Feng Tang said: Love is temporary, useless, only money, education and future are forever. Lu Yao's love with Linda began with a love affair, and finally a personality disagreement.
Lu Yao and Linda's marriage is miserable and helpless, the two people have a lifetime of grievances, entanglements, both say that Linda is for their own liberation, want to find a happy family, only to Lu Yao so cruel and determined, but who can personally understand Linda's pain is difficult to complain about? Where in the world is there real empathy, and Linda's lament can no longer be heard.
First encounter with love, fresh and romantic
Zhang Xiaoxian always said that time does not distinguish between right and wrong, love is also, as long as you are the right person, time is also right. And the love between Lu Yao and Linda is the right person that the other they both firmly believe in is the right person they met at the right time.
At that time, Lu Yao was in the grief of being separated from his first love, and under the comfort and encouragement of Cao Guxi, he turned grief into a driving force for creation and plunged into literary creation. And Linda's arrival, like a soft ray of light, slowly shone into Lu Yao's heart, completely occupying his gap in love.
At the same time, Lu Yao's talent is also deeply attracted to Linda, Linda is a female Wenqing from Beijing, Lu Yao's literary temperament fascinates her, so she can put aside the gap between the family backgrounds of the two sides and the difference in cultural knowledge between the two, full of satisfaction and want to be with Lu Yao, and Lu Yao is determined to create a happy life belonging to two people.
This is the freshness of Lu Yao and Linda, freshness can defeat many things, regardless of fame and fortune, regardless of family lineage, as long as you like, you can resist the malice and controversy from all sides. Most women who fall in love are wholeheartedly considering problems from each other's point of view, so Linda can only see the advantages of Lu Yao and completely ignore his shortcomings.
When Linda was talking to her mother about her love and future plans with Lu Yao, she did not say anything about Lu Yao from the beginning to the end, and Linda's mother suggested to her, "You must learn to look at Lu Yao's shortcomings correctly, to fully understand him, and then make plans for your future." ”
The mother's reminder made Linda calm down for a short time, but rational analysis could not withstand the fierce love in the end, Linda was still trapped in the freshness and romance of Lu Yao, and Lu Yao was irreplaceable.
Linda's pain one: the door is right, the like-minded, the marriage of two people will be long-lasting
Jane Austen wrote in Pride and Prejudice: "A marriage contract that only considers money is absurd, and a marriage that does not consider money is stupid." "The love between Lu Yao and Linda is romantic and passionate, but the marriage of two people is the union of two families.
Linda is a Beijing urban person, the family economic conditions are generous, the growth environment is also relatively superior, but Lu Yao was born in the countryside, no background and no relationship, the combination of the two of them is far from the door to the household, and Linda is still a little bit overwhelmed by love, and resolutely decided to join hands with Lu Yao to grow old.
The love between the two people is excellent, Linda also gave up her opportunity to go to college for love, and used all the money for Lu Yao to go to Yan'an University, and after Lu Yao graduated from college, she entered the magazine as an editor, and Linda has been following Lu Yao.
Obviously it is the love of two people, but Linda has been silently supporting Lu Yao from the economy to the workplace behind her, and Linda's unreserved love for Lu Yao has made the love balance of the two people unbalanced without knowing it.
Linda and Lu Yao from love to enter the marriage hall, but also all the way to the beauty and happiness of flowers, after marriage to have a daughter, originally is the warm life of a family of three, but do not know that Lu Yao is extremely ambitious for writing, they plunged into the ocean of literary creation, so that the trivialities of the family are handled by Linda alone.
The road to creation requires inspiration and absolutely quiet space that bursts out from time to time, so Lu Yao either stays everywhere for months, or locks himself in his room and smokes day and night to create, and the day and night work and rest time are reversed, and he can't take care of Linda and his daughter at all.
For a long time, Linda's feelings for Lu Yao slowly transformed from the initial admiration and love and accumulated into complaints in the trivialities of life. Love is a match, but marriage must be right and support and understand each other in order to flow for a long time.
Lu Yao is addicted to creation, and linda wants a life that is found from chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, because Lu Yao's love is complete, but they still have their own daughters, which makes their marriage more complete.
However, the life after marriage is far from Linda's expectations, and the interests of the two people are not compatible, and Linda can neither sit down with Lu Yao to talk about literary creation, nor can she always be by his side to solve problems for him. The same is true of Lu Yao, who pushes the whole family to Linda, slightly selfish and irresponsible.
At the same time, this is also the reason why the common language of the two of them is becoming less and less, and the accumulated contradictions have been consuming the feelings of the two of them.
Linda's pain two: a person who makes money to take care of his family, but still can't exchange Lu Yao's gratitude
Barkin said that if there are two people who are born very suitable, it is because of enough tolerance and understanding to hold up a piece of the sky. Deeply believed, obviously, that love is time-sensitive. At that time, Lu Yao was already a well-known writer with the publication of the novella "Life", but his life was still tight.
Lu Yao's salary and writing fees as an editor are not high, but Lu Yao smokes the best cigarettes, and he is extremely addicted to smoking, especially when creating, smoke is the norm.
So to some extent, Lu Yao's hard work is completely inconsistent with what he gets, and his income is not even enough for his one-month tobacco supply, so the family's expenses can only rely on Linda alone, one is to meet Lu Yao's best monthly tobacco needs, and the other is to ensure that his daughter can grow up healthily.
Family expenses have increased significantly, Linda shoulders the burden of a whole family, but Lu Yao still does not treat herself badly, in addition to the best tobacco, but also wear the best clothes, and Linda also tries her best to satisfy Lu Yao's good face psychology.
Linda, who runs between family and work, does not exchange Lu Yao's gratitude, nor does she get Lu Yao's sober understanding of his current situation, and Lu Yao enjoys all the stable life and intimate care that Linda brings him. However, the two people gradually drifted apart, and the two people became bigger and bigger, and their marriages died in name only.
Linda's pain three: accumulate enough disappointment, but still be tied to Lu Yao
What Linda wants is a quiet day, when she looks up, her eyes are full of tenderness, rather than consuming her life on such a day without expectation. In Linda's heart, a clear voice told her, "Stop here." Instead of the end of the big fight, it is better to leave the scene quietly and say goodbye with dignity.
When Lu Yao completed the second part of "Ordinary World", Linda could not stand such a marriage situation after all, so she proposed a divorce to Lu Yao, but was rejected by Lu Yao. Lu Yao tied Linda to his side for several years on the grounds that their daughter was still young and the two were nearly confused, and they did not have to divorce to toss around.
However, the marriage without feelings has accumulated enough disappointment for Linda, she has long been discouraged by Lu Yao, so her attitude of divorce is very resolute, and only a few months before Lu Yao's death, Linda got the divorce agreement signed by Lu Yao, restored her freedom, and also withdrew from Lu Yao's side.
Lin Huiyin said that no matter what we become in the end, it is true that we are good to you. And Linda also did her best in life, wholeheartedly good to Lu Yao, and became the unknown woman behind the successful Lu Yao. But her suffering is unknown, and if she does not say it, no one understands.
Jin Yong said that to love a person is to exhaust a lifetime to love her, but often because the world is unpredictable and difficult to do, it is not about whether you want to do it or not, but simply can't do it, so the original commitment is only the beginning, not counted.
And all the relationships to the end is just an acquaintance, Linda and Lu Yao's first encounter and love, is indeed beautiful, and the marriage of the two of them is miserable and helpless, a lifetime of entanglement, and finally disappointed to leave, a difference between two wide. The unsuitable people with no regrets will eventually be separated, and Linda's pain will not be told, but all the grudges will always get an answer in the end.