Source | Parents' Church (askjane)
Yang Suhui, a cancerous mother who has been looking for her son for nearly 26 years, died of lung cancer on January 23, 2017, and when she was seriously ill, she said this:
"If the time comes, I can spend my whole life looking for my son."
5 years later, on March 5 this year, her son, who was abducted for 31 years, was found through blood sample comparison!
And this 35-year-old Guangdong Huizhou man "Li Ming", who speaks Hokkien, knew that he was Xu Jianfeng, the son of Yang Suhui, and was stunned at the moment:
"Isn't this the one I contacted years ago?" What a fate. ”
A year before Yang Suhui's death, he also wanted to find his mother, and he added Yang Suhui's WeChat through the news, but because the photos, birthmarks and other features did not match, the two passed by.
One is looking for the son, the other is looking for the mother, but the mother and son have become two parallel lines.
Xu Jianfeng and his sister Yang Dan
"The child is lost"
June 5, 1991, was a day that Yang Suhui, who was 31 years old at the time, would never have imagined in any way.
His 4-year-old son, Xu Jianfeng, was lost.
In her hometown of Taizhou, Zhejiang, she is a preschool teacher, her husband Xu Puming is working in Guangzhou, because of the persuasion of the cut off the arm, Yang Suhui went to take care of it, and asked her brother to send two children to Guangzhou, the family reunion.
On that day, Yang Suhui had a bad premonition.
According to her program on Beijing Satellite TV, that morning, traffickers abducted her two children, and were found in the car by their compatriots and brought back.
After this incident, the couple began to quarrel and decided to take one with them.
Daughter Yang Dan did not like her father, because he always beat her, so she stuck to her mother, and her son Xu Jianfeng followed her father Xu Puming.
Xu Puming took his son to the Southern Building, the most prosperous part of Guangzhou, and rested on a row of seats between the stairs.
Xu Jianfeng once recalled this experience on social platforms:
At that time, Dad was asleep, and he couldn't wake up no matter how he screamed. Two young people next to him said to him: "Baby, Dad is too tired and needs to rest." Your father asked your uncle to take you to the park to play, and when we came back, dad naturally woke up. ”
Ignorant, he liked to go to the park to play, and joyfully said to his sleeping father, "Daddy goodbye." ”
He did not expect that this "goodbye" would change his identity and destroy his family.
Dragged I don't know how much I walked, but I remember the three of them resting in a grassy house, and being taken turns by two people.
He was taken to many homes, and they sometimes made him laugh, sometimes told him to jump, sometimes told him to strip and circle.
He kept asking when he could go home and find his mother, but they were just cajoling and didn't really take him to find it once. So he himself fled, was found, and fled again.
Xu Jianfeng recalled his abduction experience on social media
Once, he took 300 yuan from an uncle's wallet and thought, "This will make you look for your mother for a long, long time." ”
Along the way, buy buns, buy snacks, clothes are dirty, feet are grinding bubbles, everywhere rummaging through other people's garbage to find food,
Until I walked into a small fishing village, was taken in by my current adoptive mother, became the fifth member of the family, and had a "new" father, mother, brother, and sister.
"In the process of finding my son
I felt like crazy."
On the other hand, Yang Suhui asked her husband Xu Puming with the pain of losing her son, and her husband only cried and said he didn't know.
The search for a child was fruitless, and within a few days, her husband began to play mahjong again, leaving her to search alone and persuading her to give up.
In the face of Xu Puming's attitude, she and her daughter even suspected at one point that he had sold his young son.
Since then, the two have gone their separate ways, gone through divorce procedures, and gone their separate ways.
Yang Suhui sent her daughter back to her hometown in Taizhou, where she worked in Guangzhou while looking for her son.
In an era when communications were not as developed as they are now, she posted posters in the most crowded places, such as squares and docks, trying to find out the whereabouts of traffickers.
"In the process of finding my son, I felt crazy. For the first few months, my mind wasn't normal... I don't know how to eat, I don't know anything. ”
She randomly got on a bus, sat at the terminal station, and frequently looked out the window, not knowing how many cars she had taken in a day.
She told people over and over again how she lost her son, and each time she spoke, it was tantamount to pouring salt on her own wounds. But in order for more people to hear, the pain must also be spoken.
She then expanded her search to the whole country.
Every day, read the newspaper, TV on the children to find the news of home, and then later, learn to go online, through the forum to find relatives website to get news.
As long as there was a little hope, I rushed there as soon as I was crazy.
Once, a message said that in her hometown of Zhejiang, there was a child who resembled her.
She came to the village where the child was, but the whole village did not agree with her to see the child, more than 20 people chased her and beat her, she ran to the road, the child's grandfather beat her with a hoe, the child's aunt pulled her hair, and her face was swollen like a swollen bun.
She lay on the ground and felt someone kicking her with her foot, not knowing how many people were hitting her.
Even so, she did not give up and "stared" at this child for 21 years.
Years of persistence finally impressed the child's adoptive parents and agreed to a DNA comparison between the adopted son and her.
But this child is not Xu Jianfeng.
Yang Suhui once again fell into despair.
Such an experience is only reported by the media, and more of the heartache is known only to herself. Beaten, deceived, misunderstood, and repeatedly disappointed by themselves and disappointed by others: at least 5,60 young people who come to confess their relatives but return disappointed.
