Love, not the harder you try, the more you can grasp it, more often, the tighter you grasp, the faster it disappears.
When two people are together, they are full of affection and do not want to be separated at all, but after the love disappears, the other party will withdraw and leave, even if you force it, you can't keep him.
Relatively speaking, women are more affectionate than men, after the end of a relationship, it is not so easy to come out, may not be able to help but contact him, want to know if he is doing well, although I know that I have nothing to do with him, but my heart is unable to let go of him.
Maybe you know, the best thing to do is to forget, but it is easier said than done, not to say that forgetting can be forgotten, but also need to go through a certain amount of time, during this time, it is the most difficult, but also can not help but contact the other side of the stage, as long as this time, it is not so difficult.
Sooner or later, you will understand, endure not to contact, and slowly "let go", believing that time can heal everything.
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What can't be let go is your obsession
Sometimes, you think that you can't let go, because your feelings for him are too deep, in fact, more often, it is just your unwillingness, that is, your obsession is at work.
The more you can't let go of him, the more persistently you will contact him, even if he ignores you, you will still look for him, you will want to talk to him, just like before.
But what's the point of doing that? Even if he still chats with you like in the past, he can't change this result, he can only leave regrets.
In fact, you said that you just can't let go of him, after all, the feelings were so beautiful, how can you say that you forgot about it? But you have to understand that what you can't let go of is your obsession, and the more you cling to it, the more painful it is.
It is better to take a step back, first endure not to contact him, force yourself to forget, and after a period of time, you will find that there is nothing you can't put down.
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If you can't bear not to contact, you won't miss it too much
Maybe at the beginning, it was too cruel and unrealistic for you to hold back that longing heart, but as long as you held back, you passed the first hurdle.
After putting up with it for a day or two, you will feel that the back is much easier, and you will no longer think about him often, and then you will find that it is easy to put it down.
Most of the time, the reason why you can't put it down is nothing more than that you are still attached to the beauty of the past, knowing that you should not continue to contact him, or unconsciously contacting him.
But the more contact, it will only make the heart unpeaceful, originally forgotten, and once in contact with him, there are ripples, and let you be entangled in that relationship, unwilling to let go of the past.
Try not to contact first, after a while, you will find that it is not so easy to miss, and even completely forget the appearance of this person, and slowly let go.
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One day, you will face it with a light breeze
Time is a good medicine, even the greatest pain will fade with time, and even the deepest feelings will disappear with time.
Just like you have always been obsessed with love for him, but one day, you will face it lightly, face this person you loved, face this lost love.
At that time, you will smile and say to him, "I haven't seen him for a long time", but your feelings for him are no longer the same as they were, he is just the most familiar stranger to you, and you no longer have feelings for him.
Although it is cruel, I have to say that after that point in time, you will return to the state of a stranger, at that time, you will not be entangled and put down, and your heart has already told you the answer.
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Conclusion
If a relationship ends, the best way is to learn to let go, rather than clinging to it and refusing to move forward.
Not all feelings are worth nostalgia, not all feelings can be saved, when he no longer loves you, or your feelings can not go back to the past, then turn around and leave.
Maybe at first you will find it difficult to stay up, but believe in the power of time, and after that time, you will slowly release your nostalgia, and finally face it with a light breeze.
I believe that at that time, you will be relaxed, no longer bound by feelings, and no longer clinging to feelings that do not belong to you, which is the most correct choice.