Although I have been stressing that as long as Jimei are beautiful enough or excellent enough, even if the circle is large enough, there will be no shortage of the opposite sex who is excited about themselves, but there is still Jimei private message how can I let the boy take the initiative to find her. Well, this article I will talk about how to let boys take the initiative to find you:
1. First of all, you have to perceive whether the other person is interested in you
Jimei, your sixth sense is actually very accurate, believe in the sixth sense. That is, whether a person has feelings for you or not you can feel. You can feel the other person's attitude, expression, and actions, even eyes.
If the other person is interested in you, it is simply too easy to get him to find you. You can change from passive to active, that is, take the initiative to chat with each other, how to talk? Follow this formula: topic = [making scene + feeling]. For example, our usual hook-up routine: today I went to the market to buy vegetables, and I saw a person who was too much like you. Although this kind of conversation topic is unbearable, it is very useful. (We're going to take this as a topic to bring up more topics.)
If the other party is willing to like you, it will definitely use this as a breakthrough to continue to chat with you, on the contrary, if the other party is only a very perfunctory answer, without taking the initiative to extend the topic, it is certain that the other party is not interested in you. Then it also shows that you should change people, don't waste time.
2. What is the purpose of the chat? There are two: to enhance [emotional value and information value]. How is it manufactured? Let's take a look at a case:
Me: What are you doing?
Him: Playing
Me: What's the game?
Him: Glory of Kings
Me: Is it fun?
Him: It's ok
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The above is a typical [information value] question-and-answer chat, which is also a boring chat. Chatting like this will only pique your interest and leave the other person with no interest in you. Remember that the purpose of chatting must be both informative and emotionally valuable in order to enhance each other's feelings.
How to make the other person generate emotional value, for example:
Girl: I was confessed today, and then...
Boy: And then what? (Boys who have feelings for you must be impatient to know the answer)
Then you don't rush to reply, but pause for 5 to 10 minutes
Girl: I have something on my side, let's not talk about it!
Boy: (Left alone in the cold wind blowing cold air, he will think about whether you have accepted the other party's confession, and even will be very anxious to know the answer, invisibly, he has emotional investment in you all over the place)
3. Men's psychology is this: they will take the initiative to like, but they will also see if they can get feedback after the initiative. For example, cold her for a few days, to see if the other party will take the initiative to find themselves, usually, as long as the chat atmosphere you created before is very good, the other party is also interested in you, will take the initiative to find. If you don't take the initiative to find it, you don't dare to be interested. This method, Jimei can also be used, first chat with each other in a hot way, and then take the initiative to become passive, to see if the other party will take the initiative to find themselves, if you take the initiative to find yourself, then you can directly pinch. On the contrary, retreat, do not waste time, goodbye.