From birth, he was not loved by his father and rarely received his father's attention. After the divorce of his parents, he was abandoned by his father and no longer contacted.
For decades, he was not recognized by his father as a descendant of the Ying clan.
However, the father is very fond of his half-brother Ying Ruyuan. Not only caring and adding, but also known as ying shi pride.
This contrast is unbearable for anyone, but fortunately, he is kind and simple-minded by nature, and although he feels sorry for his desperate father, he still has feelings, and he has no complaints over the years.
The calmness in his heart allowed him to accept his mediocrity and love the current life, he knew to care for his mother, and he also knew his own shortcomings.
He has also been married and had children happily, he has built his own family with tolerance and kindness, and also gave his mother a warm haven. It protects oneself and warms others.
Batuu, formerly known as Yingru Yong, was born in Beijing in 1990, his father Yingda is a famous director, his mother Song Dandan is a palace actor, and his grandfather is ying Ruocheng, a former minister of culture.
Seeing such a brilliant origin, did you suddenly feel envious and think that this person must be unusual? However, Batuu's fate did not go well.
When we are busy envying other people's origins, perhaps others are also envious that most of us have a happy and complete family.
In 1987, Song Dandan and Yingda entered the palace of marriage two years after becoming acquainted with each other.
In the second year of their marriage, he gave birth to a son, Yingru, also known as Batuu. Although the family background is deep, the little Batu, childhood is regrettable.
His father, Indah, didn't like this newborn life very much at that time, and he felt that he was still a child, how could he become a father? Batuu, who was born to smile, did not make him feel cute, he only felt trouble.
At that time, Yingda had entered the age of establishment, but his career had not been successful, and what bothered him was that he was a by-product of others.
For Yingda, his father Yingruocheng is a former minister of culture, which is quite famous in the cultural circle, and Song Dandan's career is also thriving after marrying himself, and he participated in the Spring Festival Gala very early.
Yingda himself has always been obscure, his career is mediocre, he was called Yingruocheng's son when he was young, and after marriage, he was also known as Song Dandan's husband, always living under the aura of others, it is difficult to become himself, and now there is a son who needs him to be responsible.
He didn't want to be a safe-looking behind-the-scenes dad. For this reason, he is very eager to prove himself, and he spends all day at work, and does not ask questions about his family and his son.
He felt that this silly child was not worth wasting his energy, and this irresponsible attitude made the burden of the family fall on Song Dandan's shoulders.
Song Dandan, who also has a strong sense of enterprise, is naturally dissatisfied with this, she loves her son, and she cannot tolerate her husband's evasion and irresponsibility.
So she proposed a divorce, but was opposed by her father-in-law Yingruocheng, who was reluctant to see his grandson and the separation of the family.
However, this did not last long for the broken relationship between the two, Yingda betrayed Song Dandan and screenwriter Liang Huan behind his back, and his mind had long left the family.
Song Dandan, who lacked the love of her husband, also cheated later, and bluntly said in an interview that her feelings were broken and cheated, and she did not hide it at all. On the third day of the infidelity, she explained the situation to Indah and filed for divorce.
Indah was relieved to hear this, and in 1997, the two ended up cheating on each other.
This year Batuu was seven years old.
It is worth mentioning that Song Dandan did not know at first that Yingda was involved with Liang Huan, the screenwriter of "I Love My Home", so when she divorced, she also felt guilty because of her cheating and did not fight for child custody.
So at first, Batuu followed his father, but when not long after the two divorced, When Yingda announced that he was married to Liang Huan, Song Dandan suddenly realized.
Angry and frustrated, she came to the door on the spot and asked for the map back. Indah, who did not like Batu much at all, pushed the boat along the water, threw Batu to Song Dandan, and said that from now on, we are two families, don't interfere with each other.
Young Batuu does not understand the world of adults, let alone the determination of his biological father to leave. All he knew was that his father, who often didn't come home, hadn't been seen for a long time.
He argued to his mother to find his father, looking at his young son, Song Dandan was also unbearable, he dialed Yingda's phone, told him to find time to come back to see his son, did not expect Yingda to directly refuse, frankly we have divorced, no longer have anything to do with each other.
This response made Song Dandan extremely angry, and she called again, never answering again. Later, the number simply became a blank number.
Song Dandan did not expect that this man would be so desperate, and his own son said that he would throw it away. She was furious and went to Indah's friends and asked them for their phone numbers, but all she got was a cold response.
Desperate, Song Dandan, who can only go home and hold his son, lied to him that his father had something to do. Little Batuu himself understood something, perhaps because his father did not like him.
However, Batuu did not become depressed because of this, he was a simple and kind child without a heart since he was a child. There are always strange things in his mind that make him idle.
Before going to school, this kind of personality was quite liked by my mother, because I didn't cry or make trouble, I didn't have any worries, and I always smiled and he could bring happiness to myself.
However, after entering the school, trouble came, and Batuu, who could not study with peace of mind, became a regular customer criticized by the teacher, and he could always play flowers in class.
In class, he can make trouble in different ways for different classes. His homeroom teacher receives a large number of complaints from teachers of various subjects every day.
Once, he and his classmates and the dormitory teacher were walking on the way back to the dormitory, suddenly convulsed and fell to the ground, the classmates were frightened when they saw the situation, and they all surrounded him, and the dormitory teacher was even more frightened, and for a while he was a little helpless.
In the rush, someone proposed to call 120 quickly, and just when everyone reacted and prepared to call the emergency call, Batuu suddenly stood up and solemnly said to everyone: "I just practice the basic skills of acting."
When his teacher brought up his deeds, Batuu was skeptical, really? Is it me? You can't be mistaken. The teacher quickly stressed: "There will be no other students."
