Wang Lu: Don't pursue a breakthrough in nature

Reading the report in the morning, Professor Yan Feng of Fudan revealed that his child was autistic, and said in the interview that the autistic children he met were very cute, very pure, and completely utilitarian, "We see so many shameless things such as fly camp dogs, fame and fortune, lying and falsification in this world, which are completely absent in our children." He would never lie, and I'd be happy if he could (laughs) – but he doesn't. ”

I used to play killing games with friends. Among those involved was a devout Buddhist. She once drew the killer, "killed someone", it was dawn, everyone opened their eyes, looked around to judge who was the killer according to the expression, looked at her, she immediately couldn't hold back, people did not open their mouths, she laughed wildly, laughing with nervousness and excitement. Everyone voted for her unanimously, and it was indeed a killer. The next time she drew the killer, she held back for two seconds, still laughing. We all know that she can't be a "killer.". Don't say the real killing, it is the "killing" in the game, she can't hold back. It can be seen that some people have some traits written in their genes, even if they can't lie about all things, it is difficult to lie about some things.

I heard a story that there were two fishermen in Putuo Mountain who fought a lawsuit, and the plaintiff said that the defendant owed 200,000 yuan and did not repay it, but there was no IOU, and the defendant insisted that he did not owe money. After half a day of arguing in court, but without results, the judge looked out the window and happened to see the Guanyin statue on Putuo Mountain, so he said to the defendant, if you don't borrow it, you will gamble on Guanyin. The defendant did not dare, held out for a while, and had to admit to borrowing.

Fishermen fish, and going out to sea is risky. There is a local custom of asking for the blessings of bodhisattvas before going to sea. Before he had respectfully asked the bodhisattva every time, but now he suddenly wanted to deceive the bodhisattva, and he did not dare. If he gambled on this mantra, his previous head would be in vain, and he would not be able to ask the bodhisattva for blessings in the future. Bless it or not, your own behavior must be self-consistent, otherwise, as an ordinary person, it is difficult to place these two contradictory personalities in your heart.

However, "non-ordinary people" are no longer in this list. It's true that someone can be very adept at performing different roles in different situations, even characters that look very different. If it is a cadre who has fallen from the court, this method of swearing at the bodhisattva may not necessarily work.

In fact, most people will also act, just like playing innocent in a killing game, some people act very similarly. This is also a switch to another personality in the game. However, the player knows the boundaries of the game, and knows that the "killing" and "lying" in the game are not really killing and lying, and there will be no moral burden. But in fact, the boundaries between games and life are not absolutely clear. Games are also a continuation of life.

More than a decade ago, before I graduated from graduate school, I played a killing game with my classmates every day for a while. A classmate's girlfriend also played with us after work. Once, the girl was "killed", everyone opened their eyes, identified the killer, some people suspected that it was her boyfriend, the boy was very sophisticated, very smart, playing this game is also more slippery, he said frankly, "I will never kill my wife." He called his girlfriend "wife." We believed it, and sure enough, he wasn't, and then I watched and observed that no matter when he was a killer, he never "killed" his girlfriend.

"Killing Game" is a game, but he gives himself extra limits in the game. No one restrained him, he himself followed this. Once others understand, it is unfavorable to him in the game. Because he has more constraints than others. However, because of this in the game, in life, he is more likely to win the trust of his girlfriend and the trust of the people around him. Because others know he'll follow more rules, or not violate certain principles—even in the context of joking or playing games. Then, the predictability of his behavior is stronger.

The "killing game" is essentially a lying game or a performance game. In a single game, people who are better at lying and good at acting are easy to win. A "single game" means that players are not familiar with each other. But in repetitive games, especially in multiple repetitions, this is not necessarily the case. Someone is particularly good at lying and acting, always winning at the beginning, and then people don't care if he is a killer or not, no matter how earnest he says, first throw him to death. Because everyone is already familiar with his lying and acting, he has brought the impressions of the previous game and life to the new game.

In life, people are naturally more willing to deal with people who are not good at lying and acting. Especially when working together. Because their behavior is easier to predict. Although it is impossible to know exactly what they will do, at least it guarantees that they will not do anything. People, on the other hand, may "do whatever they want", which will bring additional risks and concerns to those around them.

In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Aunt Zhao is quite bad, but she is so bad that others know the little nine-nines in her heart. She will even say Tanchun in front of Tanchun, Li Feng and Yatou, and I still expect you to help the Zhao family more in the future. She didn't even understand the basic avoidance. So although she is bad, what she does is only annoying, not frightening. And Wang Xifeng's revenge on Jia Lian and You Erjie was terrifying—she dared to use any means. The same is true for Qingwen and Fangguan, but it is not written in detail in the book.

When I was in elementary school, everyone played a game of "police catching thieves", a group of people running, one person arresting. There was a classmate who was very big, very smart, and very unusual, and every time he was about to be caught, he would run to his accomplice, coldly grab the accomplice and say to the arrester: I have arrested one for you, you don't catch me. More than twenty years later, I met him on the street and did a job that was not very decent. Because I hadn't seen each other for too long, I pretended not to recognize them and walked over, and if I said hello, I was afraid of embarrassing each other. In fact, when he was a child, his study was good, and the teacher was also very optimistic, but then he did not mix well. I think of the games I played when I was a child, and the strategies he used in the games must not only be used in the game, but definitely extended to life.

A person may play very well in the game, with some characteristics that others can't think of or can't do, so as to give themselves an advantage in the game, but this is not necessarily a good thing. Because there are bigger games beyond the small games, what a person once smugly can also become his fatal flaw. People like Wang Xifeng, in instigating Zhang Hua to file a complaint, the final failure is inevitable, because in the back, even Jia Rong and Lai Wang will not listen to her anymore. In reality, some people even want to become people like Wang Xifeng, want to break through the innate constraints, and do acts that ordinary people can't do, and can't say that they are not stupid.