If you have social impairments, see if there are any symptoms of you in these 5 types of "suicide" social interactions

The old saying has clouds: a gentleman is like a jade, and his hands are warm.

Gentleman is everyone yearns for elegance and wisdom, become a humble person, will be like jade tentacles warm, brilliant and introverted but clean and immaculate, gentlemen should tolerate the measurement of the deep sea, treat people warm and warm, behave calmly and generously, approachable, always like a spring breeze.

However, many people in life, there are some social barriers, not only to prevent their own growth, but also to bring displeasure and discomfort to others, sometimes an inappropriate word will even bring painful feelings to the other party, not to mention the establishment of friendship, and even make extreme disgust, at the expense of turning the other cheek.

1. Treat the unobstructed mouth as humor

At the 94th Academy Awards, the host Krock, because of the malicious ridicule of Will Smith's wife Jada was slapped by Will: Jada because of hair loss disease caused bald head, But Klock threatened to ask Jada to play a TV series with a bald head as the protagonist, and directly saved makeup.

This is undoubtedly naked contempt and provocation, Crocker himself has no hair loss problem, nor does he know how to consider the impact of hair loss on a woman from a woman's standpoint, and he also said such words without any cover at the Oscars ceremony where many stars arrived and even broadcast globally, and also flaunted that he was saying a bald terrier, all the people in the camera felt disdainful, Will Smith was even more angry, immediately walked to the stage, gave Crocker a loud slap.

Will Smith's move seriously affected the Oscars and subjected him to a lot of invective, but he did what every man should do, and no man could calm down at a time when his wife was being viciously ridiculed by shameless people.

Many people can't talk, they like to talk nonsense, like to expose scars, and make people hurt, but they flaunt themselves as humor masters, but they don't know that they are extremely disrespectful to others, disgusting not to say, but also sad and sad.

2) Treating ignorance as fearless is actually shameless

Jia Ling, a guest on a variety show, once accused a reporter who made her very disdainful asked her a question: When Jia Ling's mother was in a car accident and lost her precious life because she was working on the farm, she lost her precious life, and the reporter actually shamelessly asked when interviewing Jia Ling - are you sad that her mother is gone!

A word through the heart, the pain of the skin made Jia Ling want to cry without tears, sad no, herself she was very sorry not to accompany her in the last moments of her mother's life, by the reporter so shamelessly asked this kind of question, Jia Ling was speechless and choked, very angry.

Some people are ignorant, but pretend that they are fearless, in fact, they are shameless, and making jokes about other people's pain points is itself disgusting, and they should not joke about other people's families, which is too outrageous.

3, conceited, pointing fingers at others

I have a friend, is one of the few college students in the countryside, after graduation to stay in the city to work, the family people are also very honorable, often have nothing to do with their home contact, sometimes relatives and friends at home encounter some problems also like to ask him for advice, slowly, he developed the habit of making decisions for the family's relatives and friends, some people look for him to be the master, people are very happy, because they think his way of thinking and the ability to deal with problems are relatively strong. But it's not absolute.

Once their family had a relative's child to go to the big city to work, young people to go to the city, it is always a good thing, but because he himself in college, no money, often do part-time work, very hard, so he felt that the life in the city is not suitable for rural people, not to mention children without any cultural ability, in fact, he was a good heart, but their relatives think that he himself mixed so well in the city, but prevented other children from going to the city to break in. There was an indescribable feeling, as if he deliberately did not want others to go to the city to see the outside world, and then the child went to Beijing by himself, and slowly adapted to the life of working in the big city, and slowly entered a stable period.

Then a long time later, suddenly one day the relative ran over to their house and said to his parents: Fortunately, I did not listen to your son's words, otherwise my children would still be in the countryside, and they would certainly be useless and have nothing to do.

His parents heard this kind of words in their hearts are very uncomfortable, call to communicate with him, he suddenly soberly realized that his position in the hearts of others is not so important, some people come to consult is actually casually asked, not seriously to seek help and guidance, even if it is serious to seek help, can not be too conceited to other people's lives, after all, everyone's experience and opportunities are different, can not be generalized, so sometimes pointing out the script has become a mistake.

4. Deliberately raise the bar in order to show their talents

There are always some such people in life, when they encounter something, they especially like to talk with you, whether it is a hot topic in the south of the world, or anecdotes on the Internet, everyone has nothing to do together, it is an entertainment, but some people especially like to raise the bar, no matter what the content, he likes to express his own views, if you and his views are not the same, he especially likes to open his eyes and raise the bar with you, from astronomy to geography, from abroad to the country, from ancient to modern, no matter how there is only one purpose That is, we must persuade you to listen to his belief in him, and it is only when you surrender that it is over, and if you do not surrender, you will always say that "the sky is barren and the earth is old."

This kind of person is the most repulsive, even if he is wrong, he does not admit it, and must convince you, this kind of person is actually extremely disrespectful to friends, always feel that they are superior, more talented than others, more powerful, more rich, so they have the capital to take their own views to suppress others.

This kind of friend can be kept away when encountered, so as not to waste time.

5, do not pay attention to the scale of derailment operation, there is no sense of distance

People together are most taboo not to pay attention to proportions, there is no sense of distance.

Some people have strong affinity, give people a very comfortable feeling, and it seems very comfortable to be with him.

But some people, in order to set up almost, take people crazy and familiar as affinity, meet each other for the first time and hate late, as if they are old friends who have not been seen for many years, talking and doing things are very abrupt, giving people a very abrupt and uncomfortable feeling, which makes people disgusted.

There are also people who know that you have a little thing, just in front of others, pretending to have a good relationship with you, shouting to be the master for you, helping you out, helping you get it done, etc., in fact, it is a small thing for you, even if it is not an important dispensable thing, but he shouts there in order to show that he has a good relationship with you.

Everyone needs their own independent space, learn to honor others is the basis of dating, can put themselves in the shoes of others to consider, is the respect for others, in order to be respected by others, in order to have a better popularity,

Remember that the behavior cannot be excessive, otherwise it is all "suicidal" social and meaningless.

Feel the beauty with your heart, and write your life with words

Author: Ji Nuohan

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