Some people say that lending money to others has a premise, that the amount of money you lend does not affect your normal life, and at the same time, you can psychologically accept the loss of this amount of money.
Many times, the interaction between people is masked, and it is difficult for us to really understand a person's heart. But according to some things in life, you can judge a rough idea.
Recently, a reader Xiao G consulted with me, and he had a new friend who borrowed 300 yuan from him, saying that he should be in a hurry and that he could return it to him on WeChat that night.
That night, Xiao G took a special look at WeChat, no repayment, and no message. He thought of chasing people, after all, it was very embarrassing, and the number was not much and unnecessary, and when the other party remembered, it would naturally return.
As a result, the matter was delayed, and after nearly a month, Little G and the friend who had borrowed money from him met again at a party.
Little G is not good at words, nor can he talk in circles, but he still deliberately found a time when no one could hear them talking, and asked the other party if he had forgotten about the 300 yuan.
The other party said with a laugh, remember, remember, tonight will return you. Xiao G is also dead-eyed, the next night he looked at WeChat, still did not pay back, just mentioned a mouth on WeChat. This time the other party returned the money, but did not reply a word.
Shortly after that, a friend in the circle inadvertently mentioned it to Little G and asked him how he got into so-and-so. And that so-and-so is the person who borrowed 300 yuan from Xiao G.
It turned out that the person in their circle of friends made rumors that Little G was miserly, and he borrowed 300 yuan from him in an emergency, not only chasing his ass to urge him, but also wanting interest.
A few friends in a circle believed, and some were skeptical. But in short, Xiao G himself is honest and honest, and in this circle, it cannot be said that he is very open, so everyone privately spread the word, and the three people became tigers, and it almost became true.
Xiao G still has some regrets, he can't commit the crime of 300 yuan to the truth, and he has to defend himself.
However, it is a matter of course to repay debts, which is a truth since ancient times, why do creditors who lend money to others now have to grievance themselves, while those who ask for money can show off their might and reverse black and white?
In times of embarrassment, when there is an emergency, we should have a grateful heart to be able to have someone to help, but the attitude of too many people when they repay money is really chilling.
There is a cloud in the "Vegetable Root Tan": "If you take advantage of personnel, you will suffer the loss of the heavenly way; if you covet the nourishment of the taste of the world, you will lose the land." ”
Money is character, greedy and cheap will eat big losses, the exchange of interests makes us more able to see the warmth and coldness of human feelings, remember not to feed the true heart to the dog.
Borrowing money is skillful and precautionary. Before deciding whether to lend money to the other person, it is necessary to understand a person's character. Usually, those who borrow money and do not repay it are mostly the following kinds of people.
Greedy, cheap, cunning people
People who have no backbone in front of money cannot achieve great things, and they are all in their own careful thinking all their lives.
They are cunning and cunning, with the mentality that if they do not take advantage, they will suffer losses. And this kind of person is usually not blessed, because everything has to be given away, you will never give up, and if you want to take advantage of others, you will bring greater harm.
The blessings and misfortunes of life have no way out, and they are completely recruited by themselves. Although people who love to take advantage of small things are a small evil, there will always be retribution for accumulating small things and becoming big.
If the person you come into contact with usually loves to take advantage of small things and is accustomed to being preoccupied with small things, then you must think twice when he borrows money from you.
So ambitious, selfish
People who are so ambitious and far-sighted dare to make promises when things do not have a solid foundation, or even when there is no skimming of the eight characters, they dare to say it out of the blue.
They think of the white wolf with empty gloves, they think of their dreams of getting rich overnight, and usually what they get is empty-handed. Lending money to such a person is difficult not to get into trouble when it comes to repaying the money.
Because they themselves do not have an accurate judgment of their own affairs, and in the end they are still in debt, where can they return the money to you?
And this kind of person's borrowing money does not repay, one is that they have no plan for their own lives, so ambitious; the other is that they do not take your existing good relationship to heart, and they are not afraid of turning their faces when they do not pay back the money. This kind of person, full of eyes is only themselves.
Deliberately deceitful, untrustworthy
There is another kind of person, even more terrible, who borrows money from you and has no intention of paying it back.
Maybe it's to see you honestly, maybe it's to see your good face, in short, your money into his hands, that is, the meat bun beat the dog is gone.
This type of person has a very thick skin and is also a habitual offender who does not pay his debts. Sometimes it's hard to imagine that the person who looks honest and responsible has borrowed everyone around him.
Moreover, most of these people are referring to acquaintances to cheat, they do not care about their own face at all, nor do they look at whether they have the ability to repay money. In the face of such low character, it is difficult for your money to come back if you lend it out.
Just as the so-called "heart of harming people must not be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without", we can help people who know how to be grateful. But also remember that it is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish.
For the kind of greedy and low-character villains, we must have more eyes.
Lending money to such people, you are looking for troubles, spending money to buy guilt, and if you don't get it right, you will be criticized, which is really called falling into the whirlpool of life troubles.
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