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In a popular variety show "Spring Day Delays and Departures", guest Lin Chengwei confided in his heart, saying that he had always been inferior.
He had been in love with his ex-wife for seventeen years and was each other's first love.
But after entering the marriage and having children, the two fell into a dilemma:
Because I knew too early, I didn't know what kind of person I was in this relationship and what kind of person I liked.
It wasn't until the ex-wife met another person that she finally knew:
What was lacking in that marriage was the feeling of being in love.
In order to fulfill his ex-wife, Lin Chengwei chose to quit. He left the house and car to his ex-wife and children, and dragged his suitcase to Shanghai alone to start over.
Such an experience has always become a wound in his heart, and it has also made him sensitive and inferior.
After listening to this experience, Fu Seoul said a meaningful sentence:
If you want to truly overcome inferiority, you must learn to appreciate yourself.
If you have been clinging to your own flaws, you have stepped into the vortex of inferiority.
Only if you are willing to come out, can you truly heal your inferiority.
All inferiority is due to looking down on oneself too low
Philosopher Spinoza said:
To look down on oneself too low because of pain is to have low self-esteem.
See what a stay-at-home mom shared online:
When I was in elementary school, there was a girl in the class who always liked to rob her of her money.
One day she finally couldn't bear it anymore and plucked up the courage to go into the teacher's office and explain everything to the teacher.
The teacher said expressionlessly:
People study so well, people will bully you, why does she only bully you and don't bully others?
The teacher's words made her both puzzled and sad, and she couldn't help but wonder if she had done something wrong.
Later, she grew up and met many people.
When in love, the boyfriend said that his mother thought she was too short, and she thought: If only she were taller;
When working, the little girl who has just graduated can talk with the leader, and she thinks: If only her mouth were sweeter;
After getting married, her mother-in-law felt that she was not worthy of going to school to bully her husband, and she would think: If only she were better.
It wasn't until after a lot of things that she suddenly realized:
When you look down on yourself, the whole world looks down on you.
All inferiority stems from thinking too lowly of yourself.
Always indulging in this, spending his whole life paying for his inferiority.
A person who wants to get rid of inferiority depends not on the approval of others, but on the strength that comes from the heart and believes in his own strength.
The only one who can really defeat inferiority is yourself
There is a popular saying on the Internet:
Only magic can defeat magic.
In the Korean drama "Goddess Descending", the heroine has always been compared with her sister and brother by relatives because of her ugly appearance.
She was very sad in her heart, always wondering why she was different, obviously her sister and brother were both school flowers and school grass-level looks.
In high school, her favorite senior teased her because she was not good-looking, and her classmates even bullied her.
The idea of inferiority also took root in her heart.
Later, the heroine transferred to a new school and began to hide her appearance shortcomings through makeup.
She became a hot goddess at her new school and made many good friends.
However, when her plain face was revealed, everyone turned to blame her and stay away from her.
She hid home, locked herself in the house without eating or drinking, and in a moment of despair, she remembered what a schoolgirl said:
If I hate my appearance because of their few words, it is equivalent to agreeing that I am ugly, so I ignore their words and live at my own pace.
Under the care of her parents and the encouragement of her sister, the heroine finally came out of her sadness and bravely faced others with her true face.
When she chose to accept herself bravely, she also gained the friendship and the most precious confidence she wanted.
Alfred Adler wrote in Inferiority and Transcendence:
We live in connection with others, and if we isolate ourselves because of our inferiority, we will kill ourselves. We must transcend inferiority.
Never underestimate the power within ourselves.
Inferiority is like a quagmire, only if you are willing to take a step, you can get out of the abyss.
To cure inferiority, first learn to appreciate yourself
In life, we will meet all kinds of people, some people like you, some people hate you.
When people are hated, many people tend to deny themselves and doubt themselves.
But as we grow, we gradually understand that self-affirmation and self-appreciation are the best attitudes in life.
Star Cathy Dolly was often ridiculed as a child because of her tooth decay.
When singing on stage, she tried her best to cover her teeth with her lips, hoping that the audience would not see her teeth and listen to her sing intently.
However, the audience only found it funny when they saw her appearance, and they laughed loudly.
Instead of being discouraged, Cathy said aloud:
What happened to my caries? Maybe my teeth can bring good luck!
It is this self-confidence that makes her know self-appreciation and self-affirmation in the later life path, because of self-confidence, she has become more and more beautiful.
If you want to learn to appreciate yourself and cure your inferiority, there are actually many ways.
For example, encourage yourself more and strengthen yourself.
People's thinking and behavior have been influencing each other, and the same thing, thinking and acting on the positive side, can make the inner strength more and more powerful.
For example, discover and develop your own interests.
Trying what we like makes it easier for us to discover our strengths and strengths, and it is easier for us to find direction, improve our abilities happily, and when we show our strengths and talents to the outside world, our self-confidence will also increase.
For example, learn to evaluate yourself correctly
No one is perfect, and they should re-make an objective, accurate and clear understanding of themselves.
Both the pros and cons are an important part of what makes up a person, without showing off or hiding.
Learn to appreciate yourself, respect your own heart, and live out your own true colors in order to heal your inferiority.
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As Romain Rowland said:
Believe in yourself before others believe in you.
Life is probably wandering back and forth between self-confidence and inferiority, and finally discovering what kind of person you really are.
This process can only be explored by oneself and slowly understood.
To solve the problem of inferiority, you can only rely on yourself, to discover, to heal, to get rid of the shackles, and confidently take the steps forward.
When you run fast enough, you will be surprised to find that the things that make you inferior, the comments that make you inferior, are all left far behind, and there is only bright sunshine and infinite possibilities for the future.