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"Professor Rong, I think there have been a lot of things lately, the pressure is so great, so busy that I don't have my own time to do what I want to do, I think my body needs to rest and empty, but with it, my brain has been constantly turning, worried about work, worried about things not doing well, the result is that I can't sleep well at night, and I can't put things down in my heart to finish this thing." This is what a visitor said the other day, and I was very impressed.
I replied to him: "It sounds like your recent life has been a big burden on you, and you can talk more about what has happened recently to make you feel overwhelmed by things." ”
"At the beginning of the year, I was just promoted to the leader of our group, and I learned that the original team leader had to deal with so many things, usually they would not do business will come to me, sometimes also need to help them coordinate communication with the people above, as well as disputes between colleagues...
Hearing Appin's description, what thoughts and feelings do you have in your heart? In fact, many people fill their lives like Ah Ping, because we always want to let ourselves continue to grow, so we only remember to arrange many challenges in life, forget to leave a good time with themselves; sometimes unconsciously, all things are crowded together, and there is no way to complete a good thing, and finally disappointed in themselves, self-blame or frustration, thinking that they are incompetent.
Why is this happening? Freud once said of three selves: the id, the ego, and the superego:
The self represents the most primitive desire within, including the need to eat, drink, pull, and sleep.
Ego: Developed in combination with the inner desires of the ego and the intellectual and external norms of the superego.
Superego: Also known as the moral self or ideal self, it has built-in self-measuring values and ideal standards.
When we reach the ideal of the superego, we will have a sense of self-worth, and conversely, if we cannot meet our ideals or violate the ideals I expect of ourselves, we will have feelings of inferiority and shame, thinking that we are not good enough, it is bad.
In the following hypnosis consultation, in addition to exploring the reasons for the formation of Appin's superego, I also took him into the practice of hypnotic mindfulness, while taking care of Aping's desire to rest, and also relaxing his brain and body that were tense because he could not finish his troubles.
At first, Ah Ping would frown unconsciously, but with each practice, Ah Ping began to slowly relax his body, bring his mind back to the time, and feel his body and mind.
Later, Ah Ping told me that coming to the consultation was the time he gave himself to rest and relax, he felt that there was a charge, and he found that after each consultation, he was more energetic and efficient in dealing with other things, and this awareness was very important, because it made him understand that he needed to observe his state and listen to his inner needs when facing life choices in the future, not just blindly forcing himself to take over all the work.
Many people in the practice of hypnosis self-healing, mindfulness, think that the brain is "completely unable to think about things", in fact, this is very normal, anything is not immediately able to do, we need to repeat the practice again and again, through hypnotherapy to bring ourselves back to the time, feel their hypnotic state and the physical feelings brought, in the continuous practice to learn self-observation, improve self-awareness, as well as the ability to self-regulate.
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