This year's Spring Festival met with his old classmate Ajie, but he did not expect that three years had passed, and he still did not come out of the previous relationship.
Speaking of which, his last relationship, I am still a witness, in fact, I have always reminded him that the other party only regards him as a short choice.
But at that time, he couldn't listen to anyone's advice at all, and rushed into it, in his words, it was pain and happiness.
Seriously, in my opinion, that girl doesn't even count as an ex.
For two months, Ajay had been paying, and the girl had never paid anything for him.
The first to take the initiative is the girl, the first Sunday of contact with Ajay chat, from time to time also say some earthy love words to stir him.
So just a sentence of "I think you are quite honest, or let's try it" stirred Ajiechun's heart, immediately raised his hand to surrender, and from then on, he greeted her every day.
At that time, they were all in the same company, and every day Ajay invited her to lunch and dinner.
Sometimes he stewed soup by himself, took her to the company to drink from thousands of miles, and not only that, but also bought her some gifts from time to time to make her happy.
The girl was content to enjoy everything Ajay had given, except for the verbal "thank you" and "love you", but did not return a real gift.
Once at twelve o'clock in the morning, the girl went home because she didn't have the key, and asked Ajay to go all the way to open a hotel room for her to rest.
Another time, the girl said that she wanted to buy clothes for her mother, and asked Ajie to accompany her to help choose it, but when she paid the bill, she said that she wanted to see Ajay's heart for her.
As a result, with fifteen thousand clothes and two thousand skin care products, Ajay spent almost a month's salary on his own in one day.
At that time, Ajay had just come out to work for more than a year, and there was so much money to fill her desires.
By the time Ajie began to brush the flowers, the girl was ready to retreat and gradually became cold to him.
Finally, I left him with a sentence of "You are a very good person, but you have tried, it is not appropriate, or be a friend." ”
Ajay, who had broken up, also resigned, paying attention to the dynamics of the girls from time to time, and later learned from other colleagues.
The girl was already with another new guy from the company, but of course the routine hadn't changed, coaxing another guy to saddle her up like Ajay.
A girl like this, her purpose is actually very obvious, just for money.
When you've spent almost all of your money, she'll retreat so you don't get tangled up.
In this day and age, not only boys, but also girls have to play with you to meet their own needs.
So, if a guy wants to find a long-term relationship, don't rush to identify a relationship.
Otherwise, the love you think is just a bureau carefully designed by others.
When you have no use for her, you will be kicked away by her.
So, what are the characteristics of girls who just want to develop a short-term relationship with you?
01
Very good at flirting, just to quickly squeeze your value
There is such a girl, more than the boys will be flirtatious, love words are also a set of sets.
You think that you have finally met the legendary romantic encounter, but in fact, she is good at capturing your psychology.
I know what kind of words you like to hear, and I will specifically flirt with you.
It doesn't take long for you to know each other, and in just a few days, she can confess to you bluntly.
If you pretend to be reserved, she won't push you and will say sympathetically that she will continue to like you.
But if you don't react for two more days, she will start to chill you.
For her, her time is precious, so her enthusiasm and initiative are also time-limited.
In order to achieve her goals quickly, she doesn't have as much time to spend with you, and if you delay in taking the bait, she will look for the next prey.
She has her own plans, so she doesn't need your pursuits at all, and she doesn't care about your situation, she wants you to accept her likes quickly and without any doubt.
Then she can use this half-hanging relationship to get what she wants.
Maybe it's coveting your flesh, or maybe it's trying to get material or help from you.
You think she's your prey, but she's actually the cheetah.
For the sake of personal gain, she not only wastes your time and energy, but even plays with your feelings until she squeezes out the resources that can be obtained from you.
Of course, people who really want to develop a long-term relationship with you also have active enthusiasm.
But he will not say too explicit words at the beginning, and use unclear words to invite Jun into the urn.
