The best way to put down a person, only 4 words!

Listen to happiness with you every night

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The writer Seven Years said:

"A lot of times, the more we care, the more we pretend not to care; the more we can't put it down, the more we pretend to put it down."

The emotional world of adults, there are many pretense, are used to hiding their hearts, and then decorating the surface calmly.

In fact, to really put down a person, it is not to deliberately ignore, nor to force it to endure and not to shed tears, but to ignore it, not to lament or sigh, and to leave everything to time.

01

Stop paying attention

There is a saying on Weibo that says:

"The reason why you have a hard time letting go of a person is because you are too probing the other person's life and paying too much attention to everything about him." 」

True. In those days when he was there, companionship became a habit, and it was difficult to let go not only of him, but also of the time of walking hand in hand.

A listener shared her story, and the ex-boyfriend just broke up that time, although she deleted all the contact information of the other party, but every night, the heart is as difficult as being eaten by ants, going through various social software to peek at each other's dynamics, repeatedly wanting to add friends back.

Then one day, she saw the update of the other party's update was the corner coffee shop where they met each other, and she excitedly thought that he was also obsessed, and after rushing over, she stood across the road and saw a smiling girl snuggled next to him.

After struggling for so long, I was finally relieved in that instant.

It turns out that only you are struggling alone in the memory, only you still cling to the past and refuse to let go, in his heart, it has long been turned over and become a past.

To put down a person is that you can hold back your thoughts, no longer hang his name on your lips, no longer inquire about him, and resist the urge to meet, no longer intentionally pursue his figure.

Since there is no reason, since you regret missing it, then quietly run towards the sea of people, and don't look back.

02

Don't sigh

Zhang Jiajia said:

"If you are depressed, bitter, sad, how can you often make room in your heart a warm room for the important people to live in." If a heart is full of holes, the people who live in it will be wet by the rain. ”

Many times, leaving someone will make us miserable; missing a relationship will make us heartbroken.

Can't go back to the past, and can't live well now, sighing, just torturing yourself.

After many years, Ah Qiang thought that at first he fell in love with Ye Zi, he would still be in tears, they had been in love for seven years and were forced by the obstruction of their parents on both sides and could not reach the end, and then Ye Zi married someone else, and he cried all night in the bar.

"If I had made more money at that time, I would have been able to buy a house in her city..." "If I had been a little more firm, maybe..."

An unforgettable experience made him depressed, and he was unable to love a new person with all his strength, and also hurt the plum who had been silently accompanying him.

Many times, many feelings, can not go to a happy ending.

Some people, missed also missed, do not have to sigh, do not have to regret, the meaning of the encounter, not only to hand in hand to grow old, but also to witness each other's growth.

After experiencing love and not being able to live, you will know better what happiness is.

The one who has already missed it, why not just let it go. If there is a fate, the next life will continue.

In this life, cherish the people in front of you.

03

Leave it to time

Writer Liu Tong said:

"The things that can't be done must pass, and the feelings that can't be put down must be let go."

Turning one page, you can write another page, and then read it again, only then can the past blossom and the memories are as warm as ever. ”

Time is the cure for everything.

If you've done everything and still can't let go of the person who once made you fall in love with the marrow, then leave it all to time.

It can dilute feelings, but also take away a person's memories, those unspeakable feelings, time will make you feel relieved; those who can't put down, time will invite him out of your world.

That love story, which is either sad, or gorgeous, or sad, or affectionate, will eventually become a thing of the past.

After years, the years have calmed down again, and you will no longer be secretive about the past, recalling the deceased, you can also smile and pass, and your heart will no longer be full of ripples.

Under the wash of the torrent of time, you will adapt to life without him, even if there are many difficulties in the past, you will slowly let go unconsciously under the healing of time.

The person in the memory, who came to cross you, or came to hurt you, is no longer important, after experiencing love and hate, you will become more mature.

For the rest of your life, you are you, he is him, each has his own life, each has its own joy.

04

Sanmao said:

"What Heaven does not give me, no matter how tightly I clasp my ten fingers, still leaks; what is given to me, no matter how I have lost my hand in the past, will have."

Between people, when we turn around and miss each other, we can only forget each other; between love and affection, when the fate reaches the end, we can only helplessly let go.

As we grow older, we will eventually understand a truth, that what makes people strong is not to have, but to let go.

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