Paying a good heart does not necessarily make a good thing, especially in intimate relationships, this kind of trouble actually happens a lot, such as a boy wants to be good to a girl, after observing people, he found that people like pink clothes, and then bought a pink long dress.
As a result, girls don't like it, because the style is not right, although the girl can receive the boy's kindness, but can not fully affirm the boy.
Intimate relationships emphasize a logic of "pay what the person needs, and the person will fully feel your heart." ”
If you give what you think a person needs, and it is not what he needs, that person cannot be sure of you.
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There are two personalities in intimate relationships that are particularly difficult to accept and adapt, one is willful and casual, and the other is stubborn and stubborn, but regardless of which personality, the basic point of their personality is actually the same, called "self-awareness is too strong".
Because the self-awareness is too strong, so do not care about the needs of others, even if they are scrupulous, in their own thinking, still put themselves in the most important position, the resulting series of contradictions, conflicts, do not understand or not understand and other issues will appear.
So if these problems, wayward and stubborn people can not realize the essence of the problem at the first time, but when some mistakes or their own uncomfortable sadness, they will think carefully, why they are uncomfortable?
Then they will think of making amends and solving problems as much as possible, so this phenomenon is often reflected in human nature and stubborn people.
Therefore, if you meet a person with a very personality, willfulness or stubbornness in real life, it means:
You have to work harder on your endurance and understanding, otherwise it will not be easy to get along with.
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Aquarius emotional problems are particularly typical, Aquarius personality has the above core point, only need what they need, not what they need is not acceptable in the heart, even if you pay more, you pay well, this will still make them uncomfortable, will make them embarrassed.
This is the most difficult emotion for Aquarius people to accept, embarrassment, embarrassment when the Aquarius will first think of avoiding, or find a non-embarrassing environment and topic, they will not think about the nature of the matter or problem.
Because in the first place, their emotions will turn their thoughts away.
Friends who have been in contact with and have been with Aquarius should be the most familiar with this kind of thing, and they really don't think too much about it until an Aquarius has not made their ideas or purpose clear.
But if Aquarius wants to establish a relationship with a person, it will think more, which is from the perspective of Aquarius itself.
Then from the perspective of another person, this person has an idea about the water bottle, and the water bottle has no idea about him, then the water bottle will instinctively reject, and if it is not attracted to the water bottle, it is called rejection.
In the same way, if the water bottle has ideas about a person, but he does not know whether the person has any ideas about himself, then the water bottle is energetic, very motivated, and will think a lot of things that have not yet happened but are likely to happen.
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The emotional expression and output of the water bottle are actually the same pattern, when the water bottle needs a person, his appeal is strong and cannot be rejected, and his self-consciousness determines this point.
The water bottle that does not respond to or is satisfied will be particularly irritable, especially the inner mania, when the water bottle is irritable, it is the time when the water bottle is uncomfortable, when it is wronged, and often when this kind of repression is the most uncomfortable time of the water bottle.
Then in this situation, the water bottle will have to think about why it is uncomfortable, how to solve this discomfort, and then it will make some rational decisions of a "treatment" nature.
But we have to talk about the heart, if the person who is with the water bottle has an emotional need or other need for the water bottle, will the water bottle definitely respond or meet?
Of course not, the water bottle to see their own mood, good mood may respond, bad mood, you quickly play to go, don't bother me.
This situation is obviously unbalanced for the relationship, and it is not conducive to the normal development of the relationship, but it allows contradictions and problems to breed conditions.
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In fact, many people who get along with Aquarius, the most likely problem in the process of getting along is the above type of problem, and they will also have a fairly clear perception and feeling about it.
When you treat the water bottle well, the state that the water bottle gives you is a feeling that does not matter, and when you are not good at the water bottle, the water bottle suddenly feels combed, he will think about why, and then solve the problem of why for this reason.
Not only do you think, could the water bottle be undercool?
Attention, this is a matter of detail, when the water bottle does not need you, you are casually cold, they do not care at all, nor are they afraid, and it is a big deal to pretend that nothing has happened and continue to be there.
But when the water bottle needs you, when the water bottle himself feels that you have a lot of question marks in his mind, when he is interested in you, when he can't feel you, you are cold but the water bottle will be hotter.
You will find that the water bottle will give you the opportunity to contact him in a short period of time and a short period of time, and the opportunity to get along with him.
Aquarius is this personality, so it is not advisable to blindly be good to Aquarius.
When the water bottle needs it, pay what he needs, which will make the water bottle think that you are good to him, and you kind of understand his feelings.
In addition, friends who get along with Aquarius should not have any resentment because of the personality of the water bottle, let alone say anything negative, understand the ways and methods of adapting to the best policy, and have a natural reason to follow.
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