Yesterday, during the recess, Zaizai told me that he heard the teacher say during class that one of his classmates had entered the cabin and could only attend classes in the cabin.
As a parent, hearing such news can't help but be shocked, and he quickly asked Zaizai how his classmates were. Zai Zai said that they had a video connection with their classmates and saw the situation of their classmates in the cabin.
He specially showed me a video replay, although the conditions are not as good as home, but compared with the environment of many square cabins seen on the Internet, it is also passable. The child's condition is also OK, and the teacher also gave special comfort, telling him to rest well if he feels unwell.
I told Zai Zai to remember to care more about my classmates after class, send WeChat when I have time, and chat often to help my classmates solve some loneliness and boredom.
Children are sent to centralized isolation points, which should be the last thing parents want to see. But, now, anything is possible. In case such a situation occurs, you can only choose to be strong, even if it is difficult, you must face it bravely.
I can't help but think of a share I saw the other day about a 12-year-old boy who walked home for about 9 hours with his suitcase in his suitcase after being released from isolation without a car pick-up.
12 years old, and is about the same age as the boy, although the baby of this age may already be very tall, but the mind is not yet mature. I wonder why my child will not be sent home by a transfer truck after the quarantine is over? Let them walk home alone?
In a dialog box with suspected neighbors and parents, parents said that the child walked back from Shanghai Lingang, from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m
The child stayed at the Lingang Ice and Snow City Hotel
He was just 12 years old, and he came home with a suitcase and a school bag
Maps posted online show that the distance from the hotel to their neighborhood is indeed more than 50 kilometers
Because I don't know the specific address, I casually searched on the Internet, and the distance from Lingang Ice and Snow Mingcheng Hotel to Beicai Subway Station is about 54 kilometers, and the distance to Pudong Sanlin is 53 kilometers
Under normal circumstances, it takes about 12 hours to walk, but the children only walk for more than 9 hours to get there. Some people question how the child does it, because he needs to walk an average of 6 kilometers an hour, which is very fast, how does he pull the suitcase and carry the school bag?
In the face of doubts, some acquaintances explained that the child was completed by a subway, a walk, and a bicycle, and his box was sent back to the community by the courier brother first, and he was not alone, but the journey completed by the three old, middle and young people.
This possibility exists because Pudong is still operating metro lines 6 and 16. Someone goes home with a child, which is more or less comforting. For parents, in the current situation, as long as the child can get home smoothly, everything is good.
After experiencing this epidemic, I found that there are some abilities that must be cultivated for children to have, so that children can still protect themselves when their lives suddenly encounter major changes.
1. Keen ability to obtain information and make predictions
Yesterday my niece told me that fortunately I have been reminding her since mid-March to reserve various substances, and before the official sealing of Puxi on April 1, I let her hoard various substances, she made full preparations, and then also joined the various group buying groups in the community in time, obtained various substances, and now she is not panicked.
According to her own judgment, only a small number of items are stockpiled. Then she could only rely on the help of her neighbors in the building to survive during the middle stage of food shortage.
Indeed, in the period before Puxi was sealed, I would watch the news every day, watch the press conference, pay attention to the various messages around me, and make a basic prediction based on these information.
Although many times, the amount of information obtained is limited, but as long as you are good at observation, you can still grasp some key information in the limited information, conduct a general analysis, and make appropriate preparations, so that even if the situation is a little out of control, it is better to be prepared than not to be prepared and shirtless.
2. Self-care ability
Before the outbreak of the epidemic, we could all feel that life was becoming more and more convenient. Can't cook? Can order takeout; no cleaning? There are sweeping robots or please clean; if you need something, you can quickly get it with a little finger...
Because life is too convenient, everyone will feel that it does not matter if there is no housework. However, after experiencing this epidemic, you will find that it is important to do housework and have a certain ability to take care of yourself in life.