Speaking of these reasons, the teacher still knows him very well, thinking that "he may be trying to attract everyone's attention."
Batuu, though simply without thought, is not without emotion. His father's departure and his mother's busy work made him lack the attention and love of his family since he was a child.
This need lurked in his heart, manifested in a seemingly senseless way. It seems to be a demon, but in fact, it is just like this can attract everyone's attention and bring happiness to everyone.
He is not stupid, nor is he mentally ill, a simple and kind child, even to attract everyone's attention, is also in this self-deprecating way, will it be a little sad to say this.
But unfortunately, this hidden loneliness in the depths of the heart, Song Dandan, who was a mother at the time, did not understand. She's a very strong person.
After the divorce, Yingda soon married Xinhuan and gave birth to her second son, Yingru.
Greatly stimulated, in addition to the same rapid marriage with Zhao Yuji, she is not far behind in her career. From the 1990s to the beginning of the 21st century, the Spring Festival Gala was basically the stage for Song Dandan and Zhao Benshan.
A series of sketches and classic works of film and television dramas, it can be said that Song Dandan can suppress Yingda in his career. But the secret struggle between the two people is not limited to this.
Since giving birth to her son Yingruyuan with Liang Huan, Yingda has changed her previous image of not being responsible for her father. Do your best to accompany your young son to grow up.
Spend time, spend money, meet what your son needs, and make every effort to cultivate Yingruyan into a talent. He said bluntly that only when Ying Ruyuan became a pillar, he could be considered worthy of the family inheritance and the surname "Ying".
So he invested resources in Yingruyuan at any cost, and his son had a talent for ice hockey, so he sent him to the United States to cultivate, personally accompanied him, and did all the logistics.
The son also lived up to expectations, and has now grown into the captain of the junior hockey national team and has been signed up for the Winter Olympics.
It can be said that Yingruyuan has become a part of Yingda's cause.
In this regard, Song Dandan is dissatisfied, because in her opinion, Batuu is the same as your Yingda's biological child, you can't treat it equally, but you can't be so ruthless and unjust.
Yingda's praise and pride for Yingruyan on the show are like a challenge to Song Dandan. How could she be willing to concede defeat?
In her view, Batuu, who was abandoned by his ruthless father since childhood, became a dragon under his own cultivation, which is the biggest blow to Yingda.
Therefore, when his children did not perform well in school, Song Dandan was extremely anxious and angry, and did not blame Batuu for teaching lessons.
If the domestic classroom can't go on, they will find a way to let Batuu stay in the ocean. From a very young age, Batuu went to school in the United Kingdom and the United States.
But the simple and kind character also reveals mediocrity to some extent, Batuu can not calm down in China to learn, and it is naturally difficult to change in the United States.
His inner loneliness and lack of love not only did not make up for it, but increased. The education of studying abroad did not succeed, and finally I had to return to my home country.
The mediocrity of his son made Song Dandan very upset for a while, and he belittled his son many times in front of many people in the show, "You look at you, this will not be, that will not be, how I have a waste."
Song Dandan's heart has not been able to let go of the obsession with his son, he found that Batuu is actually delicate and sensitive, has a certain talent for acting, and may be able to enter the entertainment circle.
So with his resources and background of years of hard work, he took Batu on various variety shows, and the kind and simple Batu gradually became known.
In addition to variety shows, Batuu also starred in TV dramas and received good reviews. In 2012, when Batuu starred in "The Happy Life of Kintaro", he met Wang Bogu, an actor who was seven years older than himself.
The two met when they were playing games, chatted very speculatively, and slowly the two people gradually became acquainted.
Although there is a certain age difference, there is no gap between the two, and there are many common topics, and finally they really came together.
But song dandan did not agree much about this family affair, because in her opinion, this girl had many habits that she was tired of, such as smoking. Song Dandan is still a more traditional artist, and it is somewhat mustard for women to smoke.
And as an authentic Beijing girl, Wang Bogu's straightforward personality also seems to be relatively strong, coupled with a large age gap.
She told her son to think well on his own, to fall in love is to run to get married, if not to give up early, do not delay others. Batuu has his own considerations, and his feelings for Bogu are sincere.
Song Dandan also did not arbitrarily oppose, but left room for his son to develop himself. Gradually, the two people withstood the test of time and entered the palace of marriage.
In 2018, the two gave birth to a son, and Batu, who has a family, has gradually become more mature and stable. He stopped relying on his mother to stand behind her and began to start a business with his wife by bringing goods. He has been able to stand alone.
Now the two have a second child. Life has already entered a new page.
In order to take care of their grandchildren, the elderly Song Dandan and her husband Zhao Yuji have long stopped working and moved into their son's home, and now the family is neat and happy.
That simple and kind little Batu, has grown up, as a father of two children, he used his own way and efforts to personally build a warm haven for himself and his mother.
Although Batuu had a deep family background, this did not bring him anything personally. The changes in the family, the injustice and despair of his father, have been hurting him since he was a child. He's actually an unfortunate man.
But fortunately, he has a kind and simple heart, his world is simple, is not troubled by troubles, Song Dandan said of her son in the show:
"Although he doesn't study well and can't concentrate, although he has many shortcomings, he can offset the previous shortcomings with this one advantage, because then he will have a happy life."
It reminds me of a saying that when someone says about you, if you don't care, then their language, no matter how vicious, has nothing to do with you, and if you care and remember, then those words will hurt you forever.
What the world is like depends on you and my heart, what kind of heart it is, and what the world is like.
In Batuu's mind, no matter how much injustice he encountered, no matter how mediocre he was, he didn't care, and none of this bothered him, so the so-called scrambling of those mortals had no meaning to him.
This is the protection of oneself, based on not harming others. So from this point of view, Batuu is wise.