To be honest, Aquarius is arguably the least powerful of the twelve zodiac signs.
Some Aquarius friends may wonder, "No, I especially like to communicate with people who are better than me." ”
However, what I am talking about is feelings, getting along, not simply communicating.
Because when Aquarius recognizes and respects a person, he will instinctively put away his negative emotions and some small naughtiness when communicating with the other party.
Although he will be involved in this exchange, this formal atmosphere will make him very tense. Then the next time you communicate with this person but can't find new inspiration and resonance, you will feel that this kind of communication that makes you too nervous is actually not interesting, so you will slowly distance yourself.
To put it bluntly, you will feel that you are not the same person as this person. It is possible to communicate, but there is no need to make deep friends.
Aquarius friends should be able to understand this feeling, and when they meet a very grand and mysterious person, they will initially feel, "Wow, this person has so much depth, it feels very powerful." ”
When you continue to contact with this mentality, you will suddenly feel at a certain moment that this person is just like this, it is all a posture, there is nothing real, it is not interesting.
It can also be said that Aquarius pays more attention to the feelings of both parties after getting along, whether the position of the two is equal, whether the two have a common language, and whether the goals are consistent in the short term.
As for why the goals are consistent in the short term, the reason is that the water bottle is generally not particularly firm and must be implemented in the long term.
Even if there is, he will only put it in his heart, not much to talk to others, and will periodically change with the mood state.
Therefore, under such conditions, whether the current goal is consistent, and at the same time, it will not use the future to constrain the water bottle, to let the water bottle make a choice, which will make the water bottle worry in advance because of the unknown future. This is all about improving the comfort of the water bottle when getting along.
Now the problem is, friends who have been with the water bottle should be able to understand that the water bottle is indeed a person who wants to play a show, and many times it is impossible to keep up with his rhythm, what should I do?
For example, one day he suddenly said that he wanted to see the sea, so you made a good trip planning, travel guide, and made an appointment, but when it was close to departure, he said he didn't want to go.
Although you have nothing to lose, but you feel that you have done so much homework, it is too bad not to go, and you feel that the water bottle is too fickle.
However, from the third perspective, I would think that the water bottle most likely does not want to go to the sea with you, not that it does not want to see the sea.
And the reason why I don't want to go to the sea with you is most likely that you have recently him off, and he looks at you unfavorably...
And the reason why you him off, he said he wouldn't go to the sea, may be because when you were talking about it, you took this matter out and said it, made a face that you sacrificed a lot for him, and then you were wronged...
As soon as Aquarius hears this, he will be angry, he will feel that you don't need to suffer this grievance, don't go if you don't want to go.
Eventually, you will resist the "go to the sea with you".
While not liking to talk about feelings and heart to the strong, Aquarius also does not like to talk about feelings and heart to the weak.
The so-called "strong" and "weak" have never been Aquarians to define each other, but Aquarius has observed how the other party defines themselves.
The water bottle can always quickly judge the subtle changes in the emotional relationship between two people, and he will not make any judgments with it, he will only follow the feelings in his heart.
To put it bluntly, I see that you are not in the right state, but he doesn't bother to take care of you at all, how do you love it.
Some friends may say that the water bottle is also too selfish. In fact, the water bottle is not selfish, but the self.
The difference between selfishness and self is that Aquarius never skimps on his feelings, but feels unnecessary, especially when he asks for it from himself, and he does not want to give.
The reason he doesn't give is that he feels that it would be hypocritical if love didn't come out of his heart, but was to please or coax the other person.
The goodness of the water bottle is never when to give and when not to give, but when to give and when not to give.
Because the water bottle has never calculated how much it has given to the other party and whether it has received enough returns, when hearing the other party counting with itself, the water bottle will feel particularly harsh.
In the end, the people who can't resist the water bottle are often the people who make him particularly reluctant to leave, not the people who make him particularly want to be together.
The process of getting along is much more important than the eye rim. And the point of getting along is that you really can't be too worried about the water bottle.
Take the above example of looking at the sea, if you suddenly say "don't go" when you are in conflict, the best thing to do at this time is not to answer this word at all, you can continue to argue about the last contradiction, you can also change the topic to pull.
But you just can't, "Do you know how much preparation I've done?" "If you say you don't want to go now, you won't go?" "Why do you always want me to follow your rhythm?" ”
That's a big problem.
Even if you reconcile later, Aquarius will refuse to look at the sea, because your words have stuck in his throat. He could not mention it, but it was hard for him to forget, so he could only avoid the topic.
And the water bottle will have a new contradiction, he obviously wants to see the sea, but why don't he want to go to the sea with you, is it because the feelings of the two people have changed?
No, it's that the water bottle is too afraid of guilt. Often at the moment when he said something harsh, Aquarius felt guilty.
But because Aquarius is arrogant, he will not bow his head, let alone explain, and will only silently compensate in a better way to the other party, but the premise must be that the other party has not shown his grievances, thus making the water bottle feel very guilty.
Because the water bottle doesn't want the other person to feel like they're making up. The water bottle does not want the other party to be on top, and I don't want to be on top of myself.
I've said countless times that Aquarius wants reciprocal relationships, and back-and-forth relationships.
Emotional life, emotional life, although there are feelings and then life, but in the end it is still necessary to return to life. No matter how sweet and happy two people are together, they will not learn how to deal with the emotions of contradictions, how to avoid embarrassment, and they will only go farther and farther in the end.
And how to avoid embarrassment, there are only two sentences, the first is not too calculating, the second is not too paranoid.
Aquarius got angry and said he didn't want to go out to eat, so you don't hang around in front of his eyes, wait for half an hour, wait for him to be hungry, and then run over to him and ask him if he eats hot pot or ramen, and he will go with you.
Knowing that Aquarius's thinking is jumping and his emotions are changeable, don't ask him for an explanation when he is not in the right state. When he is in a good mood, all problems and contradictions are naturally solved.
It's simple to say, but the people who can really do it, I can only say, "high realm".
Yes, the person who can't resist the water bottle is the person with the highest realm.
He is calm and self-assured about the things that others are worried about, he is serious when others are laughing and playing, and he always knows when to do something, what is important, what is not important, what should be solved, what does not have to be calculated.
For such a person, the water bottle is incapable of resisting. Such a person will give the water bottle a feeling of stability that has never been seen before.
You can't point to the head of the water bottle and tell him how to do it, but take his hand and run all the way forward.
Don't say you're going to be together for the rest of your life when you're sweet, it's too vain. If you have not been separated all the time, aren't you together for a lifetime?
Aquarius is a man who understands everything, but he needs a reason, he needs to be driven. Don't plan his future in words, but show him practical actions.