On October 14, 2019, South Korean female artist Choi Shirley committed suicide and passed away. Two years have passed since this news release, which once shocked the world.
In 2020, the documentary "Where Does Cui Shirley Make You Feel Uncomfortable?" In an interview with the documentary, Shirley asked, "What do ordinary people most curious about me?" and then laughed and replied, "I should be most curious about whether I am a 'crazy woman'!" ”
There is no shortage of crazy women in the world.
Shirley once had so many warm and dazzling auras, but today people mention her, but she is depressed and committed suicide, suffered a collapse of online violence, and was humiliated by a slut to push into the abyss...
Speculation and labels did not peel off her until she left, and even accumulated more and more.
After Shirley left, I wrote this article to ask the world—
After Shirley left, are you slowly getting better?
Shirley has publicly stated on the show that sexism and racial discrimination are the things she hates the most.
What "killed" her
In 2005, at the age of 11, Shirley entered the Korean entertainment industry that "encourages artists to be silent." Here, the artist's personal emotions are not allowed to be put on the table, and Shirley, who leaves home alone, needs to learn and accept these rules alone.
In 2009, she joined the women's group f(x) and then gradually became a big hit.
Debuting early as a child star, her beautiful appearance and agile acting skills have made her all the way. However, all this collapsed in 2014, and her life took a huge turn.
In 2014, Shirley was photographed falling in love with Cui Zi, who was 14 years older, and the bad comments of netizens poured into her like a flood since then:
Is it crazy? Is this Dad and Daughter?
Is Shirley paying attention?
It is because of the absence of father's love that she is like this!
In 2015, she announced her withdrawal from f(x) in hopes of focusing on her acting career, but was attacked by some people for "bringing down the team".
No longer an idol of the girl group, she is more free and freewheeling, and she can show her true self to people. However, because of a change from the pure and lovely style of the past, it was stigmatized as a "slut" and "unruly".
Since then, the evaluation of Shirley that can be seen on the Internet has slowly become "because she is Cui Shirley, so no matter what she does, it is wrong."
Friends say that Shirley is a person who likes to share real life on SNS, but it is because of this unreserved display that she has become a target used by the public on the Internet to vent misogynistic emotions and life pressures.
Traveling with your boyfriend, taking pictures of kisses, and uploading them to SNS is a very natural thing in a relationship. But because she was Sherry, after she did so, countless slut-shaming ensued.
Drinking with friends, having hangovers, filming "chaotic" scenes, uploading them to SNS — this would have been a very common thing, at least, an ordinary person who does this without encountering face-splitting insults.
But because she was Sherry, she did, and the evil words behind the phone screen seemed to say" "You are even wrong to breathe." The media made a big fuss about it, with explicit headlines, "rubbing heat", "absurd photos", "sexual innuendo"...
Sociocultural critic Kawa Commented that [Shirley's] private life in SNS is always being monitored and chewed on by the people of the whole country.
Kim Ji-wook, the producer of the reality show "Truth Store" featuring Shirley, attended the party that night, and he was very surprised that Shirley had once again encountered bad reviews: "Shirley felt that this was a happy photo, wanted to stay in SNS, just called her warm friends, and had an ordinary party at home. Nor did it do anything strange. ”
In this way, Shirley has silently accepted all this alone for many years.
Everyone scolded her on the live broadcast, and she responded with a smile: Now there are four thousand people watching my live broadcast, "What strange thing is Shirley going to do today?" "You know I'm weird, but still come and see me.
Slowly, pairs of invisible hands gripped her throat. She suffered from depression, accompanied by intense panic disorder. In a later interview, she mentioned that when she first had symptoms, she would be particularly afraid of hearing other people's opinions, and she was also afraid of seeing people, but she did not know what to do, did not see a doctor, did not take medicine, and could only carry it alone.
She has also tried to reconcile with the outside world and tried to ask for help.
After confirming her illness, Shirley turned to the company, which arranged psychological counseling for her. She said on the live broadcast that (because of the panic disorder) she is generally unable to go out now, (this live broadcast) is the first time in recent times with friends to go out, but at this time, a male fan suddenly approached her, causing Shirley to fall into endless panic.
In this way, Shirley, who occasionally confides her true heart in live broadcasts or SNS photos, has exchanged more bad comments and ridicule, "mental abnormality" has become a new reason for everyone to insult her, and the stigma of mental disorders coupled with the slut-shaming rooted in misogynistic culture has made her fall into a deeper abyss in the process of self-help.
In this way, in the Korean entertainment industry, Shirley can only be like herself, who left home alone at the age of 11 to start her acting career, keeping an endless silence and enduring loneliness: "However, even if I say that I am really tired, no one listens." ”
Shirley's bad comments on social media
After Shirley left, her friend Tiffany Young said in an interview that she felt sorry: "Why didn't I get one step closer to her once?" "I want to say thank you for her brave, cheerful, and handsome time."
In 2019, Shirley launched an unprecedented variety of activities: she filmed her first reality show "Truth Store", released her first solo album, and starred in the variety show "Night of Bad Reviews". Maybe that's the last effort she made on her way to becoming an adult—
On October 14, 2019, Shirley, who was still busy participating in the show, suddenly broke off contact with her agent. Eventually, she lost contact with this less friendly world...
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="80" > Cui Shirley, who has never been a coward</h1>
Although the world has never treated this girl gently, the strong Shirley has tried to fight a difficult fight with this bad world before leaving.
