I have five out of ten, and I am determined to learn.
Thirty and standing. Forty without confusion.
Fifty and know the Destiny. Sixty and obedient.
Seventy and do as the heart desires, and do not exceed the rules.
This is Confucius's summary of his life, and it is also a model for thousands of years Chinese to pursue a complete life, especially after thirty years.
So, how do you spend your thirty, forty, fifty, sixty, and seventy years of life?
Thirty and standing
Thirty years old is a watershed for people.
People at this age have basically established their own development direction in life, and they should also be able to rely on their own skills to independently assume their due responsibilities.
This standing means being able to stand up, establish a family, and establish a career.
Standing up is to establish one's own character and cultivation, including the cultivation of thought, moral cultivation, and ability cultivation, and to be able to achieve self-improvement.
Among them, self-improvement is the foundation of self-reliance, and it is the minimum requirement for everyone to base themselves on society.
To establish a career is to establish the cause that they are engaged in, and thirty people should have a relatively fixed occupation.
To engage in every undertaking, you must have a certain ability, according to modern parlance, you must have a skill.
Establishing a career is a means of survival, the foundation of economic independence, and also a necessary process for realizing the value of life.
To establish a family, to establish a family is to have its own family. Although the fierce competition in today's society has delayed the time for young people to start a family, this age is just right from the perspective of human reproduction.
And when people reach thirty, they have understood love and responsibility.
The meaning of family is warmth. Only when we establish a home can the soul have a harbor to inhabit.
As for the order of establishing a career and establishing a family, everyone has different circumstances, and there is no need to deliberately divide the order, and the two should complement each other.
Forty without confusion
Forty years old is an age that does not change.
It is an age that can see everything in the world, an age of maturity.
This is not confusion, it is soberness, it is understanding, to oneself, to others, to the world.
Externally, I understand society.
People live in society and cannot do without society; the relationship between people and society is the relationship between individuals and groups.
The individual is a member of the group, the ideals and aspirations of the individual must be based on the real society, and there should be a calm force in the heart to deal with the outside world.
Inwardly, understand yourself.
It is the gradual strengthening of the heart in the process of experience, turning the external things into inner energy.
Forty-year-olds, the most practical age group, should not make too many mistakes and take a roundabout path.
For myself, I understand the responsibility.
The biggest feature of forty-year-olds is that they understand their responsibilities.
He must assume social responsibility, family responsibility and filial piety to parents and the responsibility of raising children.
Forty-year-old people are the glorious period of life, but also the period of greatest contribution to society and family.
Fifty and know the Destiny
The Mandate of Heaven, which we Chinese habitually call destiny, know the Mandate of Heaven fifty.
Fifty-year-old people have reached the stage of maturity in life; at this time, many things seem to have become a foregone conclusion.
At this time, because we understand the society and know ourselves more, we should learn to face it calmly, so that we do not complain about the sky, do not distinguish others, and do not slacken off.
Know life.
Fifty-year-olds, whose bodies are no longer as great as before, are more aware of the fragility of life and the importance of health.
The body is the capital of the revolution, and there is no time to understand it more deeply than now, they pay more attention to health care than before, and begin to exercise actively.
Know yourself.
Fifty-year-olds can already have an accurate assessment of themselves.
He rarely tossed something, after so many years of hard work, he also had certain economic conditions, and his desire for money was often not as strong as when he was young.
Informed.
Fifty-year-old people, who have experienced the baptism of time, cherish the lovers who are on the same road in the wind and rain, the children who have grown up, the old friends who have been with them for a long time...
Family, friendship, love, these slowly became the top priority of his heart. Their desire for fame and fortune has gradually dissipated.
Sixty ears smooth
At the age of sixty, no matter what people say about good things or bad things, no matter what ups and downs they encounter, they can be unbiased.
Think calmly about everything, conform to the laws of things; do not be insulted, understand life thoroughly, see through life, and be indifferent to fame and fortune.
Sixty-year-old people, see through life.
From retirement, I have shifted from a social role to a family role and enjoyed the joy of the world.
Sixty-year-old people, knowing this, are happy to accept this reality and clearly know the life that people of this age should live.
Sixty-year-old people, see through life.
Sixty-year-olds should live a healthy and happy life, which is also a contribution to society.
The meaning of life is that your contribution to society and others is greater than your request, and if you do it, you will have no regrets.
Sixty-year-old man, see through fame and fortune.
Sixty-year-old people, after years of polishing, left their own rich experience.
In a relaxed life, the taste of sweet and sour memories brings a unique feeling, it is the late autumn of life!
When you retire, there is only one title left: retiree. At this time, only the body is its own, so it is necessary to do a good job of exercising and maintaining itself, so that it is healthy and happy, which is the most important.
Seventy from the heart
Seventy from the heart, is to obey their own ideas, to do whatever they want.
Go with the flow; go with the flow; don't overdo it.
Do as you please, go with the flow, and be at peace with what you encounter.
You can eat well; the house is not in size, it is enough to live; you can do what you are interested in yourself; to the outside world, there is no complaint.
Don't be afraid of other people's opinions; don't panic about the aging of the body, don't fear death, go with the flow, and go with the flow.
Every stage of life has the understanding of each stage, and we do not necessarily follow the yardstick and plan forward.
But at each stage, we should still have expectations for ourselves, the worst, every ten years, we should also have a reflection on ourselves.
What cannot be forgotten is the memory, and what continues is life. Live every day of the present, and our lives will not be too bad.
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