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In life, everyone needs to understand that true self-confidence comes from your inner state, and the more positive and creative your inner state is, the more confident you are.
Many people think that self-confidence is innate, in fact, self-confidence is the embodiment of our inner state, if we can adjust our state from the heart, naturally you will be invincible.
So how do we adjust our state, we can work hard from several aspects.
The first state, the transition from complaining to being proactively responsible
Talk to a lot of people with low self-esteem, and you will find that the more inferior a person is, the easier it is to complain. Complaining about the bad family of origin, complaining about their looks, complaining about the people around them, and so on.
People with low self-esteem are accustomed to complaining, allowing themselves to look down more and more on themselves, and this kind of complaining thinking, in addition to easing some emotional pressure, is not much help for our personal growth.
Truly confident people understand that even if we don't have it now, it doesn't mean we won't have it later. The most important thing for us is not to live in the past all the time, but to choose to face our own lives in a state of active responsibility.
When you are willing to take the initiative to face life, you will find that life is not as bad as you think, we will take the initiative to take responsibility, slowly find the dominance of life, you will find that your confidence in life can be ignited.
Psychology has found that the worse a person gets into is also because of complaining or self-blame.
If we continue to use negative emotions against ourselves under setbacks, not only can not help us out of the trough, but will let us continue to slump, only learn to face the present with a positive state, we can gradually come out of the trough.
The real strength comes from our inner state, when we see that our family conditions are not as good as others, our looks are not as good as others, we do not continue to be angry, but believe that through their own efforts we will one day improve.
By facing our own lives with an improved state, we can gradually say goodbye to inferiority, but make our lives better and better through hard work and actions.
Second, learn to care for yourself and say goodbye to fatalism
In this world, if we want to learn to say goodbye to inferiority, the most important thing is to learn to care for ourselves. Self-care is an effective way to help us get out of a slump.
In fact, psychology has found that many people have depression and anxiety disorders because of our attacks on ourselves.
When the external pressure to survive becomes greater, instead of caring for ourselves, we attack ourselves first.
We think we can't do this, and we can't do it. When you keep doubting yourself, our own energy will become very weak, not only unable to help ourselves, but also unable to let ourselves continue to grow.
Learning to care for yourself is to jump out of self-aggression and treat yourself in terms of self-care. Am I really that bad, in fact, it is not, I believe that I have a lot of advantages in myself.
Then we can make a list of five or ten reasons we can appreciate, and then motivate ourselves and tell ourselves that we can too.
In fact, true growth comes not from the power of negation, but from the power of positivity, from the heart that we believe we can do it.
When you know how to care for yourself, you will not take the denial of yourself by others as true, but will treat it objectively. And you learn to be continuously self-caring, your inner strength will also be enhanced, and naturally you will become confident.
Third, learn to find the meaning of life and become the creator of life
The most important thing in life is to find the meaning of life, and life is only once for everyone. And finding the meaning of life is the most important thing.
When you understand the meaning of life, your life is like opening and hanging. Good life is guided by the meaning of life.
And the meaning of life must be found by ourselves. Psychology has found that everyone may have low self-esteem, but inferiority is not terrible, what is terrible is that we deny our own lives.
By continuing to deny our lives, our lives become very incompetent. Only by continuing to affirm our own lives and continue to believe in the meaning and value of our own lives can we come out of inferiority.
Every life longs to be needed, in fact, many lives fall into a state of depression and inferiority, often we can't find where our value is, we can't find ourselves needed, we think we are abandoned by the whole world.
When you are willing to believe in the value of your own life, when you are willing to affirm your own life, when you continue to know how to bring value to others with your actions, you will understand that the meaning of life is found in serving others.
Everyone craves need to be recognized, and when you are able to provide your own help to others, the meaning of your life will be sublimated.
Nietzsche used his life to awaken the lives of many people, and everyone's life was awakened by people. As we continue to help more people move from low-energy life states to higher-energy states, we will also find that you will become the leader and creator of life before you know it.
Good life comes through self-creation, but also through the life you serve others, and when you continue to do it to sublimate, your inferiority will also say goodbye, and you will see more abilities and better states of the self through continuous creation.
Today's topic: Do you think that self-confidence and inner state are closely related, welcome to discuss and communicate.