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Poetry: "The winding path leads to a secluded place, and the Zen room is deep in flowers and trees." ”
After a few turns and a few stretches, there is a pleasant scenery in front of you. If you see the end of the road at a glance, you may not even have the idea of walking.
Many times, what attracts a person is not a beautiful landscape, but a "mysterious landscape".
Everyone likes to take shortcuts, climbing mountains is too tiring, it is better to take the cable car; success is too difficult, it is better to sit and enjoy it.
In fact, the really powerful people never achieve it overnight, but go around for many years to find the direction, and sink and float many times before they really emerge.
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First, in terms of learning attitude: first tired of learning, then eager to learn.
When we were not yet in school, we thought that reading was a fun thing. So, without understanding, I walked into the academy. When we were teenagers, we suddenly found that reading was a very stressful thing.
Especially those who have poor reading grades, they are eager to leave the school immediately and go outside. I will even believe that if I go out to work earlier, there may be opportunities for development. In case they have achieved success, people with high academic qualifications of the same age will come to work for themselves.
There is an insulting saying called "think beautiful."
Singer Qi Qin once sang: "The outside world is very wonderful, and the outside world is helpless." "The reality is like this, you think that reading is very hard, in fact, part-time work is more bitter, middle-aged people without money, bitter and bitter."
On the "China Youth Network", there is such a story: Wang Wei, a takeaway brother, was admitted to the ideal university with a good score of 623 points, and was paid attention to and praised by everyone. What is even more valuable is that before the college entrance examination, he was in a state of studying while delivering takeaways.
When we looked deeply into Wang Wei, we found that before joining the takeaway industry, he was already a food engineering and science student at a university. It's just that he is very bored with school, always hangs up the subject, and has to quit school.
He knows himself this way: "My story is two sides of the coin, one side is inspirational, the other side is wasted youth. ”
Only when one has experienced the lowest methods of making money will one understand the difference between "laborers and laborers". Even if it is selling coolies, it must have technical content.
"There is a house of gold in the book", this sentence is true, but to bear this sentence, it takes a lot of effort. From passive reading to active reading, this is a key turning point for a person who is very good at reading.
Read with interest and force yourself to read in order to learn. Read more books, there are always a few paragraphs that motivate you to move forward, and there is always a skill that will benefit you for life.
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Second, in terms of career choices: first confused, then understood.
"Three hundred and sixty lines, lines out of the yuan", we all understand the reason, but to join which industry, how to achieve their own, but also have to think of a lot of ways.
Some people, out of the campus, go to work, and then accumulate funds, have a certain experience, open shops, run factories, step by step to the peak of their careers. Even in the migrant work team, there are also migrant stars.
What are you doing? How? The result? Always in practice, slowly groping. Therefore, many people will repeatedly take detours in their careers, and finally find their advantages and jump up.
There was a big boy named Zhou Hao, who broke into Peking University in 2008 with a score of more than 660 college entrance examinations. At the top schools, he couldn't find happiness and couldn't achieve his dreams. So, he took a year off school to experience life in society and study "life".
Walking into the campus again, he decided decisively to transfer to Beijing Industrial Technician College. His future is to become a skilled worker.
It turned out that Zhou Hao succeeded. Over the years, he has shown his talents in many technical competitions, and his work has also been successful.
I like this passage very much: "Some people live in high-rise buildings, some people are in deep ditches, some people are naked, and some people are rusty." ”
The really powerful people, in the deep ditch, as soon as they look up, they will see the moon, and the stars and the sea.
Doing what suits you, just like a good saddle meets a maxima, a maxima meets a bole, and from now on, it is easy to take a few steps, and it can be different.
What to do is one thing, what is done is another. If the direction is wrong, tossing at the beginning means failure. It is better to calm down, think about life, and find the direction of career.
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Third, in terms of emotional trade-offs: first love appearance, then love character.
The writer Chang Yingchun once wrote about this: In the evening, he went to a coffee shop to eat.
There was a beautiful girl in the shop, wearing a mask, who kept her head down and was busy.
He said, "Waiter, help with the water." ”
It was loud, but the girl didn't hear it. After a while, the girl turned around, only to find that he needed to add water. That is, the moment he added water, he found that the girl was deaf and mute.
He was ashamed because he was "reckless and didn't understand."
That day, he and the girl exchanged a few times with a handwritten board, and then gave the girl a heartfelt thumbs up and showed a smile of encouragement.
When dealing with people, the most difficult thing is not the exchange of interests, but empathy and mutual respect.
Someone said, "Character is the hardest hole card." ”
When emotionally, you can do it to fake the truth, you can understand others. When you respect others, you yourself will appear noble. That's the real success of social.
Whether it is a husband and wife getting along, or friends, parents and children, colleagues and classmates, etc., it is an emotional interaction. If you blame others, lose your fate, and turn against your family, and then start reflecting on yourself, it shows that you are really good.
A powerful person often thanks those who hurt themselves and abandons themselves, spurs themselves to grow, and gives themselves the opportunity to find true love.
After emotional experience, you will understand: only if your character is good enough, you are entitled to love someone, and you can meet people with the same good character.
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The detour is not terrible, but there are a few more "inflection points".
The most terrible thing is that some people go to the black on a tendon and a road, even if they are wrong, they don't know how to stop loss.
One singer said, "If my song is not listened to, then sing it to yourself." ”
Really, we live our whole lives not for others, but for ourselves. If no one appreciates, then it is self-congratulatory. As long as the direction is right, you will continue to shine and spit out fragrance, and naturally have the beauty of "wine is not afraid of deep alleys".
"The world is like an incinerator, and people are like firewood", igniting themselves again and again, and there is no darkness ahead.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.