Nowadays, with the improvement of everyone's material life and the continuous enrichment of spiritual life, it is no longer as simple and rude as in educating children in the past. However, although many parents have ideological ideas about changing their children's education, in practice, it often backfires. Even many parents have specially studied a lot of training on children's development education, including me. Here I will share with you the three stages of boys' growth, hoping to give you some good inspiration.
The first stage is from birth to 6 years old, this age of the boy belongs to the mother, he is "her" child, although the father also plays an important role in it, but he still belongs to her. At this stage, the task of parents is to let the child grow up safely surrounded by love, so that this stage becomes a warm stop in the growth process of the boy.
The second stage is 6-13 years old, the boy feels the call from the inner world and begins to try to become a man. At this time, the boy became more and more like the father in terms of activities of interest and preference. (Although the boy and his mother remained in close contact, the wider world began to recruit like him.) At this stage, the main task of parents is to let the child form a kind character in the process of laughing and playing, while cultivating the child's sense of competition and giving them the skills in this regard, so that he can become a well-rounded person. At this age, boys will be happy to be a man.
The third stage is from the age of 14 to adulthood, at which the boy needs the guidance of a mature man if he is to complete the transition from naivety to maturity. At this time, the parents no longer dominate the boy's life, but they must choose a good guide for the son, otherwise the son will find himself in the same ignorant companions. At this stage, boys have more and more opportunities to participate in adult club activities that will help them learn communication skills and make them responsible, self-respecting and self-loving.
Summary: When boys are teenagers, we need outside help and support. However, the prevailing problem is that teenage teenagers move towards the wider world without a good guide. Therefore, for them, this stage of adolescence and new adulthood is very dangerous. Some boys will never be able to cross this stage, that is, they will never grow up. Most of the reasons for these problems are because we, as parents, do not know that there are several stages in their growth path, so we have not been able to provide them with the right life guidance at the right time.
Finally, do you think these three stages feel the same way? Readers from different viewpoints are also welcome to leave messages to discuss together. ：）