In the process, she met many people who had the same disease and lost their children, such as Sun Haiyang and Guo Gangtang. It also helped many children find their parents.
She was happy to help them because she felt not alone when she was with them.
But when will your own child be found?
Two parents who found their abducted son and daughter came to visit Yang Suhui, who was sick
Lost his son
Also "lost" the daughter
In 2014, Yang Suhui was diagnosed with right lung adenocarcinoma due to a violent cough.
But she was reluctant to stay in the hospital for treatment.
One is because, "after radiation therapy and chemotherapy, people don't look like people at all." She didn't want her son to recognize her.
I am also afraid that receiving treatment means that she can only stay in the hospital after that, and she will never have the opportunity to find her son.
As a result, the disease progressed to an advanced stage, and she missed the best time for treatment.
Another reason is for the daughter.
"I'm not happy to drag my daughter down again."
Yang Suhui spent almost all her time looking for her son, and became the closest stranger to her daughter Yang Dan in her hometown.
Every time she came home, she hid from her mother.
If her mother said of her, she said, "You don't care about me, you don't talk about me." ”
In fact, Yang Suhui had already said a million words of sorry in her heart, but she could not open her mouth to her daughter.
She thought that the day she found Xu Jianfeng, she would pour out her guilt over the years.
In Yang Dan's heart, in fact, he had already forgiven his mother.
She believed that if her mother had lost her, she would have looked for it in this way.
Mother and daughter obviously have the same heart, but if they could say it at that time, would they not be so sorry for each other?
25 years of maternal love
All at once, it hit him
There is an induction between attachment and obsession.
One is looking for a mother, the other is looking for a son, although there is no intersection, it is still accompanied by time and space.
After being taken in by their adoptive parents, the two traffickers once came to the door again, asked his adoptive parents for 10,000 yuan, the adoptive parents did not give, and two years later, they came to ask for 6,000 yuan.
Xu Jianfeng knew that those two people were not uncles, but human traffickers.
Since he was a child, he has thought about how to find his mother.
In 2010, he went to collect blood, but at that time, because the technology was not yet mature, he did not match Yang Suhui.
In 2016, it was the closest she had been to her mother, and when she saw the news of Yang Suhui's search for a son, she felt that she was very similar to her, but because he only sent a picture taken from the back, Yang Suhui felt that he was not similar to her, so she was excluded.
Moreover, Yang Suhui also always remembered that her son had an egg-sized birthmark on his buttocks, but Xu Jianfeng once played with it when he was a child, burned that part and became unrecognizable.
Xu Jianfeng, who is 1 meter 83, himself is also a little suspicious that he is so tall, he may not be the son of Yang Suhui and Xu Puming.
Xu Jianfeng (right) with Sun Haiyang
Originally, he was ready to do a more accurate DNA after returning from the sea in those few days, but I don't know if it was a trick of fate, the ship went farther and farther, and it took several days to go.
The two missed the best chance to meet each other.
On the day of Yang Suhui's death, her daughter Yang Dan sent a circle of friends.
The first person to leave a message was Xu Jianfeng.
It was 3:30 in the middle of the night, Xu Jianfeng seemed to have some induction to wake up, saw the news, and left a message under the message: "All the way, Aunt Yang." ”
In the early morning of March 6, he was notified by public security officers that he and Yang Suhui's blood samples were successfully compared.
After Xu Jianfeng knew that his mother was Yang Suhui, he once had a dream that when his mother covered his stomach and cried out in pain, he held his mother's hand and shouted "Mom" over and over again.
He frantically searched the Internet for all the videos, news, and pictures of his mother plastered in the room.
The moment he knew that she was his mother, his mother's past experience, he could fully understand.
Now he can finally call out "Mother" in front of Yang Suhui's grave.
Xu Jianfeng and his sister are in front of the tomb of their mother Yang Suhui
Yang Suhui once asked Jiang again and again on the edge of the Pearl River, "Where are you son?" ”
Also in writing, a letter was written to her little sword:
Xiao Jian, when you were a child, you were brought to the age of 4 at the house of grandma linhai, do you remember there?
Grandma's family has a courtyard, behind the house is a mountain, in front of the river. When you were a child, your grandmother taught you to read, and you often went to pick grapes and oranges. Grandma's family also has a little grandson, about the same age as you, and you play together.
After the age of 4, your mother brought you to Guangzhou, renting a bungalow next to a medicinal shop, and there were often medicinal herbs in front of the house.
Xiao Jian, your sister has married and had children, you have become an uncle, and your nephew is 4 years old, looking very similar to when you were a child.
Now, her little sword finally had a concrete look, and she could hear what her mother had said to him.
In the recent live broadcast of Xu Jianfeng, it can be seen that he continued his mother's volunteer and ran and shouted for more families in the search for children. From time to time, parents' search for children information also appears in the comments, describing the time when the child was lost and what it looked like when it was lost.
This story, as the founder of Baby Home said: "This is the sadness that dare not be played in the movie script." Fate tricks people and punishes traffickers! ”
May there be no turning in the world!
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Author: Askjane integrates Chinese and Western, gathers elite parents at home and abroad, and expands the vision of international education. Note: All images come from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact.
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