born, and then her father remarried with her and five other siblings, and her stepmother was very vicious and wanted to kill these children.
Mariam and her children
Although Mariam has been unfortunate since childhood, she is still quite fond of her dozens of children. For Mariam, the burden of life has existed for more than a day or two. She was already troubled by the time she gave birth to her 25th child, and she went to the hospital for consultation and examination, and the doctor told her that she had congenital genetic problems, that normal contraceptive methods were completely useless, and that it was even possible to cause damage to the body.
▲ African hospital
This situation was completely unexpected by Mariam, seeing that the already poor family needed to support so many children, she couldn't sleep all night, and finally she made up her mind to return to the hospital again and ask the doctor to have the hysterectomy removed, so that she could completely liberate herself and the whole family.
Although this was not ethical in Uganda, the hospital was able to understand and sympathize with the real situation of Mariam's family. After a period of discussion the hospital finally agreed to Mariam's request. In the instant of stepping off the operating table, it can be said that Mariam was really relieved.
▲ The house where mariam's family lives
Today, Mariam lives in a small, small house with her 44 children, and their lives are very difficult. Mariam also said in an interview with the outside world that she never felt real happiness one day, but looking at her children, it seems that all the grief has turned into strength, and now her only wish is to hope that these children can grow up healthy and happy in the future, and not live in misfortune like themselves.
▲Some of Mariam's children
We see in Mariam the misfortune of a family, a woman, who has no princess-like childhood, no perfect and happy family, and even in children, she does not experience the joy of a normal person. But this is precisely Mariam's life, and it is what she must try to face.
epilogue
Uganda is a backward country on the African continent, with no sound social system, no perfect infrastructure construction, and even no fertile land to survive. In Uganda and even in African countries, there are not a few women who have suffered such as Mariam, not to mention happiness, wealth, even if they can eat and clothe without worry, it is a luxury or even a fantasy. If you think about our current life, it is already a paradise compared to Mariam. I hope that all of us can learn from Mariam's experience and cherish the hard-won success of this good life.
Resources:
Mencius
The Life of Africans