Men who can talk and be human will not say bad things about their wives in front of their mothers. This is the basic literacy of every man, and it is also the code for your family harmony.
The husband who will be a man who will come to things, facing the mother and wife, these two women who love them the most can influence the source, adjust the relationship, and let the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along harmoniously.
In front of the mother, praise the wife's goodness, good at finding the wife's shining point, such as the wife is particularly good at cooking, such as the wife has a good job, such as the wife takes care of the children very well.
Only those husbands who will not be people, in front of the mother, blindly complain about the wife, spit on the wife lazy, hungry, dirty, fierce, spend money and spend a lot of money, you may have no heart, just want to simply spit on the wife, but there is a saying called listening to the heart, the mother listened to your complaints, will you like your wife?
Even if the mother-in-law does not hate the daughter-in-law, in her heart already hates this woman, and then there is a little friction and small contradiction with the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law will remember the words of the son spitting on the daughter-in-law, "new hatred and old hatred" together in the heart, the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law do not quarrel or make trouble!
Smart people who can do things, who can talk, who can be human, don't speak dwarfs in front of dwarves.
Smart people know how to respect people, will not expose scars in person, people grow short, don't say in front of people, how is the short man bad, the short man is not good to find a wife, the short man is not good to find a job, the short man will inherit, the future child will also grow short, etc., the mouth is painful for a while, unconsciously offended people, but in the future, if there is a request for people, do you think he will help you?
For example, have you seen "The Biography of Zhen Huan"? Qi Gui people have an impression, right? The queen commented that she was "stupid but beautiful", and she was a living teaching material that could not come and be a person.
Empress Niangniang was born out of shu, that is, born of a little wife, at that time paid attention to the feudal society of dignity and inferiority, the birth of the empress dowager was very low, so she was not valued, and suffered a lot, so the identity of the empress dowager was her inferiority point and also a pain point, even if she later became the most honorable empress dowager, she still cared about this identity, and she hated others to mention the topic of shu out.
When the Qi nobles entered the palace, the empress intended to cultivate her, and the qi nobles were also willing to turn to the big tree of the empress dowager, and the two hit it off and got along very happily. However, after a long time, the empress dowager saw the shortcomings of the Qi nobles: too stupid, could not do things, could not be a person, but she was too beautiful, very pleasing to the emperor, so the queen still had to win her over.
Qi Gui people do too many stupid things, the most annoying thing for the empress dowager is that the Qi Gui population is unobstructed, when the concubines accompanied the empress dowager to watch the drama, they talked about shu out, and said that they had two sisters in the family, and I didn't care about them! When she said this, An Lingrong was shocked, and everyone in the palace knew that the empress dowager hated others the most when she said shu out, and you repeatedly emphasized shu out in front of the empress dowager, didn't you see the empress dowager's face change? He almost covered the mouth of qi guiren and scolded her: stupid! Stop it!