I don't think about making you spend a lot of money on her at the beginning, or easily talking to you about some colored topics and breaking the topic sexually.
Therefore, girls with strong purpose have already sent you a signal at the beginning, distinguish clearly, and don't end up emptying people and money.
02
Often play missing
Girls naturally like to share, especially in front of the people they like, they are eager to tell each other what they see and hear every day.
And girls who only want to get benefits from you, are very enthusiastic in front of you, turn around and turn a blind eye to your message.
Just like Ajay's self-righteous feelings, before they were in the company every day, the girls would talk to him enthusiastically every day.
But as soon as the class got off the job, the girl's attitude towards him changed.
Ajay sent her a bunch of messages, and she either replied with an expression or simply didn't, and the next day told him she was too tired and had gone to bed very early last night.
For someone who doesn't really like you, no amount of messages you send is a nuisance to her and will only annoy her.
For her, only the time to meet is meaningful and productive.
Chatting with you without meeting is a waste of time.
Some boys always find it annoying for girls to share their own things all day, but they don't know that it's because she likes your performance.
When she doesn't like you, don't say she's warm to you, you can't find her.
Tell you to go to the shower, may not reply to your messages, even perfunctory time, she is not willing to waste.
She won't share her whereabouts with you, and she won't care what you do, what you eat, or even who you hang out with.
You think she's mature and sensible, but you don't know that she doesn't care about everything about you at all, and you don't want you to pay too much attention to everything about her.
Your existence is valuable only when she wants to find you, and when she doesn't want to find you, you'd better be funny and disappear automatically.
03
Lack of patience and refusal to communicate
A girl who really likes you and wants to enter into a long-term stable relationship with you, she will not be able to help but think for you.
When she encounters problems, she also wants to communicate well and resolve the contradictions between them.
For an adult woman, it's clear to her that she wants to solve problems, not create problems.
So when it's time to make concessions, she will choose to retreat, and she will also choose to tolerate shortcomings.
Even though she might have been a grumpy person, she's willing to take the time to patiently communicate with you as long as she likes you.
And for those girls who only walk passion, she has no patience and care for you.
She just wants to claim value from you, and if you cause her trouble, she won't get used to you.
She also doesn't like any emotional kidnapping, and if you keep talking about feelings, she will only look at you more and more unpleasantly.
Even from time to time to find something to stimulate you, make you think that she is such an unreasonable person, forcing you to take the initiative to leave.
She is not without gentleness, thoughtfulness, patience, but she will not give you, because from the very beginning your position in her place has already determined your status.
04
Enjoy only the present, not plan for the future
Whether they want your money or girls who want to walk with you, they can talk to you a lot of nice things.
But one thing is her bottom line, which is that it won't really involve you in her life.
She won't take the initiative to invite you to do things between couples, such as watching movies, going shopping, and having a planned romantic date.
It won't introduce you to her friends or let you know about her job, her ideals.
Even if you sleep in the same bed, her love words are just beautiful words to meet your own needs.
You think you're stuck in love, but reality hits you in the head.
When you first plan your future with great interest, she only thinks that you are not man at all.
Because she has no intention of going to the heart, she has no interest in planning with you where to settle down and have a few children in the future.
Don't think that only boys are afraid of being bound by girls with marriage, girls who don't love you, and are afraid that you will talk to her about marriage at every turn.
Whenever you talk about this topic, she will also find a way to avoid it.
Of course, the premise of being able to talk about this topic is that you are still valuable to her, otherwise she can play missing with you directly.
After all, all she wants is your brief giving, not feelings that will cause a series of troubles for her.
Of course, there are also boys who feel that everyone is a kidney, and they do not lose money, but things are clustered and people are divided into groups.
People who think they can retreat from the whole body often end up with no good end.
Author | Ada Aquarius, an education practitioner who studies computers, loves to read books and movies, and studies the way of getting along with the sexes by the way, firmly believing that the luck of life is won by himself.