01.
Some time ago, Xiao S's new program "Miss Not XiDi" invited Jia Jingwen's husband Xiu Jiekai as a guest.
Unsurprisingly, the two married and fertile people, in addition to work, also talked about each other's families and children.
In the program, when Xiao S asked Xiu Jiekai whether having three children was what he wanted, Xiu Jiekai did not change the topic, but replied bluntly:
"If I could, I would actually like to ask for it again."
Xiu Jiekai's answer shocked Xiao S, who was already a mother of three children, and in order to determine the other party's thoughts, she asked again:
"Do you still want to regenerate?" Don't you think 3 is already annoying? ”
It can be seen that Xiao S's troubles do not belong to Xiu Jiekai, and he is very sure and very firm to tell Xiao S:
"No, the two of us love kids."
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As soon as this conversation was broadcast, related topics such as "Xiu Jiekai gave birth" and "Another loving couple collapsed" caused a hot discussion on Weibo.
People who are familiar with Jia Jingwen know that Jia Jingwen is not young.
Born in 1974, she is 48 years old, and before that, she had given birth to three children, each of whom was a girl.
As Xiu Jiekai said, Jia Jingwen likes children, there is no doubt about this.
But, if she likes children, will she like to have children?
02.
No woman would like to have children, let alone have children frequently.
This point, Jia Jingwen is no exception.
After four years of marriage, it has been rumored that Jia Jingwen will give birth to four children for Xiu Jiekai.
But it is clear that Jia Jingwen herself does not think so.
In many public occasions and public interviews, Jia Jingwen has repeatedly stated that she will not have any more children:
"I've had three of them, and I've contributed to society."
Of Jia Jingwen's three children, the youngest two have gone to school, and she herself has returned to the entertainment industry and successfully restarted her career:
In 2019, the TV series "The Distance Between Us and Evil" starring Jia Jingwen scored a high score of 9.4 on Douban;
In the same year, Jia Jingwen won the 54th Golden Bell Awards for her superb acting skills in the play;
Two years later, Jia Jingwen won the queen laurels again for playing the role of her mother Luo Pinwen in the movie "Waterfall".
Compared with many actresses of the same age and situation who have reached a certain age or have no drama to shoot after childbirth, Jia Jingwen's comeback road can be said to be very beautiful.
Therefore, the "second spring of career" is as splendid as her, is it really necessary to experience the pain and risk of having children at an advanced age again in order to have children, and to give up the aura again and let everything start over?
I believe that everyone who really likes and appreciates Jia Jingwen will feel unnecessary, except for Xiu Jiekai.
It's not that Xiu Jiekai doesn't love Jia Jingwen, it's just that as the poet Yu Xiuhua said:
"Most things without purpose are beautiful things because they are pure, purely the root of happiness."
Xiu Jiekai's love is not pure enough.
He also has his selfish intentions.
03.
No one is perfect, and they all have selfish intentions.
Love born of man is even more so.
Selfishness does not mean no love, but it needs to be controlled within a certain range.
Unfortunately, there are not a few people who like to go beyond the scope and let the love "deteriorate", and Xiu Jiekai is not typical.
Remember Chen Haomin?
The childhood memories of the 80s and 90s have played countless classic roles, and they are well-deserved "costumed male gods".
What many people did not expect is that the "male god" only exists on the screen, it is acted out, and the real him outside the screen is actually extremely "down".
The reason is naturally inseparable from having children.
In 2011, 42-year-old Chen Haomin married Jiang Lisha Fengzi, who was 16 years younger.
At the end of the same year, Jiang Lisha successfully gave birth to her first child, and it was from this time that Jiang Lisha began a "short" childbirth career that she considered happy and relaxed: five years of marriage, four births, each of which was a caesarean section.
Jiang Lisha's experience has made many netizens feel distressed, and denounced Chen Haomin for treating Jiang Lisha as a "child-giving machine".
However, the two parties did not think so.
In Jiang Lisha's view, a family has many children, the atmosphere will be very good, so she is willing to give up her work, devote herself to the family, have children, love children, cook for children and so on.
As for the physical health problems that netizens are concerned about, Jiang Lisha said that she has a good doctor:
"My doctor is really a holy hand, his skills are very good, if I tell you that my caesarean section actually does not hurt, you will not believe it." 」
Jiang Lisha did not feel sorry for herself, what about Chen Haomin?
In Chen Haomin's view, it is precisely because he feels sorry for Jiang Lisha and loves Jiang Lisha that he will let her have more children.
In an interview, Chen Haomin bluntly said that his wife Jiang Lisha was once an athlete and had a good physique, he did not want a son, even if the fourth child gave birth to a boy, he would let her give birth again.
Talking about the reasons, Chen Haomin's explanation is quite romantic:
"I'm 16 years older than my wife, and I'll be gone before her in the future, and if she's the only one left, what can I leave for her?" In addition to memories, I think it is better to have a few more babies, when I am not there, I can have some children to accompany her, so that she is not so lonely. ”
One, two children, no way to accompany.
We must risk our lives within five years to quickly produce four children by caesarean section in order to be able to afford to accompany the two words.
Outsiders don't say.
Is Chen Haomin himself convinced of such an explanation?
04.
There are always people who like to make love ironic.
I've seen a video like this.
In March, in Lianyungang, Jiangsu Province, a man holding flowers was outside the operating room, anxiously waiting for his wife, who was having a caesarean section at the time.
At the moment when he saw his wife successfully give birth and was pushed out of the operating room, the man was heartbroken and shed tears madly, at the same time, he did not forget to kiss his wife affectionately.
If you don't know the antecedents, just watching this video, I believe that many people will be touched by the man's so-called true feelings.
The truth, however, was that before that, the man's wife had already given birth to two sons and a daughter, each of whom had been delivered by caesarean section.
Fortunately, no one buys the man's behavior, and the comment area is sarcastic:
"While hiding your face and crying, let you cut three children, good man."
"I don't envy such a husband, and I really feel sorry that I won't let you have three children."
"Men act until you cry."
"It hurts her, why are you still alive so much, it's funny."
"This, three caesarean sections scratch the stomach three times, and then come out and shed two tears is to love the wife, the husband is really good." 」
“......”
05.
Remembering a few years ago, there was a popular saying on the Internet: XXX, I like you, I want to have a baby for you.
To love someone is to want to have love with the other person.
In my opinion, there is nothing inherently wrong with having a baby.
Whether a man loves you or not is not reflected from whether he is born or not, but from why he is born, how to give birth, how many are born, how long he is born, whether he can have children, etc., which contains a lot of details and knowledge.
If you feel that you have not yet understood this "discipline", then you only need to know that time, love, and health are the three most precious things in a person.
People who truly love you will understand:
This is for baby.
Not for squandering.
People who understand, give Kaige a "watching" bar~
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