In 2019, when she participated in the variety show "Night of Bad Reviews", in the face of the host's controversy over her "not wearing underwear", Shirley faced the problem directly: "I think underwear is a piece of jewelry for me, you can choose to wear it or not, for example, I don't wear jewelry now." ”
On another IG live broadcast, in response to the audience's question of "why don't you wear underwear", Shirley replied softly and forcefully, "Is this worrying about me?" Don't worry I can, I'm okay, I hate people with rape sights even more."
But whether it's the SNS comment section or the barrage in the live broadcast room, someone always keeps mentioning: Because you don't wear underwear, you're a slut.
Even so, Cui Shirley's "underwear" was never put on compromise because of insults and insults. Not wearing underwear without underwear was the most powerful women's liberation movement before she left this world: she never took the initiative to say anything, but many women heard it.
Shirley's intransigence is not only reflected in her struggle against bad reviews, but also in her actions to fight for women's rights.
On August 14, 2018, the first memorial day for comfort women victims in South Korea, Shirley posted a post mourning comfort women on social networks, which was widely praised by Korean netizens. But at the same time, she was also insulted by a large number of Japanese netizens, who believed that she should not participate in "political topics" as a public figure.
On April 11, 2019, the crime of abortion was abolished. At that time, Shirley also cheered victory on her social platform: it was a glorious day. But, once again, she was besieged by anti-abortion netizens.
Whether as a woman or as a citizen, Shirley only expressed her support for justice, but only because she was Cui Shirley, she was attacked and insulted.
However, it is precisely because she is Cui Shirley that she has never stopped speaking and acting because she is afraid of evil words.
Using the proceeds from The Truth Shop, she crafted a women's kit that she donated free to low-income women. After Shirley left, Some Korean netizens published the appearance of this kit on social media, which contained sanitary napkins, hot compresses, sanitary underwear, and a sex education manual that was "more useful than the school's sex education class".
Photo / Weibo
After Shirley's death, Kim Ji-wook, producer of "Truth Store", said that the 100,000 sanitary napkins originally planned to be sold in the show will be donated to the whole of South Korea, "Shirley hopes that low-income families and young women can easily get (sanitary napkins), wants to put sanitary napkins in public toilets, she proposed to use transparent bags to pack sanitary napkins, and go out with dignity."
Shirley's sex education manual for everyone mentions things about underwear
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="114" > what the world will look like after she leaves</h1>
After Shirley left, the bad words against her finally disappeared, just like her body.
On the eve of her suicide, the last ins comment area was originally filled with abusive content from netizens, but now it is all about everyone's remembrance of her.
On October 14, 2021, in the last ins comment area of Shirley's life, netizens from all over the world were remembering her
However, those malicious and attacks are only no longer aimed at Cui Shirley, and the butcher's knife of evil words reaches out to more brave people.
In 2019, the Korean novel "Kim Ji-young born in 82" and the film of the same name were published and released one after another, and in the year of Shirley's departure, Irene, the captain of the Korean girl idol group RedVelvet, was insulted by extreme fans just because she recommended the book, and even some people cut and burned her photos; actress Jung Yu-mi also received a lot of boycott criticism after deciding to play the main role of the movie version.
South Korean netizens insulted the actress Jung Yu-mi, who starred in "Kim Ji-young in '82"
In 2021, South Korean Olympic champion Ansan won 3 gold medals for South Korea and made history. But just because of her short hairstyle, she was besieged by male netizens on the Korean internet, "such hair is definitely a feminist, which is why I hate her." The glory of the Olympic gold medal did not block the misogynistic bayonet behind the evil words.
South Korean netizens stressed in a post insulting Ansan: "Ansan is most likely a feminist, which is why I hate her." ”
Bravely she leaves, and a new and righteous person will appear here, even if it is a world of extreme hatred and fear for women.
No longer let innocent people become victims of online evil words, and no longer let frank and brave photos become the handle of bad reviews;
Let everyone boldly become ta themselves, let women continue to accumulate courage, take off the "underwear" that restricts themselves.
After Shirley left, her close friend and South Korean singer IU released a new song "celebrity", which reads:
In my opinion, you are a shining celebrity, please do not forget that you are in the hazy darkness, sketching the star with your left hand.
Although IU has never expressed that it is a song written for Shirley, hearing the lyrics, people seem to have seen the girl who has become famous since childhood, in the dark side of the filth and filth of the entertainment industry, in the hazy darkness, with her left hand sketching a star.
After Shirley left, Liu Yaren issued a eulogy
Who do you think Shirley Cui is?
During her lifetime, few people paid attention to her status as an artist, and she was also a "woman who wanted to live freely without being bound by the idol industry framework", "a person who did not receive the respect she deserved, but who tried to communicate until the end", or "a female artist who plucked up the courage to speak out for feminist topics".
Cui Shirley, 25, said before leaving that when she was a child, she really felt that they looked like adults and thought they were cool. "Now that I'm at this age, I hope I'm the same person for someone."
We all know that she did it, she did it well.
Two years later, after Shirley is gone, we will commemorate Shirley together, and the world may slowly get better.
On social media, friends who love the truth send out photos to commemorate the occasion
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="158" > reference:</h1>
1. MBC documentary "Where Does Shirley Make You Feel Uncomfortable"
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