Being kind to others is not giving without limits. When encountering people who are inching forward and even taking revenge, there is no need to retaliate with tit-for-tat, what can be done is to "distinguish one from two wide". Treat people who know how to be grateful with kindness, and your world will be full of spring and blossoms.
"I thought my kindness would change her, but I didn't expect her to be inching forward, what do you say I should do?" In a group, a friend said. for tat, get revenge on her! Immediately someone replied. "Took mine and sent me back, ate mine and spit it out for me... What owed me was made up for me, and stole mine and handed it over to me. Someone directly sent this lyric from "Hip Hop".
After arguing for a while, someone said, "Do you really think tit-for-tat is useful?" "One sentence cooled the atmosphere." Tit-for-tat means hard to hit hard, no matter what the result, it is not only to pay, but also to bear the damage that may be brought to themselves, because the most basic point is "the effect of force is mutual", when you attack each other, you are also bearing the counterattack, not to mention the other party will also fight back.
Since you have chosen to be a kind person, it is doomed that you are not aggressive. The same is true of those who can get an inch on you, and their hands must be longer than yours. So if you choose to fight with him "you die and I live", will it be a gentleman's war between you? Obviously, "the open gun is easy to hide, the dark arrow is difficult to defend", no matter which is strong or weak, you will only be the one who shoots people with dark arrows, who makes you kind.
If you are bitten by the dog you feed every day, will you go to a fight with the dog? If you stumble on a stone, will you kick a few feet in the stone? If you go and fight with a dog, you may continue to be bitten by the dog, and even if you win it, you can't guarantee that at some point in the future, it won't jump out of hiding and bite you. If you go and kick the stone a few times, the stone won't feel pain, and your foot will only hurt more.
All we can do is remember that where there is a dog that does not recognize people, where there is a rock that may stumble on its feet, when we walk by, we will grow snacks and stay away from them. Because you can't change the properties of the dog or the stone itself, you can only change yourself, stay away from the risks, and reduce the chance of getting hurt, instead of thinking of going against the sky and causing bigger trouble.
There is a limit to human kindness, and we are good to others, but we do not give without limits. When we meet those who have gained inches and even revenge, there is no need to retaliate, because this will only lose more, and all you can do is "one and two wide". Use your kindness to treat those who are worthy of their own efforts and know how to be grateful, and your world will be full of spring and blossoms.
Suzhu2022.3.21Yumian County (original works, strictly prohibited infringement)