Take cooking, many of the post-95 children I know can't cook, and usually they rely on takeaway for three meals a day. But during the lockdown period, the takeaway express delivery stopped, and nothing could be ordered. Even if the materials distributed by the neighborhood committee and the community group purchase are mainly fresh food, they will not cook, and there is no way to start in the face of this pile of fresh food, so they can only eat instant noodles every day. A child told me that now when I see instant noodles, I want to throw up.
I often let Zai Zai learn to cut vegetables, stir-fry, and the task of washing dishes every day is also contracted by him, as long as he is free, I will arrange for him to tidy up the room, wash clothes and fold clothes, do all kinds of housework, I have also discussed with him, if the worst happens, if he has to be separated from us, alone in the face of unfamiliar circumstances, what he can do. In this way, even if he encounters various situations, he has the ability to take care of himself.
3. Good interpersonal skills
Before the epidemic, many people did not like interpersonal communication and preferred to stay at home.
The epidemic has made many people rediscover their neighborhoods, and countless people have told me that the relationship with neighbors now seems to be back to their childhood, and they have received countless warmth and support from their neighbors.
The relationship with neighbors tests the ability to make friends, if the communication ability is strong, know how to communicate with people, it is easier to integrate, but also more able to mingle with the neighbors around, everyone takes care of each other, communicate with each other, encounter difficulties between neighbors to help, the problem is easier to solve.
This communication ability also includes the ability to communicate with some nearby shops and vendors. Before being banned, I added the WeChat of the fruit shop and vegetable shop owner around the community, and after a period of comparison, I found that the items purchased by these bosses were of better quality and the price was relatively fairer.
4. The ability to save oneself
When facing a problem, we cannot just wait for "others to rescue", but we must find ways to carry out self-help, make more attempts and preparations, and take hope into our own hands more useful than waiting for others to rescue.
5. Open-mindedness
Some time ago, the most cattle in Shanghai was the "regiment leader", everyone got the material purchased by the group, no matter what kind of things were inside, as long as they could still see, as long as they could still eat, they would be grateful to the regiment leader.
In recent days, it may be that the material is sufficient, the competitiveness is strong, everyone has no sense of urgency, and various situations are emerging in an endless stream. Among them, the most powerful diss is precisely the regiment leader, some people question the leader of the regiment to make money, some people report the leader because they did not grab what they want, and some people deliberately transfer the relationship between neighbors in the group, and many group buying groups can only face the fate of dissolution.
In the current environment, there is already a lot of negative news, but it should be more open-minded, to be indifferent, to lose calmly, to be responsible for their own choices, not to dwell on the gains and losses of the bits, and may be happier.
6. Emotional regulation ability
Over time, the more negative news there is, especially when the people around you are in a situation, the mood is more likely to fluctuate. If there is no good emotional regulation ability, it is easy to be pulled by various negative emotions and fall into a trough.
Have a good emotional regulation ability, no matter in the face of any situation, can adjust the emotions back in time, emotional stability, the heart will be stronger, but also more capable of facing a variety of difficult situations.
7. The ability to focus on the present moment
There are a lot of incredible things that happened in this epidemic, and many times, I can't understand why life has become like this, I will feel a strong sense of powerlessness, I feel that life is out of control, and I can't help but worry about the future.
These reactions are normal, at this time, do some activities that can pull attention back to the present moment, such as cutting vegetables to focus on knives and vegetables, to feel the different feelings of different ingredients cut; wash clothes to focus on clothes, to feel the different textures of water flow and clothes; exercise to focus on the body, to feel the reaction of different parts; play with children, immersed in interaction and play, these can calm the mood, feel the power from life itself.
The past has happened, the future has not happened, and the present is happening, it is a real existence.
Everyone longs for happiness, and as a parent, I hope that my child will have a smooth and peaceful life. But life is inherently high and low, unpredictable. If the child has to face various difficulties in growing up, then take these as a kind of experience in his life, grow up in difficulties, and accept the test of wind and rain.
Happiness will increase the breadth of our lives, suffering will increase the depth of our lives, and difficulties are regarded as a life experience, but also another kind of growth and harvest.