Excerpt from "One Man's Last List" by David Monash (U.S.) Translator: Xie Jiazhen

(Brave Choice)

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I knew cancer was going to beat me down, and it would only be sooner, not later. Although my vision has shrunk, the world has become darker, my hands are too weak to lift my fork to feed myself, and my legs are weakening under my body, I have walked my life in the only way I know in my remaining days, and.

To sum up, I may be unlucky, but there are still many things worth living. I'll do it before I swallow my last breath. I know that cancer can change me, but I will never allow cancer to take away my personal qualities, one of which I value the most.

I strongly advocate being honest and frank, even if the truth is terrible, even if the disclosure of the truth will lead to unpleasant consequences. Over the years, I've seen firsthand the benefits of being open and honest in the classroom, and I've seen students get what they have to do. Trust brings respect.

Sometimes, it's the dreams you don't even know you had.

Why do you want to do that? The golden earth unfolds before you, and all kinds of unexpected things are stirring, waiting to raid you and make you.

I learned a bitter lesson:.

Whether I teach successfully or not is not to see if I let the children learn the content of each lesson, but whether the children recognize my efforts. I have high expectations for my children, but I am more demanding of myself. As the saying goes, "". I found that the children wanted the teacher to ask a lot of demands and expectations for them.

Ask each student to stand up, and the reason they think picked out these teachers. My students want a teacher who cares about them and is thoughtful, but not too polite, otherwise they will think you are a bully. They want someone who cares about them, but not a friend. Be loud enough that they don't have to elongate their ears and hear, or they'll lose interest. Whispering is equal to tediousness, and tediousness means that you are a corrupt teacher. Children want teachers to respect them, but not to make them feel like they're on an equal footing with you in every way. They understand that you stand at the podium because your experience and achievements are higher than theirs, which is very good, just please, don't talk to them in a contemptuous tone, which is extremely important. They don't want you to be on top and they don't want to be coaxed.

She wanted to get rid of the book, and there were no doors. "Keep looking, ."

The punishment of a deceiver is not to be untrustworthy, but rather his inability to trust anyone. Further, our act of lying is tantamount to acknowledging that we are actually afraid.

: Start your life from birth. You, when you're hungry, when your diapers are dirty, you cry, you don't care that you can't sleep at night, you just want to be satisfied. Three or four years old, the lollipop fell to the ground and was thrown away, and you cried to death and came back to life, at this time you. At the age of eight, you see your mother crying, you, but you go aside and continue to do your own thing. In a few years, you finally begin to know how to show your true feelings to others. At the age of ten, you see your mother crying again, and that's when you. Time flies, we slowly withdraw from our own framework, and the things we care about are less and less related to ourselves. Finally, but that's the goal. By coming here, it means that you now value the past, the future, and things that have no direct impact on you, such as the hungry children of Africa. At this time, you will have empathy for others, you will have compassion, and you will have sincere respect in your words and deeds, because when you are here, you.

Make a list of words that can be applied to each person's life (e.g., honor, love, wealth, strength, career, respect), and ask students to assess the priorities of each character and draw up their own. The priority checklist is a valuable tool that often helps them (and me). There's nothing magical about the list itself, but the order of the words has an inexplicable and eccentric power to uncover the secrets of the secrets that come home and dig out the deep truths hidden in the subconscious, even the children.

You can overanalyze a situation in minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months; try to piece together the whole picture of things, argue how things could have been, how they should have been....

I can accept that there is no room for me to speak in fate, and cancer will kill me, but whether to take medication to prolong a miserable life is a choice. So? "I don't." I said again, hearing the certainty in my voice, "I have the final say." "Cancer has taken away my past and will take away my future, and it's time for me to speak for myself."

Thinking about what is left in my life, the answer becomes crystal clear. Now is the time to live well and really live. I have always believed, for me, that this means returning to the student. I decided to end all treatment and embark on the journey. I can do this, and what matters to me is me. Understand that as long as you live with a goal, life is worth living. As for how to live, it is up to you to decide.

"Basically it's suicide." "No," I said, "the decision I made was to live well. ”

When you truly realize that you will die, when you are ready for death, then you learn how to live, this is a bittersweet lesson. But there is beauty in it. suddenly. Who you are is no longer defined by your work, but by what you give and how you love. For me, that's where it is to die.

I want you to see what true courage is, and don't think that holding a gun in your hand is called bravery.

"How does it feel to be on the road?" "Excitement, but anxiety. With so much anticipation, too much planning and thinking before the trip, before this moment I could only imagine what the trip would be like, and now I can really put the bits and pieces into my memory bank. Even though the first stop hadn't arrived yet, at least I had set off and I hadn't bowed to cancer.

Less than half a day after reuniting with her, she taught me a valuable lesson: . Melissa has been transformed from an insecure high school student into a woman.

If I can accept the help of others, sincerely thank the people who helped me, and no longer feel bitter about it, perhaps it means that I have already died with myself, and my new subject will be to accept that this is my future way of life.

You're hurting yourself, can that improve your situation? You are simply hurting yourself and destroying your chances of inner peace and happiness. You will never be happy unless you are.

"Being a Cripple": Others– whether lame or not– are afraid when they hear the word "crippled", but they don't when they hear "limbic" or "crippled". Maybe I just want others to be afraid, I want them to see me as a difficult customer, a person who has not received fate, gods, viruses, but can be cruel.

Sometimes, children struggle not to know what kind of life they want, and I explain it with a fictional proposition. I told them to imagine themselves playing lotto and winning billions in prize money. "I dare say you're going to go shopping first," I said, "and then travel around the world." "I led them to imagine that situation, and along the way they had bought everything they wanted for themselves and every loved one, and they had seen all the beauty and wonder of the world. After that, there was so much extravagant money left to spend, and then I asked them what they would do to fill their lives. "Do you hope to achieve anything in this life?" Do you want to get any reputation? Finally, I asked them, "?" "I want students to understand that money is important, but they don't have to give up their dreams in order to make money. I encourage them to find a career that both makes money and nourishes their souls.

I think the more different people in the world, the better, but I want everyone to be very careful about pursuing their way of life and not following the path that his father or mother or neighbor took. The young man may be engaged in the business of building, planting, and going to sea, as long as he is not hindered. Our ingenuity is no more than a precise point, like the North Star that sailors or fugitive slaves always pay attention to, but that is enough to be our lifelong guide. We may not be able to reach the port within an estimated range, but we will.

。 "Love is not a feeling that fills you when you sit on the sidelines and watch and wait." I said, "Love is a kind. "That's an act of love.

It represents how I live after I am diagnosed. You can't control what cards others give you, only.

I used to go outside in the middle of the night to admire the moon. Knowing that no matter where I am or what situation I am facing, it is always comforting to see millions of other people looking at the same moon at the same moment. I told Emily that if she did, she would never be alone. Wherever life takes us, we can find each other on the moon.

Red foam pressure relief ball, and then say what you have to say. Occasionally when I'm stressed or anxious, I use it.

I used to confuse power with strength, but I learned the stark differences. When I was young, I wanted that ability, I wanted to influence others, I wanted to change the world, and now I'm satisfied that I used the power I had in my hand at the time, no matter what it was. However, it must therefore be placed near the top of the new list. For I only want to have the resilience to endure the last days of my life.

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