Once love is associated with money, it seems to become impatient. But, to be honest, sometimes, money can really test the authenticity of feelings.
01
First, let's talk about a real thing that happened to me:
Xiao Lan and Ah Fang have known each other for more than 10 years, and Ah Fang has always liked Xiao Lan and hinted to Xiao Lan many times, but Xiao Lan has not felt that way about Ah Fang, and only treats him as an ordinary friend with a good relationship.
Ah Fang's career is very successful, but he has never been dead to Xiaolan, he knows that Xiaolan is a woman with a heavy sense of enterprise, he often helps her to pull resources in the name of taking her in and out of his circle of friends, and indeed more or less gave Xiaolan's career help. Ah Fang often told his relatives and friends around him that Xiaolan was the woman he had chased for more than 10 years. Between the words, full of ambiguity, which makes Xiaolan laugh a little, but also quite enjoy the feeling of being liked.
Although Ah Fang has had several girlfriends, Xiao Lan has always been the woman that Ah Fang says is the most loved woman, and he said that he will always support Xiao Lan to do what she likes. Xiao Lan is a person who has more real feelings, has not liked Ah Fang very much, and does not comment on his words.
Ah Fang is a person who talks too much and does less, which may also be the main reason why Xiaolan does not like him. For a while, Ah Fang often looked for Xiao Lan and said some ambiguous words, xiao Lan was very bored, and it was not easy to say anything directly. I gave a trick at that time, let Xiaolan borrow money from Ah Fang, if he borrowed, it was worth interacting; if he didn't borrow, he would naturally shut up.
Xiaolan has always been a person who is strong and capable, and there is no shortage of money, she does not know how to open her mouth to Ah Fang, so she sent him WeChat saying that she encountered difficulties and needed 200,000 emergencies, so that he could borrow himself to turn around. Because it was purely to try to be generous, Xiaolan asked him not to ask the reason, if it was difficult, just let him follow his heart when she did not say it. Xiao Lan knew that 200,000 was actually a dime a dozen for Ah Fang.
After this WeChat was sent out, the stone sank into the sea, and the Afghan side contacted Xiaolan again, it was already two months later, he did not have any destination to chat for a while, but never mentioned Xiaolan's borrowing money. Of course, Xiaolan himself did not mention it. Borrowing money once made her see the false meaning behind Ah Fang's affection.
02
When the movie "The Richest Man in Xihong City" was first released, I heard my friends say that it was not bad, but I never had the opportunity to watch it. Some time ago, I inadvertently brushed it, so I looked at it with interest, and if it was really "poverty limits imagination", it turned out that the rich man's money was spent happily, but he also earned it quickly, and Wang Duoyu's trouble was that he could not spend endless money. When he was about to complete the challenge of "spending 1 billion a month" and achieve the goal of "inheriting 30 billion", his girlfriend was kidnapped, which is a real test of human nature.
Wang Duoyu takes money to ransom people, which breaks the challenge rules, will lose the inheritance right of 30 billion yuan, and become a poor egg again; if he does not take money to ransom people, his girlfriend will be torn up, but he can have 30 billion that he can't spend in his lifetime. I believe that this is a painful dilemma for anyone.
Money and affection are the most human beings. Some people may say that there is no money to earn, and it is difficult to get back without feelings. Of course, this is true, but how many people can resolutely choose their feelings under the great temptation of great profit, after all, to overcome the greed in human nature, it is easier said than done.
Wang Duoyu finally chose to take money to ransom people, passed the final test, continued to live three billion, and married and had children with his girlfriend. At the end of the film, the various entanglements after the husband and wife decide to donate all their property, and the human nature is once again truly presented to the audience.
Therefore, money is not omnipotent, but it can really test the authenticity of feelings. Ah Fang did not pass Xiaolan's money test, and eventually lost what he thought was "true love". Or maybe Ah Fang has never loved Xiaolan, or maybe he feels that his feelings for Xiaolan are not worth 200,000 at all.
03
For women, judging whether a man is "true" or "fake" to you is worth your true love, in fact, you only need to borrow money from him once to know.
There is a kind of man, when you borrow money from him, he always finds all kinds of excuses to refuse, or no comment, hide from you, then, he is not true love for you. Only when a man truly loves you and your difficulties are his difficulties, he will face them with you and help you as much as he can. Don't say that lending money to you, just for you to borrow money from others, he is willing.
There is also a kind of man who, when you pluck up the courage to borrow money from him, may take care of each other's face, be embarrassed to refuse, and will give you some as if he were a stranger. For example, if you borrow ten thousand from him and he only gives you a hundred, then it is clear that he is not true love for you either. Because, a man who truly loves you will not easily discount you. He will give you as much as you borrow. Even, he will double the loan to you.
Another kind of man, after lending you money, worries about you in various ways, afraid that you will not repay the money on time, always struggles with when you will repay the money and urges you to pay it back. This kind of man doesn't necessarily love you much, he can lend you money, or just hinder the face, or want to maintain a relationship with you. If he really thinks about you, he will definitely find ways to comfort you, rather than blindly rushing to pay back.
As the saying goes, people's hearts are unpredictable. Money, on the other hand, is a very effective tool for measuring people's hearts. It can inspire the dark side of human nature and expose the weaknesses of human nature.
Because of love, each other is willing to selflessly dedicate, if a man who truly loves you or cares about you, will be happy with your happiness, pain with your pain, don't say borrow money to help you get out of trouble, even if he let him go to the soup, he will be willing, no complaints. So, a man who doesn't hesitate to help you when you open your mouth to borrow money must genuinely love you.
Of course, this is not to say that you use men as cash machines, no matter how much you love each other, when it comes to money, you better communicate clearly in advance. As the saying goes, brothers, settle accounts. When you are in a relationship with a man, you must pay attention to grasping a certain measure, easily do not open your mouth to borrow money from men, even if you borrow, you must repay it on time. Because borrowing money is a double-edged sword, it is not handled well, and it is a kind of hurt to each other's feelings.
epilogue:
In short, judging whether a man is "true" or "false" to you is worth your feelings for him, you only need to borrow money from him once to know. If he is particularly cheerful to lend you money unconditionally, and generously, after borrowing money, he will not repeatedly urge you to pay back, then it means that he is truly in love with you, such a man, is worth your interaction. Otherwise, you really have to think about it.