Chicken soup in the heart, the word in China has undergone a rollercoaster-like change, once he was the memory of countless people's youth, the confused light, especially when "Reader" prevailed, the word chicken soup for the soul, is simply a panacea.
But this bowl of sweet and delicious, refreshing chicken soup did not last long, and was quickly pulled off the altar, but this was far from enough, after a long criticism of chicken soup for the soul, now the word chicken soup in the heart has been completely reduced to a derogatory term.
No one mentions chicken soup anymore in modern times, and many of the articles that look beautiful and are very tall are often said to be chicken soup texts, which means that you are right, but worthless.
Can't change others, just change yourself, in fact, it was a very classic chicken soup text, which was regarded as a guideline by countless people, especially those who just entered the society, after arriving in a strange environment, this sentence is very effective, comforting the hearts of many people.
But now that the aura of chicken soup has faded, let's look at this sentence again, whether he is a correct sentence, or just a correct nonsense.
First of all, talk about this premise, you can't change others, people are social animals, you must live in a specific group of people, if you are very uncomfortable with a certain environment, or very unaccustomed to a certain person, at this time, you have no way to change others, so your pain will arise.
In order to alleviate your pain, since you can't change others, there is only one way left, that is, to change yourself, which is actually a correct nonsense, because his premise is that you can't change others, of course, you can only change yourself.
This premise contains a helpless result, you know, it is very painful for people to change themselves, and it is very difficult to break with an old self.
The thoughts, appearances, and living habits that I have formed are all formed by myself in the past few decades, and they are all easily changed.
The harm of this chicken soup is that he makes you believe that others cannot be changed, and this preconceived notion is very terrible, and it will make you fall into the embarrassing situation of wanting to change yourself without making any effort.
The correct approach is that I don't change myself first, I am what I am, it is too painful to change, we must first try to see if we can adapt without changing ourselves, if we really can't adapt, then try to change others.
To be a strong person from the mentality, many things, do not say from the beginning, it is difficult to change others, it is very difficult, if you face the difficulties, then the wronged can only be yourself.
The biggest disadvantage of chicken soup is that it is too simple to say a lot of things, it is easy to change ourselves, we are not chameleons, when faced with complex problems, our first reaction must not be to withdraw, must not be to think of changing our own views.
Your own views can be changed, not can not be changed, but you must try all the possibilities, after doing your best, you can say, it is really not possible, I will change myself.
Many times, it is useless to just look at some so-called aphorisms and aphorisms, you know a lot of truths, but you still have a bad life, and hands-on practice is the only correct way.