I don't know if you have found that when you go to school, there are always one or two classmates in the class who love to bite their nails or pen heads, before I didn't know why this subconscious action was, and then I contacted early education, I understood that if I did not successfully pass the oral period in my early childhood, I would have these residual problems.
Dealing with all kinds of children and parents every day, I am also more and more aware of the necessity of early education, and it is particularly important to grasp the sensitive periods of children in all periods.
A special vitality that is only once in a lifetime
There was an Indian boy who was raised by wolves when he was only a few months old and rescued at the age of 8. Because he has lived with wolves for many years, he does not take things by hand, only crawls, is used to lurking during the day, is active at night, and only eats raw meat with his mouth. His family tried to educate him to get rid of wolf nature, but with little success.
A simple stand, he learned for 2 years, walking for 6 years, and only learned a dozen words at the age of 17.
This is because he missed the sensitive period of language, the sensitive period of action, and missed the best educational opportunity.
Babies aged 0 to 6 are like a searchlight, this lamp will be highly sensitive and focused on a place, that is, what sensitivity, will shine where, we call the performance of such a trait sensitivity.
And during each particular sensitive period, without the need for a specific reason, you can see that the child will have a strong interest in a certain behavior because he is driven by the inner life force, and will repeat it tirelessly until a new skill suddenly erupts because of this repetition. And only by conforming to one sensitive period after another can the potential of the child's genius be developed.
The book "Accompanying Children Through the Sensitive Period of 3-6 Years Old" said: "Under the pressure of learning, many children in this age group can not get the tolerance and love from their parents before the age of 6, nor can they get the respect given by adults when they grow up." In the midst of the confusion of the mind, they grow up alone."
We as parents should cherish the special vitality of our children, who are only once in their lives.
Do more with less or regret for life
When we were young, we all learned an idiom called seedling growth, this story tells us to conform to the growth law of nature, but as a parent, we will always unconsciously compare our children with other people's children, where are we not doing well enough, so that the baby loses on the starting line?
Italian early childhood educator Montessori once said: "Different individuals have different rhythms of development, and education must be consistent with the sensitive period of children's development, and different education must be used to adapt to different rhythms of growth."
Teaching during the sensitive period can stimulate children's interest in learning, quickly improve the development of children's minds, and achieve the effect of doubling the results with half the effort.
Many parents share with us what their children do at home, which is really crying and laughing.
Coke's mother said that her children's toys must be arranged in a row in order, when he hears a knock on the door, he must open the door, the mother must change her shoes and then put the bag when she comes home, etc. Many parents also said that their children also have similar "obsessive-compulsive disorder" performance, and they have begun to doubt whether the child is a Virgo.
The most interesting thing is that the egg mother said that her child was flushed by her once after going to the toilet, not by herself, and cried with her for several hours.
In fact, this is not a child's temperament, similar cases "accompany the child through the sensitive period of 3-6 years old" in the book, this is the child to the "order sensitive period", if the parents in this sensitive period to guide and help the baby to establish a well-organized, then you will have a high-performance baby, in the future child's learning and life process, will be more effective in the management of self, stimulate the interest and enthusiasm to do things.
On the contrary, if we adults ignore or even scold the behavior of the child's sensitive period of order, and use authority to force the child to do things according to the habits of adults, the child will obey because of fear. It will destroy the child's sense of order, cause the child to lose his sense of security, and is a permanent harm to the child's psyche.
How to grasp the sensitive period of children
Bi Shumin said, "The child's life has its own trajectory that he should have. In this process, what he needs most is our understanding and support. ”
In the growth process of children from 0 to 6 years old, there will be many sensitive periods, and we parents should understand these sensitive periods, and understand the characteristics of children in each sensitive period, and at the same time do the following to help children successfully pass through the sensitive period:
(1) Respect the child
We must believe that children are born with the ability to learn, parents should not look at children from their own perspective or self-centered; we must also respect the individual differences in children's development, and each child must learn according to their own speed and not compete with other children.
Don't use the mother's mouth "other people's children" to cause psychological pressure on the baby, learn to respect the child's growth pace.
(2) Observe the child
The time of occurrence of each child's sensitive period is not completely consistent, and parents need to carefully observe the changes in their children's daily life and learning, and do not miss every sensitive period of children's growth.
For example, when we find that our children like to throw paper balls or other things for a certain period of time, we should realize that the child is in a sensitive period of throwing.
Parents who really do not understand, you can also prepare a set of books on the sensitive period to learn, "accompany the child through the sensitive period of 3-6 years old", "3 years old is right, a lifetime is right" This set of books is very suitable for parents of 0-6 years old children.
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(3) Meet the child
Give your child a prepared environment so that he can get real inner satisfaction when he reaches a certain sensitive period, so as to stimulate his potential.
For example, during the sensitive period of children's reading, you can leave a corner at home to arrange a picture book area, and take half an hour a day to read picture books to your children to develop good reading habits and enthusiasm for learning.
(4) Encourage children
The process of children's independent learning is a process of continuous trial and error, in this process, parents need to create an atmosphere for their children to explore freely and bravely try.
When the child is sensitive to color, giving the child the space to "paint" freely and not restricting his behavior is also an affirmation of the child.
(5) Assist the child
Parents should be child-centered when accompanying their children, and give appropriate help and correct guidance when children need help, rather than interfering with children's behavior. For example, in the child's oral period, under the condition of ensuring cleanliness and hygiene, let the child eat enough, rather than telling him that this can not be eaten, that can not be eaten.
Many baby parents are very anxious when their children have various "problems", but from another point of view, perhaps this is your opportunity to discover a certain talent of your child.
The last thing I want to say is that the world is full of chaos, and if you can't guarantee that the world will always be gentle with your baby, then let him be full of the ability to love himself and the world!
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